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The 10 Reasons Why You Need Emotional Intelligence

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The 10 Reasons Why You Need Emotional Intelligence

Managers account for 70% variance in employee engagement surveys.

What are the top reasons you need to develop and enhance your Emotional Intelligence (EI)? After working with thousands of executives and leaders and focusing on helping them raise their Emotional Intelligence for the last 20 years, both individually and in their organizations, I wanted to summarize some of the key benefits for you.

Below are the top 10 reasons to raise your EI or EQ.

  1. Your leadership is desperately needed now: ei - goleman-sized.jpgGallup (2015) has found that only 10% of workers have the talent combination to be great managers. 40% of organizations say they do not have enough skilled or trained leaders to fill spots for the future.
  2. You are your team’s “Emotional Thermostat”: Your mood and temperament influence everyone on your team more so than you imagine. Gallup (2015) has found that managers account for up 70% of the variance in employee engagement surveys.
  3. You will have a competitive advantage:.We know the further you go up in the organization the more you use Emotional Intelligence to be successful rather than your expertise and your Intelligence Quotient (IQ). Research studies show that EI is the critical success factor anywhere from 50% to 85% depending on the study.
  4. You are on autopilot: Most of us operate on autopilot much of the time. We take short cuts rather than thinking hard or long about things. Working on your Emotional Intelligence entails taking a hard look at your capabilities and getting off automatic to be more intentional and exceptional.
  5. You have blind spots: We all have them but if you don’t know what they are you will continue to undermine your success. Marshall Goldsmith, one of the top executive coaches with Fortune 100 executives, from his research says 70% of people think they are in the top 10%. This is a major blind spot. Using EI coaching, assessments, 360-degree feedback and interviews you can establish what are your blind spots and begin to shed light on them.
  6. You and your organization will be more productive: The basis of the EI competencies goes back to Dr. David McClelland of Harvard and then the Hay Group and Multi-Health Systems studying what top 10% performers do differently than average performers. Now we have a rich database of what behaviors and skills to nurture to be a top 10% performer.

The Human Capital Institute and Multi-Health Systems Organizations looked at the Return on Investment (ROI) data and surveyed 784 respondents from over 500 organizations worldwide in 2013. They found:

Organizations that value and widely use Emotional Intelligence are 3.2x more effective at leadership development. There is a 31% gap in leadership development effectiveness between organizations where EI is valued, versus those in which it is not. They found that organizations that measure EI, report 16% more positive revenue growth. (HCI, 2013)

7. You will make better decisions: In today’s world we are all “crazy busy”. Some people call this a VUCA environment which is Volatile, Uncertain, Complex and Ambiguous. To be outstanding you need to be able to make effective decisions in the moment with as much information and knowledge as you can gain. It is a matter of getting accurate input to improve your output. The EI input is knowing yourself and assessing others quickly so your decisions can be better. This kind of strategic intelligence is highly valued by our military we have worked with. It is also a critical skill for any executive that is making thousands of decisions a day. The better you can quickly assess and adjust in this VUCA environment, the more successful you will be.

Our formula for top performance that we share with leaders is:

               Empathy X Insight X Clarity = Top 10 % Performance.

Whether it is training or coaching the focus is to gain more clarity into your strengths and weakness and those of your direct reports or teams. Making micro-initiatives can have a macro-impact.

8. People will trust and connect with you better: Being authentic, taking time for your people will allow you to be a more credible leader. In less than a second, we are able to assess whether we trust someone. Trust, we know, is the starting point for effective conversations and relationships.

We are wired to connect with others as many neuroscientists and authors have told us, but we often sabotage ourselves and others for some of the above reasons and we don’t make the time to connect with people. In another blog I wrote about the managers’ default is to find fault. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/leading-emotional-intelligence/2013…

We know from the engagement literature from Gallup and Bob Nelson that people 1) want to feel they have a seat at the special table, 2) their opinions count and 3) they are acknowledged for the good work they do, to name a few of the engagement factors. Focusing on your EI can help you build strong and committed relationships.

