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G.I.V.E. to Get

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G.I.V.E. to Get

Emotional skills are more important than ever for 21st century business. Good leadership can be quickly undermined by lack of emotional regulation. Without the skill to manage your own emotion, leaders can act impulsively. Harsh works can burn long built bridges of connection in seconds, leaving damaged working relationships in ashes. And what is ultimately damaged is trust.

So, what can you do?

First, leaders need to be self-aware of the things that cause them to be dysregulated. The body is the first clue. By scanning for sensations that signal distress, you can start to reverse the process. Sensations like a tight throat, a pounding heart, judgmental thoughts, sweaty palms, and a knot in the stomach are signals that shouldn’t be ignored. Our body gives us clues to our state of mind constantly. Understanding how your body speaks to you is worth investigating with curiosity.

Once you know what is happening, giving yourself permission to step away, take a breath, and sooth yourself. Use your five senses: focus on something beautiful, listen to music, smell something calming, put an ice cube in your mouth. By focusing on these sensations, the brain has to shift. As we calm down, you can gain perspective and choice how to respond to a situation, rather than reacting impulsively that could negatively impact important relationships.

For your teams to feel respected and valued, they need to feel heard. Listening to those around you is an important skill many leaders struggle with; however, it is critical for everyone’s success. When teams feel heard, they will not only give you their best, they will give you their loyalty.

An easy way to remember this skill is G.I.V.E. (adapted from the work of Marsha Linehan, PhD)
• (be) GENTLE: approach the conversation in a non-threatening, open, receptive and available way.
• (be) INTERESTED: John Gottman says it is more important to be interested than interesting! This
means you are attentive, curious, and focused on listening, not to just respond, but to
understand what is being said. You are allowing the time to really pay attention while
setting aside your own preconceived ideas of what might be happening.
• VALIDATE: Validation is about understanding. It is not about fixing a situation, or finding a
teaching moment. It is saying “I get it” without looking for rebuttals. The primary goal is
to have the speaker feel heard. This step MUST ALWAYS precede problem solving.
• EASY MANNER: Being approachable and creating a safe space where people can come to you with
concerns is an important skill. It allows you to be professional without being intimidating.
Safety increases trust and communication.

Remember, learning new skills is a practice, but one that is well worth it! It is not enough to work from the top down. To be truly successful, we must work from the inside out!

If you would like to listen to the show Skills of Connection follow this link to hear the replay!

https://www.voiceamerica.com/episode/104077/skills-for-connection

Dealing with Stress Like Your Life Depends On It

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Dealing with Stress Like Your Life Depends On It

It seems that we all spend an enormous amount time trying to avoid what we feel. Every other commercial on TV or the Internet is designed to take us away from what is happening to us. Have a headache? Take this. Overwhelmed? Talk to your doctor about this new medication. Stressed? Get away to our great vacation destination. But everyone of these strategies are about avoiding what is happening to us. Although some avoidance can be a positive exercise, we can’t get away from everything that stresses us out. So, what are we supposed to do?

When we allow ourselves to pay attention to what is happening, both internally and externally, it gives us the ability to look at things in a new way. If we get curious about the sensations in our body, our thoughts and judgments going through our head, the emotions we feel, and the environment these all exit in, we can assess what is happening vs. just reacting to it. That pause, to key into ourselves, allows us to make decisions about what is needed in the moment.

One of the problems I often see is that we know what we need (to eat, to rest, to play, to be creative) but we deny ourselves these things because there are always more pressing things to do. We focus on the “to do” list and we become so enslaved to it that we put taking care of ourselves last on that list every time. We begin to glean our self-worth from how much me do and how productive we are. We wear our exhaustion like a badge of honor becoming “Human Doings” instead of “Human Beings.”

I still remember a time when we went to work from 9-5. When we arrived home, we did not engage in our work again until the next day. There was time for recreation, time for family, time of hobbies, time to just play with the kids and time to rest. But, our 21st century lives don’t work that way. We are expected to be available to our jobs nights, weekends, and holidays. There is no break because the workday never ends. And the things that are designed to keep us resilient get pushed aside.

As we continue to operate this way, is it any wonder that stress related illness is out of control? Our bodies can only take so much before they will let us know they are at the breaking point. Ignoring the signs can make us literally sick, or worse.

