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I’m Just Too Busy…or Am I?

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I’m Just Too Busy…or Am I?

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Do you ever feel overwhelmed by life? Do you have thoughts like: “How am I going get it all done?” or “I’m just too busy?” Sit back and enjoy this episode of Being Here with Ariel and Shya Kane as they reveal an approach that will support you in being productive, energized and feeling at peace, so that being “overwhelmed” and “too busy” become things of the past. Callers welcome at Tel# 1-866-472-5795!

Listen Live this Wednesday, April 1st at 9am PST / 12pm EST on the VoiceAmerica 7th Wave Network.

After this Wednesday, you can stream or download this episode and over 400 episodes on a wide variety of topics from our archives HERE.

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Transformation Made Easy

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Tune into this week’s episode of Being Here with Ariel and Shya and discover how easy it can be to have a satisfying life without working on yourself or your “problems.”

Listen Live this Wednesday, March 18th at 9am PST / 12pm EST on the VoiceAmerica 7th Wave Network.

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But I Want to Be An Artist!

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But I Want to Be An Artist!
An excerpt from Being Here, Modern Day Tales of Enlightenment
By Ariel & Shya Kane

One fall, my husband, Shya and I held one of our business courses called “Transformation in the Workplace,” in New York City. Folks from all different fields were there to discover what it takes to experience wellbeing on the job, and how to effectively communicate. As the weekend progressed, we got to hear each person’s individual reasons for attending and what they hoped to achieve.

As we spoke with Charlotte, a soft looking man in his mid-forties, Jonathan, sat up straighter in his chair. He was totally engaged in the conversation and since we had read his confidential questionnaire, we knew what he was grappling with.

When our conversation with Charlotte concluded, Shya asked who wanted to speak next. Without missing a beat, Jonathan leapt to his feet shouting out, “I do.” He grinned and folks chuckled at his exuberance.

“My name is Jonathan and I work at a large bank, running a bunch of their computer systems. I make a lot of money there, but I’m not happy. See, I’m a professional clarinet player, and I find that working during the day exhausts me and ruins my playing.”

“How so?” Shya asked.

“Well, Shya, at the end of the day I’m too tired to practice. I play my clarinet but most of the time it’s lackluster and I make mistakes. I know if I wasn’t so worn out from working at my ?*$%^&# job I could play better. I go to gigs now and I’m uninspired. I’m thinking of quitting the bank but I have a family to think of and the money is so good and I have a 401K but I don’t want to sell out for money. I want to be the artist that I know I am!”

As he spoke, Jonathan had worked himself up, his face flushed with passion. Others in the room were nodding as the professional actors and directors in the room could empathize with how day-to-day work gets in the way of being artistic. You could see it written on their faces, If only I could just act rather than have to get jobs, then I would be happy.

“How is the quality of your playing these days Jonathan?” Shya asked.

“Stale, Shya,” he said sadly. “Stale.”

“Well, Albert Einstein once said that you can’t solve a problem from within the system that created it,” Shya continued. “It sounds as if your possible solutions to your dilemma, stay and be stale or leave your job and forfeit benefits, will both result in creating problems. With transformation there is no down side.”

“I have a suggestion for an experiment,” I said. “But it will involve taking a risk. Are you ready?”

“Oh, yes!” he replied. It was obvious from his face that he hoped we would finally give him the permission he had not granted himself to chuck the job and his responsibilities to his family. Then he could go for being a full time musician at last. His eyes glowed with anticipation.

Shya and I glanced at each other and I continued, “Here is what we suggest. For the next two weeks, forget about your clarinet. Put it away.”

“Let go of all thoughts of being a musician,” Shya said.

Jonathan’s face fell and he looked ready to fight. He was sure we were just like his parents who didn’t want him to go for his truth. He thought we wanted him to do the sensible thing, the boring thing, the nine-to-five thing. He opened his mouth to protest as I finished the thought.

“…and at the end of these two weeks, see how this has improved your ability to play and how much it enhances your abilities as a musician.”

Jonathan repeatedly opened and closed his mouth in disbelief. “Wait a minute. Ariel, Shya, are you suggesting not playing for two weeks as a way to improve my musicianship?”

