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Success Coach and Clinical Psychologist Nicole Cutts, Ph.D., joined me on “Turn the Page” to discuss the benefits of seeing your life as a hero or heroine’s quest, and how to clarify and achieve your vision of success.

Dr. Cutts is the author of “The Adventures of Isabelle Book I: The Embryo Goddess and the Morpho,” a heroine’s quest adventure novel with a purpose.

Dr. Cutts states, “Have you thought about how much easier your life would be if you were a super hero? I know I have. Think of all the great super hero powers there are! Flight, invisibility, extraordinary strength, and one of my favorites, the ability to breath under water like Aquaman. Although it’s not realistic for humans to be super heros, we can all be heros or heroines if we choose to be. While being a heroine does not come with super powers, it does come with special abilities and great advantages.

Even if your life does not become a literary work, you are writing your own life story, so why not cast yourself as a heroine or hero of this story?”

She shares, “A VISION is an idea, state of being or concept that you have regarding what you “want” in your life, or what you want your life to be. This phenomenon has been referred to by other terms, such as dreams, callings or aspirations, to name a few.  Human beings experience feelings of want, longing or desire toward a vision.

I view the union of a vision and a person as a COSMIC MATCHMAKING process! My Vision Realization Continuum (VRC) model asserts that both you and the vision are involved in a process of pursuit, a mutual longing that ends in a committed relationship. The Vision’s desire is to be born while the human’s desire is experienced as a need to create or realize a higher aspiration, and to feel a sense of purpose and meaning. Humans believe that they know what will come out of the attainment of a Vision but there is much that comes out of this attainment that they aren’t even aware of or privy to.”

Read Dr. Cutt’s blog, “The Vision Quest Chronicles,” which includes tips to overcome the fear of success. Benefit from her success coaching tools and complete her “Write Your Own Heroine’s Quest” FREE ONLINE COURSE.

Participate in her Writer’s “Beach” Retreat by the Pool, through which published authors will share tips and feedback to help you improve and SELL your writing.

Identify where you are in the EIGHT STATES of Dr. Cutt’s VISION REALIZATION CONTINUUM, and learn how to address COMMON IMPEDIMENTS TO THE ACHIEVEMENT OF A VISION by listening to our conversation!

Fit-i-quette, Pollinator Paradise, The Gift of Attitude

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Fit-i-quette, Pollinator Paradise, The Gift of Attitude

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with Cynthia Brian and Heather Brittany on StarStyle®-Be the Star You Are!® Radio brought to the airwaves under the auspices of Be the Star You Are!® 501 c3 charity, LIVE, since 1998.
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What is fitness etiquette for a class or in the gym? Find out in Health Matters with fitness instructor, Heather Brittany.
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To have a truly healthy garden, create a pollinator paradise. It’s easy to do.
You won’t need any special talents, just lots of curiosity, and these simple tips with Goddess Gardener, Cynthia Brian.

Every day it is important to have positive input. We are creatures of habit and it’s easy to get bogged down with the latest bad news and the financial failures of those around us. Attitude does determine our altitude. Find out how to make yours soar with Cynthia Brian’s book, Be the Star You Are!® 99 Gifts for Living, Loving, Laughing, and Learning to Make a Difference.
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The award winning positive talk radio program, StarStyle®-Be the Star You Are!® broadcasts on the Voice America Empowerment Channel LIVE every Wednesday from 4-5pm Pt/7-8pm ET.  Cynthia Brian and Heather Brittany are the Mother/Daughter dynamic duo who have been co-hosting this program live weekly since 1998 bringing upbeat, life enhancing conversation to the world. With Cynthia’s expertise in interviewing the trailblazers, authors, and experts and Heather’s healthy living segments, these Goddess Gals are your personal growth coaches helping you to jumpstart your life while igniting your flame of greatness.
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Changes In Gratitude: Changes In Attitude By Deborah Jane Wells (Part 2 of 2)

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Changes In Gratitude: Changes In Attitude By Deborah Jane Wells (Part 2 of 2)

DeborahCatPicking up where we left off at the end of part 1 of this article, before wrapping up this exploration of gratitude, I want to consider an additional essential aspect of genuine gratitude that truly fosters flow: the principle of circulation. While many people are extremely comfortable with giving to others, far fewer are equally comfortable with receiving from others. Raised with such precepts as, “It is better to give than receive” and “God loveth a cheerful giver,” many have mistakenly concluded that life is all about giving. But giving without a similar commitment to receiving blocks rather than fosters flow.