I believe that getting clear about what is happening to us is not just something helpful to do, but vital to our health, well-being, and ultimately our survival. It is not optional any more. We must cultivate things in our lives that gives us resiliency to combat the stress we encounter every day. Those things can include rest, creativity, music, meditation, yoga, sport, recreation, nature, pets, volunteerism, and activism. When we make time in our lives for the things that matter, that things that are difficult get better. It is a practice, like any other Mindfulness practice. But without it, the stress of our lives can overtake us and rob us of any joy in our lives, leaving us resentful and bitter.

It is so important. Make the time. It is not optional. Engage in it like your life depends on it, because it does!

When things don’t go as planned

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When things don’t go as planned

John Lennon once said, “Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans.”

My plan was to start my brand-new radio show on VoiceAmerica on Monday, November 6th. This was something way out of my comfort zone. I worked hard with my producer, Winston Price, to learn how to assemble a meaningful show, talk to guests and create interesting content. I spent the last 8 weeks focused on getting the show ready. I was nervous and excited at the same time.

Sitting in the studio, headsets on, my guest and business partner, Annie Campbell, sitting across from me, we were ready to go. And then nothing happened. Crickets.

For some reason, despite the best efforts of two hard working engineers, they could not fix the problem. The show was not going to happen. At least tonight.

My show, Innovative Mindful Solutions, is focused on how to mindfully approach our thoughts and emotions that may sabotage our businesses and our lives. I believe that when we rigidly attach ourselves to a specific outcome, not only do we create more suffering for ourselves, but that attachment may keep us from seeing other viable options and possibilities. Mindfulness allows us to step back, observe the situation and ourselves as it is in THIS moment, not as we would wish it to be. The universe was presenting me a true test of my convictions. Would I practice what I preach or succumb to my disappointment? I realized I had a choice to make.

So, taking a deep breath, I smiled at two very concerned engineers. And Annie did as well. I thanked them for their hard work and diligence in trying to fix the problem and get us on the air. I could see the relief on their faces when I told them that I was grateful for their efforts. I knew they were expecting us to be upset or angry. We decided to regroup and try again next week. I knew it would be OK.

And I realized John Lennon was right!

So, the do over of Innovative Mindful Solutions will be next Monday, November 13th at 4pm PST/ 7pm EST on the VoiceAmerica Business Channel. Click the link below and join us to learn new ways to manage your business and your life when things don’t go as planned!

https://www.voiceamerica.com/show/2708/innovative-mindful-solutions-with-terry-galler

The Gift of Emotions By Cynthia Brian

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The Gift of Emotions By Cynthia Brian

The Gift of Emotions
Teens talk and the world listens every Tuesday NOON PT on the Voice America Kids Network. Produced by StarStyle® Productions, LLC and Cynthia Brian, these young adults know how to rock and express their unique views. Join the fun!

Asya Gonzalez and Maria Wong host a lively discussion about our relationship with emotions. Technology has falsely convinced us that we are developing communication through apps, smartphones, and social media, when in fact to really express an emotion, face to face contact is necessary. Yoga instructor and competitive gymnastics coach, Catie Jarvis, joins the discussion with her first novel, The Peacock Room. The Peacock Room tells the coming of age story of Jonis and Lizzy: a young man with a mysterious medical condition that causes one leg to grow far too long, and the frustrated musical savant who falls in love with him. The novel inspires emotional responses. In our Book smart segment, Maria reviews The God of Small Things, a book that perfectly captures the Gift of Emotion because throughout the novel, the characters display a wide array of emotions ranging from jealousy, sadness, fear, and joy. Emotions make us human. Get emotional

Author Bio: Catie Jarvis:
Catie Jarvis is an author of fiction, as well as a yoga instructor, a competitive gymnastics coach, and an online writing instructor. She received her B.A. in writing from Ithaca College, and her M.F.A. in creative writing from the California College of the Arts. She grew up on a lake in northern New Jersey and now lives by the ocean in Santa Monica, California. The Peacock Room is her first novel.  https://www.catiejarvis.com/

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How to live a confident and vital life! By Catherine Calarco

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How to live a confident and vital life! By Catherine Calarco