9. You will develop more leaders in your organization: “Once you connect you will better able to direct.” Knowing others strengths, capabilities and being clear about what is your vision, what you want from people and utilizing their strengths can help make you a “best boss.” People often say their best boss empowered them, stretched them, trusted them and they would do anything for this person. Is that you, if not, work on your Emotional Intelligence now?

10. You will hire better: Being aware of your EI competencies, those of your direct reports and which ones are most important for your organization will help you hire talent that already has these competencies. Gallup has found that:

Companies that hire managers based on talent realize a 48% increase in profitability, a 22% increase in productivity, a 30% increase in employee engagement scores, a 17% increase in customer engagement scores and a 19% decrease in turnover. (Gallup, 2015)

In the next blog, I will go over the top ways to raise your Emotional Intelligence.

In Leading with Emotional Intelligence there are over 100 strategies that leaders can do to increase and sustain their performance.  A few micro initiatives can have a macro impact. For free EI tools go to: www.truenorthleadership.com/ei-central

Making Care Choices: Be Informed to Be Forearmed

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Making Care Choices: Be Informed to Be Forearmed

The phone rings. You answer and hear: “your mom or dad fell and broke his/her hip” Your heart sinks. You knew they was less steady on their feet and were afraid that one day you might be getting this phone call. If they live in the vicinity and they’re already in the hospital, you rush to get there. You frantically start making calls to huddle with family or friends to discuss a plan. You may even hop on a plane if they live at a distance.

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After the hospital, he/she will most likely have to receive therapy. Where???? Usually a short-term rehabilitation unit in a skilled nursing facility is recommended. How do you decide which one? The social worker or hospital discharge planner comes with glossy marketing brochures and talk of 5 stars. What could be better????

But once your loved one arrives you find that that it wasn’t what it appeared to be. The consequences can be ghastly.

The Office of the Inspector General issued a report indicating that 30% of all Medicare beneficiaries who enter a skilled nursing facility experience some kind of harm in the first 30 days. In almost 60% of the cases, that harm was preventable. Most older adults will spend at least 1 day in a skilled nursing facility; however, most often, the stay ranges from 2 ½ weeks to 2 ½ months for short-term rehabilitation.

How many people have been in, or know someone who has been in, this or a similar situation? It could be with a parent, spouse, close friend or other family member. It could be a fall, a stroke, a heart attack, an episode because of overall weakness, declining cognition or a number of other situations or accidents. You are not prepared for this and it truly is a crisis! NO ONE plans for crises but somehow because of the human condition, they are most likely inevitable; as our loved one’s age, as we age, the probability becomes greater.

Do we want to think of or dwell on these circumstances? Of course, the answer is a resoundingly NO. We couldn’t go about our lives if we were constantly thinking of a crisis that may lie ahead.

The fact is that we do plan for these events. You may be thinking, how so?

Despite the obligation, we carry car insurance. Can’t get it once in an accident.

We know the importance of health insurance, indeed, the national debate on the need for every person to have it is testament in and of itself of its importance.

Many among us purchase life or burial insurance. Are we waiting for or anticipating our passing? Absolutely not. But we recognize the importance of having those expenses covered when the time inevitably arrives.

Here is the question? Why are we not arming ourselves with the crucial information to make decisions for our loved one’s care, or our own care, in advance of a crisis? Is it because it is unpleasant? But as explained, that we are all doing this in one way or another for other circumstances.

Many of us don’t want to think of our parents as vulnerable, yet we are aware that they are becoming increasingly frail as they age. Many are receiving care at home. In other circumstances, adult children or other relatives are participating in, or taking on, caregiving responsibilities. These people are truly unsung heroes.

Yet, despite the circumstances in front of them, they still do not seek out the information they will need when faced with any of the potential crisis situations described above. Indeed, they are busy with their lives; oftentimes sandwiched between job, family responsibilities and their loved one’s care.

It behooves us to seek out the important information we will need for a variety of the inevitable situations with which we will be faced. Lack of planning can cost valuable time and money, and can certainly have adverse consequences on you or your loved one’s care.

You will need valuable information in order to make the best choices and effectively advocate for you or your loved one’s care.

