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Peace Begins With You

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Peace Begins With You

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Being Here and being kind to yourself creates peace in you and a possibility for others.

Join Ariel and Shya Kane for this week’s episode of BEING HERE, “Peace Begins With You” and give peace in yourself a chance.

Listen Live this Wednesday, December 24th at 9am PST / 12pm EST on the VoiceAmerica 7th Wave Network.

After this Wednesday, you can stream or download this episode and nearly 400 episodes on a wide variety of topics from our archives here.

You can also subscribe to BEING HERE on iTunes!

Developing Inner Peace as the Nucleus to Global Peace – Part 1 by Ariel & Shya Kane

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Developing Inner Peace as the Nucleus to Global Peace – Part 1 by Ariel & Shya Kane

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World peace is a very laudable ideal but have you ever noticed how much easier it is to philosophize about the big important things, like ending war, while we ourselves harbor resentments, hold onto vendettas or wish negative things on people? We think negatively towards others as though it is our God-given right to be right and others obviously caused our discomfort. How many times have you heard yourself say, “They got me angry!” or “They made me mad!” or “They humiliated me?”

We are not saying that ideally you would not wish to be beyond those petty thoughts and the need to prove yourself right at the cost of your experience of love, well being, happiness, relationship and partnership. What we are saying is that in the reality of people’s innermost thoughts, they mechanically and uncontrollably think things which sometimes lead to actions that, in retrospect, they are not proud of.

It has been more than 2000 years since the death of Christ, the Prince of Peace, who brought the message of love. Well his message has not gotten across. If you look at the world situation, there is no longer war between the Romans and the rest of the world, but there is war present all over the world.

There was a time when one faced the enemy intimately and fought hand to hand. This barbaric way of fighting still exists but in our modern age we have developed smart bombs and cruise missiles so that we don’t have to see our opponent face-to-face. Diplomats and politicians have, throughout history, attempted to find idealistic and peaceful solutions other than going to war. And yet the human condition has not improved substantially. Our technology has, our gadgetry has, our creature comforts have, but humanity’s sense of well being, of inner peace is no greater than it was 2000 years ago.

As newborns we did not decide what language we wanted to learn. Somewhere around the second year of our lives, we had mastered the mother tongue of the culture we were born into. Not only did we master the language, we also absorbed and were inculcated into the standards and mores of that culture and society. Like a computer, we function through the information that has been downloaded into it. We make choices and decisions from the information that we have absorbed.

All of us were born into an ongoing society and culture. What we have learned is what has been available in the knowledge bank/base of that society. All of the ideas, techniques and available methods of self improvement, inner peace, well being and self realization, have been handed down to us from what has come before. These ideas, however laudable, are flawed by the ideas and techniques that have been available to produce this “self improvement”. The programs and ideas developed as innovations from past therapeutic modalities, based in a psychological mode, have not provided the sense of well being that individuals and humanity as a whole are striving for. The other avenue, other than psychology, has been religion and this too has only provided limited well being to its practitioners and participants. There have been some interim results produced, but as a whole, humanity is no more satisfied now than it was 100 years ago.

We have been taught or given the idea that when we attain something or achieve something, the quality of our lives will get better. That when we graduate from school, life will begin. That when we get a relationship, get engaged, married, the right job, the right degrees from school, the right automobile, a house, these things will satisfy us and make us feel better. This idea of achievement producing well-being is also flawed. You cannot earn enough money, or own enough objects or things to feel good about yourself when you don’t feel good about yourself, to feel secure when you are insecure. Well being exists independent of material possessions and achievements and it happens when you live your life directly and in the present moment. Well being is a by-product of being in the moment. It is not a goal to be achieved or something to get to. It takes place when you are living your life in each moment.

Our approach to peace is transformational. It is our hypothesis that if you discover inner peace and well being, you will no longer need to hold onto resentments and vendettas. As a natural outcome of this inner peace, you will discover forgiveness in its purest form. We believe that for this planet to heal itself, it must happen one individual being at a time.

“How is this possible?” You may ask. “World peace and planetary healing is too mighty a task for just one individual!” Yes, you are right but the power of one centered individual cannot be underestimated.

Transformation allows for a dissolving and completion of previously resisted mechanical behaviors that have undermined people’s ability to make a difference in their lives and in their world. Our approach is anthropological. An anthropologist does not judge the culture that he or she is studying. They notate the behavior of that particular culture without judgment of good or bad or right or wrong behaviors but merely objectively state their observations.