“Yup, exactly,” I said. “What do you have to lose? Are you willing to give it a go?”

Jonathan nodded slowly. He looked confused and he wasn’t sure what good it would do but he was willing.

“That’s great, Jonathan,” I said. “When you get home, put your clarinet in its case, and put away your music, your music stand and everything you associate with playing and practicing. For the next two weeks, pretend that your clarinet and your skills as a musician do not exist. You may think about it at first but if you find your mind wandering there, bring your attention back to what you’re doing. OK?”

“Absolutely, I’ll do it!” he pronounced with the same kind of enthusiasm he had demonstrated in the first place. The course continued and came to its natural conclusion. Two weeks quickly came and went and then Jonathan joined us once again for one of our Monday Night weekly seminars, but this time there was a bounce in his step and a glimmer in his eye.

At the first opportunity Jonathan stood and spoke. I noticed he was standing taller and looked more grounded in himself.

“I am so excited,” he announced. “Two weeks ago, Ariel and Shya gave me the weirdest, neatest, strangest, most inspired suggestion I have ever had in my life. I’ve been playing the clarinet since I was a child but for the past few years, particularly the last six months, there was no joy in it for me. I came to the Kanes’ business course hoping to find a way to bring some life back into my playing as I feel like I’ve been doing everything by rote lately.

I was shocked when they suggested that I put the clarinet and all my music away for two weeks and pretend it didn’t exist. I mean, I’m a pro! What kind of professional lets it slide for two weeks and expects to be able to play well?”

At this he grinned, “Ariel, Shya, I got my music and stand and clarinet out of the closet yesterday. It had been two weeks and a day! They were all so familiar and yet so new. I was excited to be able to pick a song and test the reed and I realized that I hadn’t felt this kind of spark for a long, long time. My fingers flew. Music flowed out of the tips of my fingers and the tone was so pure and I played for an hour without stopping and it seemed like just a moment had passed. All I can say is Wow! And, thank you both.”

“How was work the past two weeks?” Shya asked.

“It’s a little embarrassing how well I did. I guess I’ve always held a piece of myself back at the bank. I know it sounds irrational but it seemed that if I succeeded there I might get stuck in a 9- to-5 job and I might lose my creative juice. I’ve always been holding back with the hope of being an artist.”

“Are you an artist and did your work these past two weeks take away from that?” I asked.

“Yes, yes I am an artist and no, working at the bank didn’t take anything away. In fact, I got things done far faster than I ever thought possible this past week. I created new solutions to some old programming problems that we’ve been having for a while now. Even my boss noticed the difference. He stopped at my workstation yesterday and thanked me for a new piece of software I wrote. That has never happened before.”

“See Jonathan,” Shya said. “If you hold back your full expression of yourself in one area, you gradually get dimmer in all areas of your life, including or maybe especially in those areas you’re trying to protect. Life is like a magnificent river and it takes energy to stop the flow. Going about your life with excellence in your ‘day’ job turns it into a brilliant experience and it then becomes a creative act. As you go about your life with totality you become an artist wherever you go and whatever you do.”

The Art of Listening

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The Art of Listening

An excerpt from How to Create a Magical Relationship, The Three Simple Ideas That Will Instantaneously Transform Your Love Life by Ariel & Shya Kane

We teach courses all over the world and have discovered that whatever the culture, whatever the language, people often don’t really, truly listen. Listening is often perceived as a passive act. The two of us have discovered that when ‘true listening’ is present, satisfying communication is sure to follow. This chapter is devoted to the art of listening. If you discover those things that keep you from listening, you will simultaneously discover many of the things that get in your way in relationships and in day–to–day interactions. If you learn the art of listening, you will become more effective, productive and satisfied in all aspects of your life.

True listening is not something that we have been taught growing up in our families, amongst our friends or in school. True listening requires being in the moment. It also requires letting go of your point of view, your thoughts and your agendas. True listening is an art.

Have you ever examined whether or not you are truly listening? Have you identified what inhibits your ability to actually hear what another is saying with the intention of seeing what he or she means from his or her point of view? What we are talking about here is a self–education program.