Plan by Choice and Not by Crisis. Indeed, Being Forewarned is Being Forearmed!

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Creativity

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Human beings by nature are creative. We have however, recorded everything that has happened in our past and linked it to our creative process, leading us to erroneously form the point of view that the creative process itself is a function of our struggling, our painful past or our “neurosis.” And if we were to lose that neurosis, our mind thinks that our artistic abilities would be lost as well.

A woman once attended one of our seminars and balked at the idea of letting go of her emotional pain. The sudden loss of her husband had been a major turning point in her life. The time following his death was extremely painful, sad and yet creative, too. Thrust by unfortunate circumstance into a completely different life, the new widow found herself surprisingly capable, increasingly directed and vitally alive. A year later, she was still nurturing the pain and sadness as well as her new found sense of herself. She was afraid, she explained, that if she let go of the pain, anger and sadness she would lose what she had gained in the past year. The shocking loss and ensuing pain had acted as a catalytic agent which sparked her creativity. Her mind then stored all aspects of this time period, and compressed them into a single strategy for success. As we coached her to look, she discovered she was now ready and willing to have the creativity without the pain.

With awareness, you can melt the aspects of your way of being that do not truly produce the results you want, in effect distilling the creative process. No longer does the word “struggling” have to be linked to artist. No longer do pain and neurosis have to be the companion to creativity.

Our creativity is inhibited by past decisions that we have made about our own ability to create. Let’s say, for instance, while growing up, you were not a very good writer of book reports in school. Perhaps one day you got a report back and written on it was a bright red “D” with the words, “Below Average!” The mind records the physical sensations that accompany the grade and also a statement that goes something like, “I am not very good at writing. I am Below Average!”. This statement is available to play back every time you write a new document. The statement may have been true when you were in grammar school, but it may not be true for the adult person that you have become. The problem is that every time you sit down to create something, that recording of, “I am not very good at writing. I am Below Average”, can jump forward between you and the blank page.

Another thing that hinders the creative process is our own internal self-governor or critic. Looking over something you have written, for instance and evaluating it for merit, syntax, grammar, spelling, etc. is obviously a useful thing to do, but timing is everything. Many people apply the process of judging and evaluating their work as they go. This blocks the flow, stops continuity and does not allow for ideas to complete themselves because the sentence, paragraph or idea is being amended even as it is coming into being.

Webster’s dictionary defines “create” as: to cause to come into existence; bring into being; make; originate. Whether you are an artist, working with your hands, applying paint to canvas, writing music or standing on a stage and bringing a character to life it is important to include one detail. The creative process is like the gestation period for a child which one hopes will be born in good health. A little bit of poison can go a long way towards altering the health of the child. Our self-judgments act like poison. If you want to expand your ability to be creative, practice the art of being kind to yourself. Contrary to what some believe, being self critical and hard on yourself does not lead to better quality work. If you are not vigorously chastising mistakes you will not suddenly become complacent and let your work slide. Rather you may find yourself encouraged to take bigger risks and watch as what seems to be a mistake to the judgmental mind turns into something shiny and new that was never even conceived of before.

When one truly creates, one stands in the moment and interacts directly with his or her environment. Not through the filter of thought. Not through one’s personal history. It is a direct expression of the being.

Since 1987, internationally acclaimed authors, seminar leaders, podcast/radio show hosts and business consultants Ariel and Shya Kane have acted as guides, leading people through the swamp of the mind into the clarity and brilliance of the moment. Find out more about the Kanes, their seminars in NYC, Germany and Costa Rica, the Say YES to Your Life! Meetups their work has inspired, their Being Here podcast or join their email newsletter. Also get information about their award-winning books. Their newest book, Being Here…Too, is available on Amazon.comBarnesandNoble.com and everywhere books are sold.

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Health Censorship – A Conspiracy: Is this podcast domestic terrorism?

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Health Censorship – A Conspiracy: Is this podcast domestic terrorism?

There has been massive health information censorship in the US.  Any attempts to  put a theory as to why this is happening could result in an accusation of domestic terrorism per the quote and article below.