Awareness is the basis of our technique of nonjudgmental observation resulting in the completion of previously unwanted habitual behavior. Our definition of awareness is a nonjudgmental seeing or noticing of the way you interact with your life circumstances. By simply noticing how you are without judging yourself for what you see, you will strengthen your ability to be present and centered regardless of the circumstances. And contrary to popular thought, if you do not judge yourself and if you are not hard on yourself when you see yourself lost in a “bad” habit, you will not become complacent. It has been our experience in working with thousands of people from all walks of life and from many different cultures all over the world that when a person lives his or her life with awareness, that individual is self empowered and becomes more productive, effective and satisfied.

We have discovered three ideas or principles that have been profoundly useful to people who are interested in dissolving mechanical behaviors and reclaiming control of their own lives. In Developing Inner Peace as the Nucleus to Global Peace Part 2 in next month’s article, we will investigate these Three Principles of Instantaneous Transformation as an access way into the moment and a gateway to inner peace.

Since 1987, internationally acclaimed authors, seminar leaders, and business consultants Ariel and Shya Kane have acted as guides, leading people through the swamp of the mind into the clarity and brilliance of the moment. To find out more about the Kanes and their Transformational Community or to sign up to join their email newsletter, visit their website at: www.TransformationMadeEasy.com. Information about their three award-winning books – Working On Yourself Doesn’t Work: The 3 Simple Ideas that will Instantaneously Transform Your Life, How to Create A Magical Relationship: The 3 Simple Ideas that will Instantaneously Transform Your Love Life and Being Here, Modern Day Tales of Enlightenment – is also available on their website. Their latest book, How to Have A Match Made in Heaven: A Transformational Approach to Dating, Relating and Marriage, is the winner of 5 awards and is also available in Spanish.

The Art of Listening with Ariel & Shya Kane

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The Art of Listening with Ariel & Shya Kane

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“True listening is actively listening to another with the intention of hearing what is being said from the other’s point of view.” – Ariel & Shya Kane

This month, we are celebrating our 30th wedding anniversary and our lives are truly wonderful! One of the biggest keys in keeping our relationship vibrant, loving and alive is listening. When you truly listen to another, it pulls you into the moment. And the moment is magic.

Experiencing sweetness, ease and fulfillment in all of your relationships, is a real possibility. We’ll explore this at our September 15th special event in NYC, Kisses Are Sweeter Than Whine, and our Art of Listening weekend seminar in NYC September 19th – 21st. Our friend Menna van Praag is also coming to town to lead a seminar on Writing Made Easy!

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Life Is A Date
An excerpt from How to Have A Match Made in Heaven: A Transformational
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If you’re dating or contemplating dating again, you may be reading this section with the desire to glean tips that will help you with that process. If you’ve been married for years, you may be skimming through this section to get on to the information that applies to you. You may erroneously think that you’re “beyond the dating stage” and may be rushing forward to find the marriage parts. But dating itself is a key building block for any relationship or marriage. In fact, when a couple gets into trouble, they have often forgotten to woo each other. They have forgotten how to date. It’s easy to forget when there are bills to be paid and children to be fed or when you’re busy trying to make your relationship “go somewhere.”

The two of us are on a succession of dates. They have already lasted 30 years and we expect a lifetime of them. Sometimes we stop what we’re doing when one or the other of us will say, “Want to take a date with me out to the mailbox?” Then we slip on our shoes and go out our front door. The screen door makes a creaking salute, and we often hold hands as we head out into our driveway, our feet crunching on the gravel. It’s a time to feel the air and smell the greenery and see the sun slanting through the trees. Or perhaps it’s a time to slide over the snow and watch the bare branches clatter in the wind. But it’s always a time just for us. Getting the mail is an excuse to be together.

Of course we don’t actually need an excuse since we live and work together, but we make one anyway. We have dates while doing the dishes and others while making a trip to the grocery store. We have a library date when we go together to pick out books on CD to listen to during the hour-long ride to New York City where we work. And occasionally over the years, we’ve even had a date in the emergency room as one or the other of us needed medical attention. It’s all an intimate adventure if you’re there for it.

Also tune to Being Here on the VoiceAmerica 7th Wave Channel with Ariel and Shya Kane is an ordinary person’s guide to Modern Day Enlightenment! This radio show is an exciting exploration, which opens the door to living in the moment. Through discussions and laughter you will discover how to be satisfied in all areas of your life, relate in more honest and natural ways, remain centered during life’s challenges, eliminate stress and dissolve those knee-jerk behaviors that rob you of your spontaneity and creativity. Ariel and Shya invite you to take a journey into Being Here. That is enough to simply, easily have a reality shift where you suddenly find yourself lighter, freer and more alive. Listeners will discover that there are no rules to follow or methods to learn. Being in the moment can transform even an ordinary circumstance into a profoundly moving, enlightening event. Don’t Miss Being Here! Tune in every Wednesday at 9:00 AM/PT, 12:00 PM/ET with Ariel and Shya Kane, right here on the 7th Wave Channel.

