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Catching a Communicable Ease

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Catching a Communicable Ease


Catching a Communicable Ease
by Ariel Kane

Have you ever noticed how the attitude with which you approach life influences your experience of your day and can impact the way others around you go about theirs? I once had a sweet reminder of this that had me quietly smiling to myself as I went about my day.

It was a frigid Tuesday morning in winter and my husband Shya and I had a routine appointment with our country doctor. His office is a small country affair, which looks like it belongs more in a rerun of Mayberry RFD (a television show about small town Middle America that aired from the late sixties to early seventies) with Opie and Aunt Bee than it does in modern day America. One would not guess at first glance that this doctor was one of the most caring, comprehensive and progressive doctors around. Not only is he an internist, practicing at the local hospital, but he also practices homeopathic and Ayurvedic medicines.

However, this physician is famous amongst his patients is being chronically late. We have encouraged many friends to see him but we always warn people to plan to be there for an extended period as his schedule is rarely, if ever, on time. We plan for it as well. It is part of the culture of his office. When weather permitted, we took a walk before our appointment. Arriving on time, we signed in, gave Nurse Nancy our cell number and she called us when he arrived. This allowed us to stroll over a nearby bridge spanning the Delaware River between New Jersey and Pennsylvania where we watched carp and bass and at times, shad swim down below. Snow geese frequented the shores and it was a pleasure to watch the seasons as they changed.

We also have planned in advance to be the first patients of the day as we have come to recognize that the doctor’s schedule often gets further delayed; he does not rush to get his patients done with, is really there for each one and sometimes that takes more than the 15 minutes allotted and sometimes he is delayed at the hospital due to an emergency or at the local retirement community where he is their physician on call. I have seen him on mornings when he is bright and chipper and have also seen him directly following the death of an elderly patient whom he had been treating for years.

Normally, I expect a doctor to be pretty much on time as, in my opinion, it is respectful. But with this physician, I have come to realize that if I wish to see him, it comes with his rhythm and his lack of timeliness. I then have one of two choices – surrender or complain. I choose the former. This means that Shya and I not only plan for our appointments to generally start far later than the scheduled time but also that we treat it as if this is exactly what we want.

On this particular Tuesday morning, we were called in to see him approximately an hour after our appointed time. I had been quite productive whilst waiting that day and had finished most of my emails as I had been sitting there. When the doctor touched my arm his fingers were inordinately chilly.

“Wow, Doctor, your hands are really cold this morning!” I said.

“I spent a long time in my car in the parking lot talking to the family of a patient,” he replied quietly.

While he said nothing further I imagined I heard pain in his voice. For certain the discussion he had had was a challenging one, one that truly mattered to whomever he was conversing with. I knew in an instant that he had been compassionately guiding a family through a difficult time.

Shortly thereafter I returned to the waiting room to collect my things and my coat and hat. The room, as usual had a host of patients, most of whom were obviously retired. As I removed my belongings from a chair next to a gentleman of advanced years I smiled and told him that the doctor was in now and he had just seen us so it shouldn’t be too much longer.

“How long did you have to wait, only about 8 hours?” the man asked only half in jest.

I leaned in as I retrieved my computer, which was sitting on the floor near his chair, “He was delayed in the parking lot while talking with a patient’s family. If it were my family he had been talking to I am sure I would have been happy that he took the time,” I softly said.

It was still cold outside and it took a few moments for Shya and I to don our vests, coats, scarves and hats. As we were doing so, Nurse Nancy called the gentleman with whom I had just had the exchange but he turned to the lady sitting next to him and said, “Why don’t you go first. I have the time.”

Pulling the door closed as I exited the office I smiled to myself. I realized that in a doctor’s office it is reasonable to expect that you may be exposed to a communicable disease, particularly during flu season. But on this particular chilly winter morning, at least one man had been exposed to a communicable ease and it was already spreading to those around him.

Peace, Fresh Air, Estate Plans

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Welcome to Starstyle®-Be the Star You Are!® with your hosts Cynthia Brian and Heather Brittany on the Voice America Empowerment Channel.  We strive to be useful, informative, interesting, entertaining, and unique as we seed, stimulate, and support space for positive, meaningful conversations. Instead of waiting for something better, we hope to help you create it now. 

For many, the holiday season and Christmas brings a time of deep reflection and strong focus on family and loved ones. Join us for this most special interview with The Peace Angel, Nola Hennessy, as she shares her intimate knowledge of God and Heaven, and the importance of living our lives virtuously with compassion, kindness, forgiveness, inner peace, selflessness, and love as the cornerstones.

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We spend 93% of our time indoors, but are we breathing clean air? Indoor pollutants makes us sick. Heather Brittany encourages you to pick up the mop, plug in the vacuum, and follow some simple tips to reduce the levels of irritants and chemicals in your home.  What is an Estate Plan and why do you need one? Cynthia Brian outlines the necessity of creating an estate plan regardless of your income so that you can enjoy your life more. Listen at Voice America and Listen at StarStyle Radio with photos and descriptions. 