Health documentaries were removed from Amazon Prime reportedly at the request of California Congressman Adam Schiff. Facebook executives tell Congress that they will censor health information as is desired. Google is burying health information making it extremely difficult to find. They indicate that they will bury information on GMO and alternative approaches to cancer at the same time the US is rapidly pushing GMO on the world.  Occupy Health host’s film on nutrition The Big Secret was censored from Amazon Prime at the same time Congressman Schiff’s request. . Health videos were censored from youtube (cited as spam), Accounts and websites were hacked as well (see more on Joseph Mercola’s website 7/20/19)  and (can be found on https://vimeo.com/ondemand/thebigsecret?utm_source=email&utm_medium=vod-receipt-201602&utm_campaign=29546)  Is this censorship a coincidence or is there an underlying agenda?   Conspiracy expert Andy Thomas will elucidate why this censorship is taking place on Occupy Health in the podcast Health Info censorship: a conspiracy? on the Health and Wellness Channel.   Will the public wake up before it is too late?  Will the FBI see this podcast as an act of domestic terrorism?

“In May, Michael C. McGarrity, the FBI’s assistant director of the counterterrorism division, told Congress the bureau now “classifies domestic terrorism threats into four main categories: racially motivated violent extremism, anti-government/anti-authority extremism, animal rights/environmental extremism, and abortion extremism,” a term the bureau uses to classify both pro-choice and anti-abortion extremists.”

The Wisdom Keepers

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The Wisdom Keepers

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What is aging and ageism?

Ageism is defined as prejudice or discrimination on the basis of a person’s age. Aging is the process of growing old. The word “old” in the definition of aging creates an attitude and predisposes a prejudice towards older people.

Declining years is a misnomer. Age does not decline, it progresses, it advances. We are progressing from the moment we are born; starting an uphill climb from  the lowest levels thereby progressing onward and upward.

The very phrase ‘declining years’ sets up a way of thinking. It would be more appropriate to say we are continuing on the path of life’s journey and are in advancing years. A person’s health, physical or cognitive ability may decline, but they continue to advance in years. The expression “over the hill” contributes to the idea of a person being in their declining years. Do we reach our peak at some predetermined age and continue a downward descent from that point? Who determines the peak of the hill?  When do the declining years begin? Is it some arbitrary number; 60’s; 70’s; 80’s? Who determines that number? Is it the same for everyone?

Jared Diamond, UCLA professor of geography and physiology. stated that “the repositories of knowledge are the memories of old people”. In fact, Native Americans have been known to refer to their elders as “wisdom keepers” This was especially true in a pre-illiterate society. Though we are far from a pre-illiterate society the availability of search engines allows us to have vast amounts of knowledge both on demand and at our fingertips. But the richness of the experience comes from a person who has lived many years enduring many of life’s hardships and circumstances. Consider the example of the young brilliant character played by Matt Damon in the movie “Good Will Hunting” He is able to recite poetry, sonnets and brilliant passages from the great classics. The mature psychotherapist played by Robin Williams tells him that the words he’s reciting have no meaning because, without living life, without the experiences, the words are empty. He has no reference point, no understanding of what it feels like to have those experiences and therefore, cannot begin to understand the true meaning of those words.

We don’t realize that the attitudes about older people is deeply rooted in our verbiage and our culture. Questions on applications such as: “how old are you?” continually reinforces attitudes towards the word “old” When someone asks about your age you may say I’m ___yearsold.There is at least one language with which I’m acquainted in which the question posed seems more appropriate. The question in Spanish” Quantos anos tienes usted” ‘how many years to you have?” are completely neutral They carry with them no connotation other than the years you have acquired.

Wine becomes finer as it ages…it becomes more robust as the flavors ripen and have a chance to mature. We as people are equally deserving of similar adjectives.

Consider these paradoxical scenarios. The high school or college student who reaches his/her senior year is considered to have achieved a level of accomplishment. Yet, we do not ascribe reaching an advanced age with that same level of accomplishment. We exalt longevity and mourn premature loss. But somehow there is a contradiction in our attitudes, care and the treatment we provide our elders when achieve longevity.