First you must have the desire to discover how you listen and how you interact with your life from a non–judgmental point of view. It is not about trying to change or fix what you notice in the self examination of your own behavioral patterns. If you just notice how you are relating to your life, that in itself is enough to complete previously disturbing patterns of behavior. Frequently, there are no other actions needed. This also applies to the way in which you listen, don’t listen or distract yourself from listening.

TRUE LISTENING

If a person doesn’t feel heard, then frustration builds and misunderstandings are sure to happen. It requires a degree of openness, however, to actually hear what is being said. There are impediments to truly listening to your partner. People frequently are not open to hear simply because they are already involved in a thought or action. We as human beings can only do one thing at a time, if we expect to do it well. Making sure you have your partner’s attention is the best way to start when you are saying something of importance.

TRUE COMMUNICATION REQUIRES LISTENING TO HEAR WHAT IS BEING SAID FROM THE POINT OF VIEW OF THE SPEAKER. THIS IS AN INTENTIONAL UNDERSTANDING OF THE OTHER’S POINT OF VIEW.

PRE–OCCUPATION WITH A PROBLEM

If you are pre–occupied with a thought or something you consider problematic, then you can’t listen because your mind can only hold one thing at a time. If you are worrying about something, then you won’t hear what is being said to you.

Most of us are unaware when we are actually doing something other than listening. We haven’t realized that we are pre–engaged or pre–occupied so that we only partially hear what is being said and that partial hearing is almost always inaccurate.

Have you ever noticed how some people say the same things to you over and over? That is generally because you didn’t really hear them the first time. Since true listening is an active rather than a passive act, it requires your full attention. If you are at all preoccupied while listening to another, they are left with the feeling that they have not been heard. Which is, in fact, true. How could a baseball player catch a ball if they already have a baseball in their mitt? This is essentially what you are trying to do if you are pre–occupied while listening to another. It is as if you are trying to catch a communication while your ‘mitt’ is already full.

FILLING IN WITH WHAT YOU EXPECT

When you are in a relationship with someone, after a period of time, you believe that you know this person and that you already know what he or she is going to say. When the first few words come out, you assume you know where it is going. So, in your mind, you fill in the blanks with what you expect to hear and stop listening to what your partner is actually saying. You may be right, most of the time. But there are times when your partner is about to say something else and you are not receptive because you already have the ball in your mitt. Or you may not even hear what is being said because you think you know it already and have already moved on in your thoughts. If so, chances are your partner will feel disregarded.

PROVING YOURSELF RIGHT

At this point, we must talk again about the principles of physics, also the second principle of transformation that says: No two things can occupy the same space at the same time. If your mind is already pre–occupied with what you are intending to say when you get your chance, then there is no possibility that you can actually hear what is being said to you. And that is on the most basic level. If you are defending your point of view, then you won’t want to hear what is being said. When you are defending yourself, your mind will manipulate what is being said so that you can disagree, prove it wrong and prove yourself, or your point of view, right.

Have you ever found yourself finding fault with your partner’s use of words or a particular word, rather than allowing yourself to hear the essence of what he or she is saying? Frequently, when people engage in conversation, they are trying to prove that what they believe to be true is true. And so, when we listen to another, we are still holding onto our point of view.

IF YOU DROP WHAT YOU WANT TO SAY AND LISTEN, WHEN YOU DO RESPOND, YOU MIGHT DISCOVER SOMETHING WHOLLY NEW AND MORE APPROPRIATE TO SAY THAN WHAT YOU HAD PLANNED. IF WHAT YOU INITIALLY HAD TO SAY IS STILL RELEVANT, IT WILL COME BACK ON ITS OWN.

LISTENING WITH AN AGENDA

A major inhibitor to listening is one’s agenda. Wanting something when you talk with another person is not a problem, if you are aware of it. For instance, as a sales person, if you get paid a commission for what you sell, obviously you have a preference that potential customers will purchase something. However, if you push to meet your agenda rather than paying attention to your customers’ needs, you are sure to turn people off and lose sales. In effect, going for your agenda often produces the opposite of the desired result.