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Since 1987, internationally acclaimed authors, seminar leaders, and business consultants Ariel and Shya Kane have acted as guides, leading people through the swamp of the mind into the clarity and brilliance of the moment. To find out more about the Kanes and their Transformational Community or to sign up to join their email newsletter, visit their website at: www.TransformationMadeEasy.com. Information about their three award-winning books – Working On Yourself Doesn’t Work: The 3 Simple Ideas that will Instantaneously Transform Your Life, How to Create A Magical Relationship: The 3 Simple Ideas that will Instantaneously Transform Your Love Life and Being Here, Modern Day Tales of Enlightenment – is also available on their website. Their latest book, How to Have A Match Made in Heaven: A Transformational Approach to Dating, Relating and Marriage, is the winner of 5 awards and is also available in Spanish.

Book Events in Costa Rica with Ariel and Shya Kane

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Book Events in Costa Rica with Ariel and Shya Kane

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How to Have A Match Made in Heaven: Now Available in Spanish! 

Our most recent book, How to Have A Match Made in Heaven: A Transformational Approach to Dating, Relating and Marriage, is now available in Spanish Cómo crear la Relación Ideal: Un nuevo y transformador enfoque sobre las relaciones y el matrimonio

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We will be in Costa Rica doing a series of presentations and book signings!  And in November, we will be in Coral Gables, Florida, where we have been invited to speak at Books & Books.

Books & Books, an independent, locally owned bookstore with three locations in South Florida and stores in Grand Cayman, Westhampton Beach, and the Miami International Airport, has invited us to speak about Cómo crear la Relación Ideal / How to Have A Match Made in Heaven at their Coral Gables, Florida location in November.

Ariel and Shya Kane are award-winning authors and internationally acclaimed consultants and seminar leaders whose transformational approach allows people to discover satisfaction and increased productivity in all areas of their lives, without working on their “problems.” They are expert guides who, with great skill and humor, bring people through the swamp of the mind into the clarity and brilliance of the moment.

Acting as Catalysts for Personal Transformation, the Kanes provide ongoing consulting and interactive seminars for a range of clients from individuals and couples to entrepreneurs and Fortune 500 companies. In their seminar programs, they have created an environment in which thousands have experienced dramatic improvements in the quality of their lives.

Since 1987, the Kanes have designed and presented transformational seminars both nationally and throughout Europe, in Central and South America, Australia and Indonesia. In the United States, they have taught for many organizations such as The United Nations Society for Enlightenment and Transformation, The United Nations Women’s Guild, The New York Theosophical Society, Organizational Development Network, Omega Institute, Swedish Institute – Graduate Studies Program, The Learning Light Foundation, The Learning Annex, The Seminar Center and various conferences and health expos. The Kanes have produced nine successful audio titles and currently lead seminars throughout the U.S., Europe, and in Costa Rica.

How To Have A Match Made In Heaven By Ariel & Shya Kane

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Hear Ariel & Shya talk about writing their book How To Have A Match Made In Heaven, as well as share their tips on what has kept their relationship vibrant and alive as they approach their 30th wedding anniversary this year. In our world, this week marked 32 years since our first date. In “A Transformational Approach to Dating, Relating and Marriage,” we are pleased to share the practical tips that have kept our relationship loving and vibrant for over three decades.

“If you take a flower in your hand and really look at it, it’s your world for a moment.” – Georgia O’Keefe

Summer is a lovely time for slowing down and enjoying the world around you.  Slowing down also allows you to tune into your intuition. Those gut feelings and hunches often hold valuable information. Sometimes, they even dissolve decades-long grudges, as in our August Article of the Month  “That Small Not So Still Voice” (based on a true story).

Here’s to enjoying whatever is happening in your world in this moment!

Being Here with Ariel and Shya Kane is an ordinary person’s guide to Modern Day Enlightenment! This show is an exciting exploration, which opens the door to living in the moment. Through discussions and laughter you will discover how to be satisfied in all areas of your life, relate in more honest and natural ways, remain centered during life’s challenges, eliminate stress and dissolve those knee-jerk behaviors that rob you of your spontaneity and creativity. Ariel and Shya invite you to take a journey into Being Here. That is enough to simply, easily have a reality shift where you suddenly find yourself lighter, freer and more alive. Listeners will discover that there are no rules to follow or methods to learn. Being in the moment can transform even an ordinary circumstance into a profoundly moving, enlightening event. Don’t Miss Being Here! Tune in every Wednesday at 9:00 AM/PT, 12:00 PM/ET with Ariel and Shya Kane, right here on the 7th Wave Channel.