How many have remarked to someone or have been told, “You look good for your age?” I know I have and until recently always thought it a compliment. But what does that imply? What is the expectations in looks or behavior at any age? For that matter, what about the phrase that a person has not aged well? Does that expression imply the person who looks in a way that one WOULD expect for a particular age is somehow to blame? What is the expectation of how you should look, what you should do or be, or what you are are capable of doing or being, at any age?

American culture is a discarding culture. When a car begins to break down after it has accumulated many miles we discard it.  But that is a thing, and we are people. It appears that because an older person may no longer be contributing to the work force, they have outlived their usefulness and therefore are no longer needed. This phenomenon leads to lack of dignity and respect, poor treatment and quality of care for our elders. We should not be discarding those among us who have worked for and built this country in whatever way or to whatever degree. Many among us have sacrificed their lives and personal safety in jobs or war for our country. And, indeed, they gave birth to the next generation, none of us would be here if not for them. Why do they now not matter?

This is not about us or them. For after all, we are talking about our future selves. What do we expect and want for ourselves in our advancing years?

 

“The Voice for Eldercare Advocacy”

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The Day Henry Met: Season Two – Explore Life and Friendship. Be Curious. Learn from Others!

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The Day Henry Met: Season Two – Explore Life and Friendship. Be Curious. Learn from Others!

Every day Henry meets something new! I wonder what Henry’s going to meet today? Henry is a 4-year-old boy who always wants to learn and find out more. In each episode, Henry has a friendly chat with whatever he meets and discovers something new…”Hello, Caterpillar. How do you turn into a butterfly?”  “Hello, Bear. What is hibernation?” “Hello, Telescope. What is a constellation?” No matter what Henry meets, they’re always delighted to talk, laugh and share their amazing world with him. After finding out so many amazing things about his new friends, Henry lets his imagination run wild and imagines himself. As a Paleontologist discovering dinosaurs. As a skateboarder learning how to jump, flip and grind. As a show jumper to help a horse win a top prize. As a teacher learning all about school. As a detective solving cases. And more! KIDS FIRST! Film Critic Selene W. comments, “Henry is an inquisitive and playful little boy who loves to learn!  Every day he meets new friends, whether they are a human, animal or an object, they are all of interest to him.”  Ethan P. adds, “I like this DVD because the music is very catchy and the episodes are short and entertaining… The moral of these episodes is not let people, well in this case things, underestimate your abilities to do something you want to do or be.  Henry is always positive; he can do whatever his imagination tells him to do.” Siaki S. wraps it up with, “I like this DVD and it reminds me to be more like Henry – be creative, active and enjoy the moment that is given to us. Henry reminds us to never give up and that is true in life.” See their full reviews below.

 

The Day Henry Met: Season Two

By Selene W., KIDS FIRST! Film Critic, Age 11

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Henry is an inquisitive and playful little boy who loves to learn!  Every day he meets new friends, whether they are a human, animal or an object, they are all of interest to him.  The Day Henry Met DVD has 26 episodes to inspire curiosity.  Who or what will Henry meet next?

 

My favorite episode is The Day Henry Met… A Dinosaur Bone as I love the museum setting and the fact that he travels back in time.  This episode is both educational and fun.  There are so many good moments in this series including The Day Henry Met… a Violin, a Tennis Racquet and an Ice Cream Van.  Can’t forget The Day Henry MetA Comic BookSuper Henry appears to make the city safe and happy.  Love all the fun characters and situations in this episode.

 

The voices in this series reflect all of the diverse characters that Henry meets and really bring the characters to life.  This series, directed by Gary Gill, is playful and will appeal to younger children.  The illustrations are reflective of children’s drawings and are quite appealing.  It is so imaginative that it makes you view the world around you in a different light as Henry talks to whomever or whatever he meets each day.

 

The message of this series is to explore life, friendship, be curious and learn from those around you.  There is something to learn in every situation, even if you are with a dustbin or a sponge!

 

I rate this DVD 4 out of 5 stars and recommend it for ages 3 to 8.  Reviewed by Selene W., KIDS FIRST! Film Critic. For more reviews by youth, visit kidsfirst dot org.