Please don’t misunderstand. There is nothing wrong with having an agenda. If you want a better relationship or more intimacy, for example, that is not a problem. The problem arises when you are unaware of your agendas and you are mechanically driven to fulfill them. If you are aware of the things you want (or don’t want) then you can hold these preferences in abeyance and actively listen to what your partner has to say.

COMPASSION – COMPASSION – COMPASSION

If your partner is telling you about something you did or didn’t do that upset him or her, if you realize that you couldn’t have done it any differently than you did, it is possible for you to have compassion for yourself. And when we say compassion for yourself we are talking about a state of grace, of forgiveness. Most of us have the mistaken opinion that we could have lived our lives differently than we did, but if you look back, you will see that everything you did in your life has led you to this point, brought you to where you are now. Though you may think in retrospect that you could have done things another way, when you were actually living through those circumstances, you only did what you could do at the time. You couldn’t have done it any differently in reality. Perhaps, ideally, you would have done things other than the way you did, but again, that is in retrospect.

Everything that has happened in your life could only have happened the way it did and not the way you think it ought to have happened. This opens the door for the possibility for compassion; compassion for yourself and for others. The only thing useful in thinking you could have done things differently is if you want to use the past to torment yourself. We have found that tormenting yourself does not produce great relationships so we suggest that you don’t do this.

REINTERPRETING THE PAST

Even if you accept our premise that ‘what is done is done,’ the past is still open for interpretation. This is where many torment themselves, thereby fettering their abilities to create magical relationships. You can reinterpret any event in your life to fit your current outlook or agenda. The truth is what happened has happened, and if you see it and let it be, then you can get on with your life. What? you might say. Don’t I need to make myself remember and punish myself for wrong doings so that I will never do them again? No, you don’t. If you see something you did or said in error, and actually see it without judging yourself, then you have already learned your lesson. Punishing yourself and feeling badly does not help. If you have truly seen the error of your ways, you never have to repeat them.

THREE GOLDEN WORDS – I AM SORRY

It doesn’t matter how well you communicate, how sensitive you are, how in love and perfectly matched you are with your partner, sooner or later you will do something that blows it. When that happens, there is actually a magic wand that can dissolve the hurt and restore your relationship. Truly apologizing can mend a world of hurts. Saying you are sorry, and meaning it, only hurts your ego, but it can rebuild the bridge between you and another. Then you can experience being in love long after the rose of the first attraction blooms and fades.

Are We Having Fun Yet?

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Are We Having Fun Yet?

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“We don’t stop playing because we get old, we get old because we stop playing.” Satchel Paige

When you are trying to get somewhere you seriously stop having fun. In this delightful episode of Being Here, discover how fun is not a diversion from succeeding in life, but rather a pathway to it.

Listen Live this Wednesday, February 18th at 9am PST / 12pm EST on the VoiceAmerica 7th Wave Network.

After this Wednesday, you can stream or download this episode and over 400 episodes on a wide variety of topics from our archives here.

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Being Here with Ariel & Shya Kane

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ARTICLE OF THE MONTH:
Developing Inner Peace as the Nucleus to Global Peace – Part 2
by Ariel & Shya Kane

There are three ideas or principles that have been profoundly useful to people who are interested in dissolving mechanical behaviors and reclaiming control of their own lives. In Developing Inner Peace as the Nucleus to Global Peace Part 2 let’s look at these Three Principles of Instantaneous Transformation as a support structure for creating inner peace. As we said in Part 1, the impact on the world of one centered individual cannot be underestimated.

Have you ever noticed that there are things that you don’t like about yourself or that you have tried to fix or change in order to fit some idea that you have, which of course was culturally derived about what a better you would look like, and yet they are still there? The New Year’s resolutions about improving or changing this or that continue one New Year after another and yet, the “problems” never seem to completely dissolve, disappear or go away. This observation is the basis for the First Principle of Instantaneous Transformation: that anything you resist, disagree with, want to change about yourself, will, in fact, persist and grow stronger, last longer and dominate your life.