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The award winning positive talk radio program, StarStyle®-Be the Star You Are!® broadcasts on the Voice America Empowerment Channel LIVE every Wednesday from 4-5pm Pt/7-8pm ET.  Cynthia Brian and Heather Brittany are the Mother/Daughter dynamic duo who have been co-hosting this program live weekly since 1998 bringing upbeat, life enhancing conversation to the world. With Cynthia’s expertise in interviewing the trailblazers, authors, and experts and Heather’s healthy living segments, these Goddess Gals are your personal growth coaches helping you to jumpstart your life while igniting your flame of greatness.

Brought to the airwaves under the auspices of the literacy and positive media charity, Be the Star You Are!®, each program will pump your energy to help you live, love, laugh, learn, and lead.  Previous guests and fans of the program on World Talk Radio will always be able to access the archives. Tune in the Power Hour every Wednesday from 4-5pm PT/70-8pmET and join our empowerment party.

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I Want to Be Married! From a Gay Man’s Perspective

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I Want to Be Married! From a Gay Man’s Perspective


Toney Nicacio is a gay man and loves the Book, “Don’t Get Married, Get a Five Year Contract”, but he Wants to get married!  Lori Jae and Toney know each other well as they both are Psychic Practioners in the Phoenix Area.  However, Toney brings a different perspective to the discussion as he does want marriage but also agrees with much of the book.  They will bring both perspectives to the table and talk sincerely about how they feel about this topic.  Toney, is an eloquent speaker who was born in California and had an active lifestyle in San Francisco. He will speak about his life and what have been the experiences that have helped formulate his feelings of marriage and life in general.


Join Toney and Lori Jae as they explore many sides of life along with their abilities as psychics, past life readers and mediums in Phoenix and other areas they lived. What a fun nooner this will be! Toney Nicacio, a fellow psychic and good friend, will bring to us some of his history while living in San Francisco, along with how he would like to help fellow gay men with their Spiritual Journey along with people in all walks of life! Toney is a gifted born psychic who’s abilities began at the age of 9. He is an empath, healer, clairvoyant,and medium. Originally born and raised in California, he spent most of his years in San Francisco and the Bay area. Toney has also worked diligently with police departments in forensics to help find missing persons. With Toney’s engaging personality and deep empathic compassion, he can provide clarity and peace of mind to the heart.

Are You Uncomfortable When You Are Quiet? Why? And What Can We Do About It?

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Are You Uncomfortable When You Are Quiet? Why? And What Can We Do About It?


On today’s InsideOut Forum Discussion Call, we explored what we feel when we are quiet and why. It was a fascinating discovery of all the many ways and reasons that we uncomfortable when we get quiet. Some people fear feeling unloved, others fear being alone or judged or empty. We also heard a man share about using meditation as a means of escaping being really quiet and connected to himself and his body. Others feared being quiet because they didn’t want to hear that inner guidance compelling  them to do something they had been resisting. Join our discussion and share your own experiences and feelings about being quiet. Our community welcomes you to co-create with us an online community where it is safe to be real and to receive compassion and support. Feel free to watch this video about Beth Green.

Express Yourself Teens Talk Discuss “Ways to Show You Care” By Cynthia Brian

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Helping HandsA common thread with the teens of Be the Star You Are!® and Express Yourself!™ Teen Radio is that they CARE-for themselves, for each other, and for total strangers. Co-hosts Alex Lee and Henna Hundal along with reporters Katelyn Darrow and Asya Gonzalex offer numerous tips on how everyone can show kindness every day in small ways. In the Giving of Giving, Katelyn gets excited about “Angel Deeds”, doing special things anonymously “just because”.

Social Responsibiity Reporter, Asya Gonzalez is passionate about visiting nursing homes to give the elderly a listening ear. In Health with Henna, Henna Hundal shares research on the benefits to oneself for being a caring, compassionate, kind individual. Great tips on how to write special encouraging notes, be fair and considerate in on-line conversations, and ways to volunteer with organizations that help you step out of yourself and into another’s shoes. The paradox of life is that the more we care for others, the more we care for ourselves.  Like happiness, kindness is a choice. Pay it Forward

Listen at Voice America for Express Yourself New Episode “Express Yourself Teens Talk Discuss Ways to Show You Care”  Also Listen at Express Yourself! Teen Radio

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My Five-Part Mindset For Living In Flow By Deborah Jane Wells

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My Five-Part Mindset For Living In Flow By Deborah Jane Wells

DeborahOrangeYou might think the “hard” part would be creating a substantive, meaningful, well-written 266-page book that includes moving stories from your own life, inspiring stories from your clients’ lives and a proprietary framework for turning unexplored possibilities into fulfilling realities. And that once you’d published said book, you’d live in a state of non-stop wonder, gratitude and celebration.

That would be precisely how you’d respond if you continued to fuel yourself with love rather than fear. But every moment in life is an opportunity to remember all we know about love, respect, curiosity, compassion and gratitude (LRCCG) producing a life of flow filled with faith, hope, prosperity, peace and joy (FHPPJ) or forget it entirely and, as my iPEC coach training instructor used to say, climb back into the fear-fueled catabolic canoe! (Click here for a brief explanation of catabolic energy.)