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The Day Henry Met; Season 2
By Ethan P., KIDS FIRST!, Film Critic, Age 10

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I like this DVD because the music is very catchy and the episodes are short and entertaining. The Day Henry Met; Season Two has 26 episodes of cute little stories.

 

The storyline is about a 4-year-old, red-head boy named Henry, who has a big imagination.  In every episode Henry meets something new.  He talks to different objects, animals or things.  Once Henry interacts with the objects such as a violin, a skateboard, a camera, a horse or a bear, these things or animals make Henry’s imagination go wild.  For example, Henry imagines such things as being a conductor or a detective.  Henry also wants to learn and find out more about the objects he interacts with.  At the end of each episode, Henry’s mom calls him and Henry’s imagination ends by him saying goodbye to the objects he was talking to.

 

The animation style of this DVD is simple and plain, looking as if it is hand drawn. Basically, all the objects have eyes and a mouth, including the house.  What caught my attention is that Henry has a voice like a 12-year-old.  He sounds much older than a little kid.  I like how friendly his chats are with the different animals and objects.  The episodes are so short that I didn’t lose interest while watching them.  My favorite episode is “The Day Henry Met A Dustbin” because, out of all the episodes, this particular one is the most realistic one for my age.  Henry wants to be a garbage man so he can help his trash can and all the other trash cans in his neighborhood to be emptied, because the garbage man who had that route is sick and cannot pick up the trash that day.

 

The moral of these episodes is not let people, well in this case things, underestimate your abilities to do something you want to do or be.  Henry is always positive; he can do whatever his imagination tells him to do.

 

I give this DVD 4 out of 5 stars and recommend it for ages 3 to 8, but adults can watch it with their kids and might find it interesting.  This DVD is available now, so look for it.

 

The Day Henry Met Season 2

By Siaki S., KIDS FIRST!, Film Critic, Age 16

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This series of episodes is definitely full of laughs and fun to watch, which I didn’t expect it to be. It took me by surprise.  This DVD is definitely colorful, entertaining and a big “yes” to capture younger kids’ attention spans quickly. The show is produced and directed by Susan Broe and Gary Gill who are definitely tuned into the younger audience.

 

This story follows a little 4-year-old boy, Henry, who is eager and excited about life and learning new things. He’s always discovering interesting facts and tactics in every episode. One of my favorite episodes is called “Running Shoes,” because Henry becomes an athlete, as well as an opponent to the running shoes, to help the running shoes compete against himself in the 100 meter dash and finish the competition. Although the shoes are just a pair of shoes, he wants to give the shoes meaning. As Henry is inches away from winning, he scurries over to the running shoes to put them on and finish the race.

 

I like this DVD and it reminds me to be more like Henry – be creative, active and enjoy the moment that is given to us. Henry reminds us to never give up and that is true in life.

 

I give this film 5 out of 5 stars and recommend it for ages 2 to 10, as well as adults. Adults will enjoy it all the messages that remind us to be better and always try harder – to be just like Henry in many different ways. This DVD is available now, so look for it.

 

 

 

Can you pick up the pieces

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Can you pick up the pieces

 

The story is too familiar. You are involved in a long term relationship or marriage. It usually starts out wonderful, full of joy and excitement as you pursue your hopes and dreams. You are ready to take on the world together. Then life happens. Stress at work; money issues; children’s needs; losing a job; issues with in-laws; health concerns. The list goes on and on. The feelings of joy starts to fade. You didn’t sign up for this! You stop communicating with each other, I mean really communicating and connecting, not just talking at each other. The relationship and your life become a grind. You start going through the motions.

You start to think, there has to be a better way. Chances are your partner feels the same. One of you finds a kindred spirit, a friend, an associate, someone with whom you can share your frustrations. You tell yourself, it is nothing serious we’re just talking. The more you talk and share with your kindred spirit, the less you share with your partner. Sooner or later you cross the line. You are hoping to make things better, but they are about to become worse. Heart break, separation, betrayal, divorce.