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Interested in learning how to transform yourself at the speed of thought?  It takes only 90 Seconds!  What often blocks people from feeling capable in life and from having greater success with finances, health or relationships is how they handle unpleasant feelings. Psychologist Joan Rosenberg unveils the innovative strategy and surprising keys for experiencing the challenging emotions that lie at the heart of confidence, emotional strength, and resilience.
On Humanity Evolve!, we Explore the link between confidence and dealing with negative emotions to live a full and vital life. The idea for Emotional Mastery™ emerged out of Dr Joan Rosenberg’s personal and professional desires to understand what makes people do the things they do – a question that dates back to her childhood days, watching and wondering why people treat each other in harsh and unpleasant ways. Out of her psychological work with women over the last 20yrs, Dr Joan began developing the foundational ideas for Emotional Mastery™. Three decades, tens of thousands of hours of clinical practice and the past ten years of neuroscience research have been distilled into an approach that radically changes people’s lives. Neuroscience concepts explain why this approach to change works. Health and well-being involve daily choices and daily actions and efforts. So for the rest of today and for tomorrow too, just start by being aware of your choices.  What choice will you make that supports your physical health?  What choice will you make that supports your mental and emotional well-being?  Now, Emotional Mastery™ can help you live a confident and vital life!
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Digital Download/Bonus: To download an excerpt from Ease Your Anxiety – “What You Say to Yourself, Matters: How to Change What You Say to Relieve Anxiety, Diminish Doubt and Experience Confidence and Inner Peace”, visit http://DrJoanRosenberg.com/anxiety-reset/

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Is It Too Good To Be True? By Marni

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Is It Too Good To Be True? By Marni

I’ve been having conversations recently with a friend.  He truly wants to find and enjoy a long term committed relationship.  His relationship experience is dotted with disappointment and hurt.  He recently met someone new and they clicked.
In one breath, he tells me about their amazing connection.  They enjoy spending time together, talking, intimacy, just hanging out.  They’re very attracted to each other, yet it’s much more than physical.  He spends a lot of time telling me about their connection in some detail.  They have similar values, think similarly, yet they also have some differences.
Then he says “she is a unicorn”.  By definition a unicorn is a fantasy, “a mythical animal typically represented as a horse with a single straight horn projecting from its forehead.”  He follows this up saying “she seems perfect for me.  There must be something I’m not seeing.  I keep looking for what’s wrong with her.  She is too good to be true.” 
Have you ever met someone amazing and thought that very same thing? “Too Good to Be True?”  It could be with a relationship, a friendship, a job, the way your life is flowing.  Anything.
I had a time when I felt this way too.  It wasn’t when I met and dated my husband.  It was later AFTER we married.  Weird, I know.
When you say “it’s too good to be true,” You’re questioning what is coming into your life because of your own lack of or limited belief in self-love, self-worth. You feel self-doubt which causes you to resist change, looking for “the other shoe to drop” effect, instead of embracing change.
Your limiting belief is two-fold (or more):
1)   You’re missing some of the enjoyment of your relationship by focusing on some unforeseen problem (fear, anxiety) that may not ever happen.  That is creating fear in you and causes you to “ping pong”.  Yes, I am in.  No, I am afraid.  Yes, I am in.  No, I am afraid. The ping ponging changes the magnetic energy around you as well as your behavior and it can feel confusing to someone else without them understanding why.
For my friend, it comes out in his relationship when they discuss their relationship histories.  He wants to know, he doesn’t want to know.  Then he hears something that concerns him and thinks he may have found “the other shoe”, but he doesn’t really want to find the other shoe.   And then these feelings drape themselves over his girlfriend and she becomes sensitive and upset.  Meanwhile he doesn’t understand why she is upset. This can lead to drama, unnecessary drama, instead of enjoying each moment and the now.
2)   What are you truly afraid of? Why do you feel you do not deserve this happiness and love? He has been hurt in the past.  Does that sound familiar? He says maybe he isn’t meant to be with someone. Which is as close to saying “maybe I don’t deserve to be with someone”, “maybe I’m not loveable”.  My friend has a harder time going to this place.  That is so common.  Who wants to sit in feelings of “I’m not worthy” and “I’m not loveable”.  And yet, even not addressing them, they take hold in your life.  And they can decimate your relationships if you engage or speak from lack.
When you have full love and belief in yourself, you stop resisting, surrender and embrace change.  Then you move past the “is this really happening?; Is this real?; Is this something I deserve? And you just say…YES.
If you feel “it is too good to be true?” or you wait for the “other shoe to drop”? What do you do about it? Do you do anything about it or silently suffer?
You can put an end to these silent and shared conversations.  You can quiet your fear.  It is so possible.  I didn’t always believe it.  Through my own healing and the support and guidance I share with and teach to my clients, I’ve seen and experienced it.
And if you are ready to look at your life from a possibility of: anything is possible and life has many possibilities. I invite you to a complimentary call with me Touching Your Inner Guidance.  Just click the link below and we’ll talk about what you are done with and ready to leave behind; what you want for yourself and can so have; and how what I do can support and guide you to those extraordinary possibilities.  

