The fantasy ofÂ PrinceÂ CharmingÂ andÂ HappilyÂ EverÂ AfterÂ create a false foundation for relationship.
This fantasy has youâ¦
1. Enter into relationship with false assumptions and false personas.Â
As a result you develop âpoints of connectionâ that keep you from being your
authentic magical self.
2. Look to relationship as a source of security and status to establish stability in your life.
As a result you develop âstability pointsâ that keep you locked in your own cage.
3. Say to each other things like, âDonât leave me,â and âDonât change.âÂ
As a result you limit yourself as you try to keep your partner locked in their cage.
All of this is a set up for failure.
When youâve experienced abuse, you tend toÂ re-createÂ these patterns in your relationships. This can range from theÂ dramaticÂ to theÂ subtle. The subtlest yet most pervasive pattern of abuse isÂ âdivorcing yourself.â
In other words: your needs and desires arenât considered in your relationship â by you or your partner. You base your relationship on theÂ lieÂ that you donât matter. Relationship ends up being aÂ jobÂ or something youÂ tolerateÂ rather than aÂ joyÂ and something thatÂ enlivensÂ you.
So how do you move beyond the points of connection and stability points?
How do you create a radically alive relationship?
Join me and Special Guest Susan Lazer Hart for my radio show, âBeyond Abuse, Beyond Therapy, Beyond Anything,â and discover the path to right relationship that is enlivening and limitless.
Click here for more informationÂ and read the official article here.Â