Since my book When the Wife Cheats was released, I have spoken to dozens of men and women whose resolution is simply to “move on” from betrayal. This one is not so easy. Betrayal comes in many forms. We have all been betrayed by a friend or co-worker or a trusted employee. Although these betrayals hurt, we are able to move on fairly quickly. However, it is not so easy when the betrayal is your spouse or life partner. I wish I had the answer—I don’t. I can only share what has helped me.

Whether you want to or not, you cannot escape the grief process (shock, denial, anger, bargaining, guilt, depression, and acceptance). I know because I tried. Unfortunately, these stages don’t always go in order. I still find myself going back and forth between them. It’s OK. This process is not an exact science. Spousal betrayal is made more difficult because your heart isn’t just broken, often it is shattered. There is usually a set time to fix a break. A broken bone may heal in six to eight weeks. A shattered bone or heart has no fixed time to heal. It is going to take far more time than you expect. Give yourself time.

Before you can pick up the pieces and start moving forward you have to forgive yourself. Let me say that again; forgive yourself. You weren’t the worst husband or wife ever. While you may have done the best you could to make your marriage work, it didn’t work. You cannot make someone else happy or make them love you if they don’t. You may never forgive your spouse—that’s OK—but forgive yourself.

I used this quote in When the Wife Cheats. It helped me. I hope it helps you.

“There comes a point in your life when you realize: who matters, who never did, who won’t anymore and who always will…so don’t worry about people from your past; there is a reason they didn’t make it to your future.”

Now I know this is far easier said that done. You are going to find yourself in the depths of depression and sorrow; when you don’t believe you have the strength to even get out of bed; when you have no idea how you are going to survive the next hour—let alone raise your children. Believe me, you will have ALL of these feelings. When you feel completely overwhelmed, remember this: Look up… Get up… And never ever give up.

You will recover in time. When you are ready, pick up the pieces and start moving forward. There is nothing new to see in the past, so don’t look behind you; you’re not going that way. Even in your hardest day move forward. Better times and better people will come into your life.

This DVD features the incredibly talented and funny Martin Short as the voice of the Cat in the Hat

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This DVD features the incredibly talented and funny Martin Short as the voice of the Cat in the Hat

The illustrations and animation are what you would expect from the Cat in the Hat’s world and I especially enjoyed the fantastical wilderness scenes. ” Morgan B. comments, “I absolutely love all the different things I learned about from this DVD! The animation is spot on in this show which brings out a lot of cool stuff.” Alejandra G. adds, “ This series is very enjoyable for kids to watch. The plot is well designed for kids to understand and relate to the stories.” Denise B., KIDS FIRST! Adult Juror adds, “What a great DVD to get you in the mood for the upcoming summer vacation! I’m a big fan of the Cat in the Hat and his shenanigans. This one does not disappoint!” See their full reviews below.

 

The Cat in The Hat Knows a Lot About Camping!
By Selene Weiss, KIDS FIRST! Film Critic, Age 11

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Looking for adventure this summer?  Look no further than the new DVD The Cat in the Hat Knows a Lot About Camping!  Join The Cat in the Hat, Nick, Sally and Fish on their trip to Fish’s family reunion.  Along the way they are joined by the Little Cats as well as an appearance by Thing 1 and Thing 2!  Plenty of trouble ahead for this group.

 

On the way to Fish’s family reunion his fancy new fishbowl starts to leak.  The Cat in the Hat tries to fix this problem for his friend and as usual lands the group in more trouble.  The “thingamajig” heads to a crash landing and Thing 1 and Thing 2 appear to help their friends.  The group starts on a wilderness trek to help Fish make his way to his family when they discover the joys of nature.

 

This DVD features the incredibly talented and funny Martin Short as the voice of the Cat in the Hat!  The illustrations and animation are what you would expect from the Cat in the Hat’s world and I especially enjoyed the fantastical wilderness scenes.  The river scenes in particular are my favorite animation on this journey.

 

The message of this adventure is to enjoy the great outdoors and don’t get lost in your screen-time.  Interacting with people, things and the world around you is more important than viewing life on a screen.  The Little Cats learn this lesson several times on this DVD.

 

I rate this DVD 5 out of 5 stars and recommend it for ages 4 to 12.  The DVD is available now so look for it.