Let’s talk about the Second Principle of Instantaneous Transformation. The second principle creates a possibility to give up striving to achieve what one thinks about as needed in order to live in a state of well being. It states that no two things can occupy the same space at the same time. This means that you can only be exactly as you are in any moment of now. You cannot be different than you are in each moment. If you are sitting in this moment, you cannot possibly be standing at that same instant. If you are feeling sad it is impossible at the same instant to be feeling happy. You can only be as you are right now. If you see the truth of this statement, then we can further postulate that in the moment previous to now, you could have only been the way you were then and from that the only conclusion is that every thing that you have ever done in your life could only have happened exactly as it did. Now of course, you can think you could have done things differently. We are not suggesting that you do not have the thoughts that you could have done things differently or fantasies that you could have done things another way. What we are saying is that, in reality, what you did or what happened is all you could have done or all that could have happened because it did. If you extrapolate this idea back in time you will realize that extends to all of the other people in your life, including your parents. They could have only done the things that they did. And your parent’s parents, etc could have only been the way they were and have done the things that they did.reclaiming control

People frequently blame their parents for the current state or condition of their lives. This has been a socially acceptable way of relating to the circumstances and situations of our lives but it totally lacks personal responsibility and in fact, each human being is personally responsible for his or her own deeds and actions. It is a challenge to give up blaming one’s parents because there is so much agreement that they are responsible for how we turn out. And as long as people use their parents as a touch stone to compare their lives to, they will never be able to discover their authentic self. As a result the illusive state of inner peace will remain forever out of reach.

Let’s look at the Second Principle of Instantaneous Transformation once again – No two things can occupy the same space at the same time. In other words, you could only have been the way you were and have done the things that you have done. This idea frees one from having to feel guilty or cast blame on ourselves or on our parents. Given our propensity to judge ourselves, for what we did or didn’t do, or how we should or should not have been in a certain situation, the second principle allows us, if we should so choose, to give up beating on ourselves for everything that happened in the past. It turned out exactly as it did and it brought us to this present moment of now. What you do from here is up to you.

This brings us to the Third Principle of Instantaneous Transformation. The third principle says that anything that you allow to be exactly as it is will complete itself. This fits with our definition of awareness, which is a non-judgmental, non-preferential seeing of the way things are in any given moment.

Change is recognizable as a dichotomy such as right/wrong, good/bad, better/worse, beautiful/ugly, etc. Transformation occurs in a simple recognition of what is. It is not valued in good or bad or right or wrong. It is a simple noticing of the “isness” of things.

Transformation does not take place over time. It is about a shifting in the way one views their experience of living. It is based in self observation without self reproach. We have all been trained in the idea of doing something to change or fix what we observe or notice about ourselves. The idea that simple observation, without self condemnation, is enough to facilitate a transformational shift, where what was once a problem, melts or dissolves in the light of observation, is a foreign concept and seems too good or too easy to be true. Yet it is our experience that “being” with a situation is enough to transform, resolve, dissolve that problem or mechanical behavior so that it no longer holds sway over one’s life.

Many people, when hearing about transformation and the concept of being with whatever you see about yourself as a means to dissolve unwanted conditions, think that simply being will make them ineffective or complacent. Contrary to this misconception, when you discover how to live your life in the moment rather than through a mass of rules for right and wrong, you are empowered to make authentic choices that make a positive impact on your wellbeing and on the wellbeing of those in your environment. The paradox is when you are in the moment, there is nothing to do and sometimes there are things to be done. Here is an allegorical tale that illustrates this paradox:

Once a master and his servant were crossing a desert. They came to an oasis and decided to spend the night. In the morning they awoke to discover that their camels were gone. The master said to his servant “Where are the camels?”

To which the servant replied, “Well, I just did what you always tell me to do.”

“What is that?” asked the master.

“You always tell me to trust in Allah, so that is what I did. I trusted Allah would take care of the camels.”

“Ahh,” the master replied. “This is true. Of course, you must trust in Allah but you also must tether the camels.”

Again, the paradox in a transformational approach to living is that there is nothing to do with what you discover and yet sometimes there are things to be done. However, there is a vast difference between seeking to do something to reach a goal that is supposed to create happiness sometime in the future and in making authentic moves in this moment that are true to your heart. Goal setting is a problem/solution framework that tends to create further problems in its wake. Taking actions that are authentic expressions of yourself and who you are creates well being in this moment which also extends forward in time rather than setting up a climate where you strive and wait for a more satisfying someday that never actually comes.