Flow requires free circulation, both inflow and outflow, with neither condition being desired, admired, or sought after more than the other. Giving with abandon accompanied by resistance to receiving is not what love looks like and it won’t encourage flow. Such duality indicates that fear has crept in and tainted what could, if fueled differently, be an act of love. The roots of this sort of circulation imbalance are planted firmly in misunderstanding the nature of power and assuming power is the same thing as force.

This misperception is based in the belief that giving will put me in the “up” position, leaving me superior and powerful. Once I succeed in giving to you, I can expect you to return the favor on demand in the future in whatever form I desire consistent with my unilateral terms and conditions.

With this definition of giving in place, it follows that I might perceive receiving would put me in the “down” position, leaving me inferior and powerless. Once I succumb to receiving from you, I will be obligated and vulnerable to acting for your benefit in the future—on demand and against my will—in ways that may conflict with my personal values and abilities.

The simple recalibration to these misperceptions is to realize that sort of exchange is not what love looks like. Remembering love’s essential attributes of respect, curiosity, and compassion will increase your clarity in that regard. As the giver, when you choose unconditional love as your core fuel, whatever the expectations of the receiver, you never give from a desire to control or manipulate others. And as the receiver, when you choose unconditional love as your core fuel, whatever the expectations of the giver, you are never obligated to respond from fear. Only you decide what is right for your life. What you give and receive, from and to whom, when, why, how, and how much are always yours to choose. In each moment, you have the opportunity to choose love over fear and behave in alignment with your choice.

Here’s an additional insight to help you move more comfortably into balance, harmony, and understanding concerning the roles of giving and receiving in fostering flow. The practice of “over-giving” is just another variation on the arrogance-based disrespectful interference I explore in my writings on respect. When we over-give, we rob the recipient of the opportunity to develop the healthy independence essential to personal growth and freedom. How do you know when this is the case? As always, look underneath your potential actions and be unflinchingly honest with yourself about whether your core fuel is love or fear. Once you recognize your fuel, you’ll have the opportunity to respect yourself and the other by making a conscious constructive choice.

People sometimes respond to this perspective on giving and receiving by saying, “But Deborah, it just feels so good to give!” Yes, it does feel good. And when you refuse to receive with gratitude and grace, you rob another of experiencing that joy of giving. Much as you may not like to admit it, such behavior demonstrates greediness: hoarding all of that good feeling for yourself. When you give but don’t embrace receiving, you imprison yourself with fear and your gifts become tainted.

Remember to consider the big picture when assessing how well circulation is working in your life. Don’t expect direct reciprocity in relation to what you give. Adopt a “pay it forward” mindset and the big picture God’s-eye view, knowing that the circulation you set in motion when you give to a friend or stranger, may return to you in ways you never dreamed of through people you don’t even know at a time well into the future. When you celebrate giving and receiving with a sense of joy and freedom, you exhibit genuine gratitude and foster for yourself and others lives of generous, effortless, gracious flow filled with faith, hope, prosperity, peace, and joy.

The only person controlling your life is you. Turn unexplored possibilities into fulfilling realities by harnessing the transformative power of love—and gratitude—to step into your greatness. Choose your energy and change your life!


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About the Author

What’s love got to do with minimizing stress and getting unstuck? Everything, according to empowerment coach and inspirational speaker Deborah Jane Wells, author of Choose Your Energy: Change Your Life! During her 30 years as an organization transformation consultant, Deborah served as a senior partner in four of the world’s largest, most prestigious global professional services firms. In 2005, she took a five-year sabbatical to find healing and peace because non-stop work had taken its toll. Her recovery from burnout, including a sustained 80-pound weight loss and freedom from 10 years of debilitating depression, led to finding her purpose guiding others on their journeys. Through healing and self-exploration, she discovered that loving yourself unconditionally is the key to transforming your personal life, your work, and the world. Deborah’s books, blog, radio show, and signature coaching programs help individuals and organizations harness the transformative power of love to step into their greatness. Learn more at the Deborah Jane Wells Website.

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