 

The Cat in the Hat Knows a Lot About Camping!
By Ethan P., KIDS FIRST!, Film Critic, Age 10

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I like this DVD because it is very entertaining and useful.  The Cat in the Hat Knows a Lot About Camping has a duration of one hour and you can watch it in English or Spanish.

 

This DVD is about two kids named Nick and Sally pretending to camp in their backyard on their first day of summer vacation.  The Cat in the Hat (Martin Short) comes to visit them with his friend Fish who has a family reunion at the time.  The Cat in the Hat tellls Nick and Sally that he is going to set up a camp at Fish’s family reunion.  Nick and Sally are very excited because they really are going camping. The Cat in the Hat takes his hat off and his three little cousins come out of the hat, Little Cat A, Little Cat B and little Cat C.  During their journey to Fish’s family reunion, The Cat in the Hat teaches the kids and the little cousins a lot about nature, insects and the beautiful landscape, with the help of a special electronic device.  Meanwhile, Fish is worried about his special suit not getting ruined during their journey to the reunion and his fancy fish bowl not getting muddy (so he can show it off to his family).  Unfortunately, this trip is not going the way Fish wanted to go.

 

The animation on this DVD is the same as other Cat in the Hat movies.  The songs are catchy and pleasant to listen to.  The show features Martin Short, from The Three Amigos, as the voice of the Cat in the Hat.  My favorite scene is when the Cat in the Hat, Fish, Nick and Sally are flying in the air in the Thingamajigger singing “Go, go, go, go on an adventure.”

 

The moral of this show is “no matter how you dress, how look, or what you have, your family will  love you for who you are.”  Family doesn’t care about your appearance or your possessions.

 

I give this DVD 4 out of 5 stars and recommend it for ages 3 to 8.  Adults can watch this with their kids and might even learn some tips about camping. The Cat in the Hat Knows a Lot About Camping! is available now, so you can enjoy it as much as I did.

 

The Cat in the Hat Knows a Lot About Camping!
By Alejandra G., KIDS FIRST! Film Critic, age 15

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To start off, this DVD impacts children in a positive way with its great vocabulary and important lessons that are taught in each episode. This series is very enjoyable for kids to watch. The plot is well designed for kids to understand and relate to the stories. I can understand why kids are attracted to it. The way the show is made, with all the colorful objects and cute plots draw the kids in quite easily and, in that moment, their life seems interesting.

 

All the episodes on this DVD have different stories and plots, but the format and the meaning is pretty much the same. All the adventures are different, but every one teaches the lesson that you can play and have fun in nature enjoying the most awesome sights. You can have a great time without damaging the environment yet, you still need to respect and take care of it. Along with that, the viewer experiences some great adventures that are unforgettable.

 

My favorite scene is at the end of one episode when The Cat in the Hat, Nick, Sally, Fish and all his family gather together in one musical finale extravaganza where they are all celebrated as true adventurers. I like this scene because it is very creative, has great songs and the little musical finale is so well organized. It definitely gets children’s attention since it really stands out. <p>The important message gleaned from these episodes is that people and children can have fun without electronic devices. This DVD teaches kids about the wonder in nature. It shows how phones, computers and other electronic devices are not more fascinating than the activities you can do in nature. It shows you how to share quality time with the people you love and learn about your surroundings.  This DVD is available now so, go check it out. It’s just in time for summer vacation.

The Cat in the Hat Knows a Lot About Camping!
By Denise B., KIDS FIRST! Juror

What a great DVD to get you in the mood for the upcoming summer vacation! I’m a big fan of the Cat in the Hat and his shenanigans. This one does not disappoint! It’s entertaining for the whole family and children, ages 3 to 9 will love it! I like that all the characters such as the Fish are included in this fun outdoor adventure. It also has a great story line from the beginning to end and it’s just so fun to watch. I found myself laughing out loud more than a few times. I also like that it is rather original and the animation and soundtrack are great. I give this 5 out of 5 stars and think that the adults will also enjoy watching this one with their young children. This is available now, be sure to go check it out.

 

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