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Introduction to Esoteric Healing By Lauren Dillon-Merrill

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Introduction to Esoteric Healing By Lauren Dillon-Merrill

We will be talking about the energy healing modality of Esoteric Healing. What is Esoteric Healing and how it’s different from other healing modalities. The importance of Alignment and Attunement and asking for healing to be according to the will of the soul, and how the Soul influences our healing, well-being, and life lessons. We’ll talk a bit about how in Esoteric Healing classes we gain a deeper understanding of ourselves as spiritual beings, our spiritual anatomy, and how each chakras influences a physiological system of our physical body as well as the emotional and mental psychological contribution a chakra offers. If you’re feeling lost or stuck in life, dealing with physical or emotional pain, or stuck in mental limitations, Esoteric Healing can help: help you help yourself and help you to help others. In addition to info about our Fall Esoteric Healing Class!

Is It True That God Never Gives Us More Than We Can Handle?

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Is It True That God Never Gives Us More Than We Can Handle?

God never gives us more than we can handle

On today’s InsideOut Forum Discussion Call we took on the age-old platitude that God never gives us more than we can handle. We could all acknowledge that we have known many people, including ourselves for whom this platitude is not true. We could relate to the reality that we all know people who have died or been irreparably damaged by traumas or loss. Why do we say this then? One reason we could see was that saying to ourselves such things as “Only good can come of this,” might help us relax in the moment, but that pretending to be able to handle something that we can’t only sends us into denial. This denial, in turn, causes us to pretend we are okay and NOT to get the help or support that might, in fact, help us to heal and move beyond the pain. Join our online blog conversation and share your perspective!

What Secrets Are You Keeping…From Others or Even From Yourself?

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What Secrets Are You Keeping…From Others or Even From Yourself?

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On today’s InsideOut Forum Discussion call we explored the topic of what secrets we are keeping from others and even from ourselves. It was painful and sometimes entertaining to see how much we have in common, one more time! Many of us could relate to keeping the secret that we feel entitled to indulge ourselves if we work hard. Another secret some kept is that we are stronger  or less overwhelmed than we want you to think, so you won’t ask more of me. Or, some of us are keeping our passion hidden, the passion for consciousness, the passion our work or for relationships or our own lives. Join us in the conversation and share your secrets!

Appreciation, Gratitude, Illness and Growth

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Appreciation, Gratitude, Illness and Growth

Holidays

Appreciation, Gratitude, Illness and Growth ©2014 Joan M. Newcomb

We’re in the holiday season, amidst the hustle and bustle of shopping and eating and family and friends!

If we hit the holidays head on, we operate solely from our “to do” list. We operate unconsciously. Things get done because this is the way they’ve always been done. Things have to be done perfectly. We get stressed out. We get sick.

Step back and see the bigger picture. It’s a time of Thanksgiving, but what does that mean? Grateful to have your Christmas decorations up already? Grateful for Black Friday so you can finally get that coveted item on sale?

Appreciation is a lighter energy, and a broader perspective. It’s also associated with prosperity and abundance. Whenever you pay for something, you’re expressing your appreciation for it. Whenever someone pays you, they’re expressing appreciation for your service!

New Years brings the end of the holiday, the end of 2014, and the beginning of a whole new cycle of growth. Whenever we go through expansion, our bodies have to adjust. Our vibrational frequency raises, and the denser aspects within us rise to the surface to be cleared.

We can experience this as needing to sleep more or eat more, but we can also experience it as illness. Our bodies want to be nurtured through growth experiences!

Hot baths, chocolate, movies, books, naps, all are great ways to coax your body through a growth experience.

Express appreciation to your body by giving it a little extra self-care this holiday season. You might avoid getting sick!

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Joan M. Newcomb is a Conscious Mastery Coach, energy teacher and co-host of Conscious Conversations with Joan and Janet which airs on Wednesdays at 3pm PT, 6pm ET on Voice America’s 7th Wave. Visit Joan’s website.

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