If we look globally, in seeking peace on this planet, it becomes apparent that if individuals cannot resolve their own personal, internal conflicts, the idea of bringing together more than six billion people in peace, when these people are in turmoil as individuals, is an impossibility. Peace must happen on the level of individual, first. Peaceful individuals will produce peaceful relationships and peaceful relationships will produce peaceful societies. If individuals are at war within themselves, even the best intentions cannot produce peace.

This brings us back to transformation. Transformation happens in individuals. It happens when people discover how to live their lives, not only based in what they have been taught or in resistance to these teachings but by looking and seeing what is true for them in each moment.

VIDEO OF THE MONTH:
Title: A New Year, A New Possibility

 

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Description: Participants from the Kanes’ seminars share how they approach the new year, and their lives, differently since discovering Instantaneous Transformation.

Getting Offended Is Optional

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Getting Offended Is Optional

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“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Eleanor Roosevelt

Has it ever occurred to you that you only get offended when you are saying “No” to how your life is showing up? Join Ariel & Shya Kane this week on Being Here and discover how to not upset yourself with the actions or comments that others may make.

Listen Live Wednesday, January 14th at 9am PST / 12pm EST on the VoiceAmerica 7th Wave Network.

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This Week on BEING HERE: That Small Still Voice

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This Week on BEING HERE: That Small Still Voice

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On this episode of Being Here discover how to recognize that small still voice: the one that normally doesn’t insist that you listen to it – rather it comes with valuable information that you often realize was important in retrospect. Callers welcome at Tel# 1-866-472-5795!

Listen Live this Wednesday, January 7th at 9am PST / 12pm EST on the VoiceAmerica 7th Wave Network.

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Try Transformation for a ‘Change’

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Try Transformation for a ‘Change’

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How many years have you made New Year’s resolutions? And how many of these promises have you actually kept? Join Ariel & Shya Kane this week on BEING HERE and try transformation for a “change”! As you discover the difference between living in a change oriented paradigm and living a Transformational lifestyle, those things that used to plague you can dissolve in an instant, enabling you to live the life you have only dreamed of but couldn’t hope for, for fear of being disappointed. Callers welcome at Tel# 1-866-472-5795!

Listen Live this Wednesday, December 31st at 9am PST / 12pm EST on the VoiceAmerica 7th Wave Network.

After this Wednesday, you can stream or download this episode and nearly 400 episodes on a wide variety of topics from our archives here.

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Developing Inner Peace as the Nucleus to Global Peace – Part 1 by Ariel & Shya Kane

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World peace is a very laudable ideal but have you ever noticed how much easier it is to philosophize about the big important things, like ending war, while we ourselves harbor resentments, hold onto vendettas or wish negative things on people? We think negatively towards others as though it is our God-given right to be right and others obviously caused our discomfort. How many times have you heard yourself say, “They got me angry!” or “They made me mad!” or “They humiliated me?”

We are not saying that ideally you would not wish to be beyond those petty thoughts and the need to prove yourself right at the cost of your experience of love, well being, happiness, relationship and partnership. What we are saying is that in the reality of people’s innermost thoughts, they mechanically and uncontrollably think things which sometimes lead to actions that, in retrospect, they are not proud of.

It has been more than 2000 years since the death of Christ, the Prince of Peace, who brought the message of love. Well his message has not gotten across. If you look at the world situation, there is no longer war between the Romans and the rest of the world, but there is war present all over the world.

There was a time when one faced the enemy intimately and fought hand to hand. This barbaric way of fighting still exists but in our modern age we have developed smart bombs and cruise missiles so that we don’t have to see our opponent face-to-face. Diplomats and politicians have, throughout history, attempted to find idealistic and peaceful solutions other than going to war. And yet the human condition has not improved substantially. Our technology has, our gadgetry has, our creature comforts have, but humanity’s sense of well being, of inner peace is no greater than it was 2000 years ago.