This period after publishing my book and before the initial publicity gains momentum has offered me the perfect opportunity to benefit from flopping around in the mire a bit due to temporarily forgetting what I so ably applied while writing the book—that love-fueled flow, not fear-fueled force, enhances joy-filled productivity and fosters peace. And to remember how quickly painful fear-fueled, unrealistic performance measures can suck the life out of any experience.

In the process of using every truth, tool and trick in my satchel to re-center myself multiple times a day in LRCCG so I’d experience FHPPJ once again, I expanded my simplified three-part job description (shared in my 5/10/13 blog post) into a five-part mindset to better anchor it in my consciousness. Here’s the result:

  • Come as you are—Show up and bring the best I have to offer in this moment. Not last year’s best, or next year’s best or someone else’s best. Just the best I’ve got to offer with the love and light I’m giving myself access to at this time. Quit judging myself as insufficient. I am always enough, just as I am right here and now.
  • Live the Truth—God is God, I am God’s and love is the greatest power in the Universe. My Source is excellent, limitless,      and reliable. No external force can block my highest good. Universal abundance flows to and through me. Whatever my circumstances, I know who I am and Whose I am. I am a unique cocreative expression of the Divine. How could that ever not be enough?
  • Commit to the highest good—Universal love is always unfolding the highest good for all, in all, through all. Love, respect, curiosity, and compassion reveal and advance the highest good. My part is to align myself with the highest good by keeping myself free of fear and holding myself wide open as a clear channel for love and light. Way cool!
  • Express gratitude—While feeling grateful is a nice start, don’t stop there. Express it to and for every being, encounter, and experience. Appreciate my life. Know that everything’s an opportunity. Expect it. Go looking for it. Notice it. Say,      “Thank you!” Gratitude for Universal abundance fosters generous, effortless, gracious flow filled with faith, hope, prosperity, peace, and joy. And it starts with being grateful for every aspect of myself—the attributes that thrill me and those that frustrate me and everyone who knows me. They are all essential elements of my unique cocreative role in      expressing the Divine. I totally rock!
  • Trust God with the details—Resist the urge to over-manage the minutiae and end up trapped in the weeds. Even though I’m bright and creative, that level of specificity is way above my pay grade. Remain focused on my responsibilities (the first four parts of the mindset) and stay tuned to the Universal frequency for further instructions on where to go, what to do, when, and with whom. When I discern, focus, and follow through, the Universe works wonders through me. My job becomes so much easier when I allow God to be God!

When it comes to my book, the first four parts of my job comprise fully investing all forms of my energy (time, talents, and money) in:

  • Appreciating and capturing the power and nature of the transformation I experienced,
  • Reverse engineering what happened,
  • Creating a framework for teaching the principles and process to others,
  • Coaching my clients with the framework and gathering their stories of transformation,
  • Testing and refining the framework and stories based on client feedback and results,
  • Turning all of it into a book,
  • Choosing the optimal publisher and
  • Leading robust publicity before and after the book’s release.

My role in part five of the mindset is to release any specific expectations about the nature, magnitude and timing of what will result (books sold, royalties earned, new clients enrolled, etc.). Success consists of engaging fully in the process and remaining completely detached from a precise outcome. It’s God’s job to determine the end result. I get to enjoy it, whenever it happens in whatever form it takes because, Universal love is always unfolding the highest good for all, in all, through all. Ta-da!

I frequently hear from readers, listeners, and clients that they are encouraged and gain even deeper insight when I share my personal ups and downs. They learn how to sustain faith and hope while treating themselves with respect and compassion when they too stray from the path. A Zen mistress living a perpetually serene life in a mountain retreat would soon be of little use to anyone living in the real world. Fortunately for all of us, it would appear I have little risk of transitioning to that sort of existence any time soon. Hallelujah, opportunities will abound for the foreseeable future!

The only person controlling your life is you. Turn unexplored possibilities into fulfilling realities by harnessing the transformative power of love to step into your greatness. Choose your energy and change your life!


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About the Author

What’s love got to do with minimizing stress and getting unstuck? Everything, according to empowerment coach and inspirational speaker Deborah Jane Wells, author of Choose Your Energy: Change Your Life! During her 30 years as an organization transformation consultant, Deborah served as a senior partner in four of the world’s largest, most prestigious global professional services firms. In 2005, she took a five-year sabbatical to find healing and peace because non-stop work had taken its toll. Her recovery from burnout, including a sustained 80-pound weight loss and freedom from 10 years of debilitating depression, led to finding her purpose guiding others on their journeys. Through healing and self-exploration, she discovered that loving yourself unconditionally is the key to transforming your personal life, your work, and the world. Deborah’s books, blog, radio show, and signature coaching programs help individuals and organizations harness the transformative power of love to step into their greatness. Learn more at the Deborah Jane Wells Website.

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