Who is the Designated Driver of Your Life?
by Ariel & Shya Kane
Shortly before the car accident that our friends were in that could potentially have ended several lives, one passenger in back seat had the passing thought, âI wish I was in the driverâs seat,â but he didnât pay attention to his intuition. Another back seat passenger saw that the driver wasnât heeding the signs indicating a turn ahead and thought, âOh well, she knows what she is doing and where she is going.â The front seat passenger gave the driverâs chatter and the route no thought at all. He wasnât in the driverâs seat after all.
Luckily, the ensuing car crash due to âdistracted drivingâ only totaled the car but did not seriously injure anyone. But it got us thinking that in that car, on that night, there was no designated driver. Each person, including the woman operating the vehicle, abdicated responsibility for the drive and arriving safely at their destination.
Of course many accidents are just what the name implies: an accident â an unintentional, unfortunate happening, something that is unexpected. But many of lifeâs âaccidentalâ events are really an extension of how we are living our lives. We are often times passengers being carried along by circumstances and subject to the whims of those around us rather than living life directly, rather than being our own designated driver on the road of life.
If you want to get back in the driverâs seat, start by keeping your word with yourself. Every time you say you are going to do something and then blow it off you get a little bit sleepier, you will find yourself dull. Next, actually be where you are. The people in our car accident story were either lost in the past â talking about their childhood, trying to extend the âfunâ from the party from which they had just departed or they were wishing they were home in their beds already, rather than being engaged in the ride.
Last but not least engage, be interested, be direct. Why not pay attention to your hunches and act upon them? Why not speak up when in doubt? It is your life after all. Why not sit firmly in the driverâs seat of your own life with your hands upon the wheel?
Since 1987, internationally acclaimed authors, seminar leaders, radio show hosts and business consultants Ariel and Shya Kane have acted as guides, leading people through the swamp of the mind into the clarity and brilliance of the moment. Find out more about the Kanes, their seminars in NYC, in the UK, Germany and Costa Rica, the Say YES to Your Life! Meetups their work has inspired, their Being Here radio show or join their email newsletter at http://www.transformationmadeeasy.com/. Also get information about their four award-winning books. Their newest book, Practical Enlightenment, is now available on Amazon.com.