As newborns we did not decide what language we wanted to learn. Somewhere around the second year of our lives, we had mastered the mother tongue of the culture we were born into. Not only did we master the language, we also absorbed and were inculcated into the standards and mores of that culture and society. Like a computer, we function through the information that has been downloaded into it. We make choices and decisions from the information that we have absorbed.

All of us were born into an ongoing society and culture. What we have learned is what has been available in the knowledge bank/base of that society. All of the ideas, techniques and available methods of self improvement, inner peace, well being and self realization, have been handed down to us from what has come before. These ideas, however laudable, are flawed by the ideas and techniques that have been available to produce this “self improvement”. The programs and ideas developed as innovations from past therapeutic modalities, based in a psychological mode, have not provided the sense of well being that individuals and humanity as a whole are striving for. The other avenue, other than psychology, has been religion and this too has only provided limited well being to its practitioners and participants. There have been some interim results produced, but as a whole, humanity is no more satisfied now than it was 100 years ago.

We have been taught or given the idea that when we attain something or achieve something, the quality of our lives will get better. That when we graduate from school, life will begin. That when we get a relationship, get engaged, married, the right job, the right degrees from school, the right automobile, a house, these things will satisfy us and make us feel better. This idea of achievement producing well-being is also flawed. You cannot earn enough money, or own enough objects or things to feel good about yourself when you don’t feel good about yourself, to feel secure when you are insecure. Well being exists independent of material possessions and achievements and it happens when you live your life directly and in the present moment. Well being is a by-product of being in the moment. It is not a goal to be achieved or something to get to. It takes place when you are living your life in each moment.

Our approach to peace is transformational. It is our hypothesis that if you discover inner peace and well being, you will no longer need to hold onto resentments and vendettas. As a natural outcome of this inner peace, you will discover forgiveness in its purest form. We believe that for this planet to heal itself, it must happen one individual being at a time.

“How is this possible?” You may ask. “World peace and planetary healing is too mighty a task for just one individual!” Yes, you are right but the power of one centered individual cannot be underestimated.

Transformation allows for a dissolving and completion of previously resisted mechanical behaviors that have undermined people’s ability to make a difference in their lives and in their world. Our approach is anthropological. An anthropologist does not judge the culture that he or she is studying. They notate the behavior of that particular culture without judgment of good or bad or right or wrong behaviors but merely objectively state their observations.

Awareness is the basis of our technique of nonjudgmental observation resulting in the completion of previously unwanted habitual behavior. Our definition of awareness is a nonjudgmental seeing or noticing of the way you interact with your life circumstances. By simply noticing how you are without judging yourself for what you see, you will strengthen your ability to be present and centered regardless of the circumstances. And contrary to popular thought, if you do not judge yourself and if you are not hard on yourself when you see yourself lost in a “bad” habit, you will not become complacent. It has been our experience in working with thousands of people from all walks of life and from many different cultures all over the world that when a person lives his or her life with awareness, that individual is self empowered and becomes more productive, effective and satisfied.

We have discovered three ideas or principles that have been profoundly useful to people who are interested in dissolving mechanical behaviors and reclaiming control of their own lives. In Developing Inner Peace as the Nucleus to Global Peace Part 2 in next month’s article, we will investigate these Three Principles of Instantaneous Transformation as an access way into the moment and a gateway to inner peace.

Since 1987, internationally acclaimed authors, seminar leaders, and business consultants Ariel and Shya Kane have acted as guides, leading people through the swamp of the mind into the clarity and brilliance of the moment. To find out more about the Kanes and their Transformational Community or to sign up to join their email newsletter, visit their website at: www.TransformationMadeEasy.com. Information about their three award-winning books – Working On Yourself Doesn’t Work: The 3 Simple Ideas that will Instantaneously Transform Your Life, How to Create A Magical Relationship: The 3 Simple Ideas that will Instantaneously Transform Your Love Life and Being Here, Modern Day Tales of Enlightenment – is also available on their website. Their latest book, How to Have A Match Made in Heaven: A Transformational Approach to Dating, Relating and Marriage, is the winner of 5 awards and is also available in Spanish.

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