Waking Up from The Dream

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Waking Up from The Dream

 

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Back in the mid-eighties, we walked into a health food store and noticed a  tarot card reader who, for a nominal fee, offered short sessions for the  store’s clientele.  The two of us were departing within the week for a six  month intensive course at a meditation center in Europe and thought it might  be fun to see what she had to say about our imminent trip.  We had high hopes  that these six months would produce the Self Realization for which we had  worked so long and hard over many years to achieve.  So when our turn came,  we sat before her with expectations of a fun, lighthearted reading into our  futures that would affirm that we were on the right path, a path that would  bring us the illumination we desired.  Contrary to our expectations, we were  in for a big surprise.  It is shocking how disturbing it can be when someone  gives you information that goes in opposition to your point of view.  Here,  next to the 7 grain bread and organic beans, this tarot card reader told us  what she saw with the best of intentions and ultimately, we did not like it.

Gazing at the faces of the cards before her, she said, “I see you are going  on a trip.”  This sounded like a good beginning. We hadn’t given her any  information.  Next she said, “And this trip is not a short vacation but a  lengthy stay at a distant land.  You will be traveling over a large body of  water so wherever you are going, it is overseas.  The cards indicate that  this journey is one that is not lightly undertaken but one of a spiritual  nature, rather like a pilgrimage of sorts.”

Wow, we thought, she is really good!  If there had been a hidden camera  recording this event, the tape of our meeting would now show us eagerly  listening to catch every pearl of wisdom that this reader had to impart. It  is funny how we human beings idealize our lives hoping to prove that the road  we are traveling is the perfect or right one and maybe it is for awhile.  But  the smooth road we were on with this reader was about to take a very sharp  and bumpy turn.  She certainly had created credibility with us by describing  the near future events that were part of the script of our lives but then she  said something that sent us into an immediate panic and we broke into a cold  sweat.

Looking at the pictures intently, as if to catch some subtle nuance, this  woman solemnly pronounced that as a result of this trip and our experiences,  we would become – disillusioned.

Oh No!  We wanted illumination from this investment of our time and energy,  not disillusionment, whatever that meant.  It sounded so negative and we  wanted our lives to be positive.  Here we were, about to invest six months  and a lot of money and we certainly didn’t want to be disillusioned as a  result. To tell you the truth, it is hard to remember what happened next.   The idea of being disillusioned by this trip of a lifetime, which we had  planned to save us from ourselves and the domination of life, was suddenly  upsetting.  We thanked her, rather stiffly, and left that store deeply shaken  by those few words that we disagreed with.

One week later we were in Europe.  Six long months later, we were leaving  Europe, in fact, disillusioned.  On our journey, the two of us discovered  that we were not interested in a counter culture way of life which by its  very nature is based in opposition to that which already exists.  Rather, we  realized that we wanted to live from our truth, which is not for or against  the so called establishment.

When we got back to the States, we thought about the tarot card reader and  what she had said and finally broke out the dictionary to look up the word  disillusion.  We were surprised by its definition because we had thought of  being disillusioned in all the terms one might find in a thesaurus, i.e. failure,  disappointment, falling short of, dashing one’s hopes, etc.  In fact, the  primary definition of disillusion is “to free of illusion and false ideas.” What it means is that the illusion under which you have been living is  dissolved so that you see the truth of the situation, as it is, not as you  would prefer it to be.

This disillusionment was the beginning of our Self Realization.  After we  returned from Europe, we discovered that nothing was going to save us from  ourselves and the domination of life.  No matter where you go, you bring  yourself along. Over the past years, as seminar leaders, authors and  individuals living our lives, we have come to realize that the only time life  dominates you is when you are not living in the moment, when your hopes for  the future create an illusion of how it will someday be better than it is  now.  True freedom happens when the illusion dissolves and you live life  directly in each moment not as you would prefer it, but as it is.  If you  want to live life to your potential, rather than strive to be a better you,  discover who you are and how you are being in any given moment.

Don’t Miss Being Here! Tune in every Wednesday at 9:00 AM/PT, 12:00 PM/ET with Ariel and Shya Kane, right here on the 7th Wave Channel.  Tune in Here Now!

Being Here with Ariel and Shya Kane is an ordinary person’s guide to Modern Day Enlightenment! This show is an exciting exploration, which opens the door to living in the moment. Through discussions and laughter you will discover how to be satisfied in all areas of your life, relate in more honest and natural ways, remain centered during life’s challenges, eliminate stress and dissolve those knee-jerk behaviors that rob you of your spontaneity and creativity. Ariel and Shya invite you to take a journey into Being Here. That is enough to simply, easily have a reality shift where you suddenly find yourself lighter, freer and more alive. Listeners will discover that there are no rules to follow or methods to learn. Being in the moment can transform even an ordinary circumstance into a profoundly moving, enlightening event.

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