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Being of Service, an Excerpt from Practical Enlightenment
by Ariel & Shya Kane
âI donât know what your destiny will be, but one thing I know: the only ones among you who will be really happy are those who will have sought and found how to serve.â â Albert Schweitzer
Laurie showed up with a spring in her step and a noticeably lighter demeanor. There had been a festival in town and she had taken part. In actuality, she had seen little of the entertainment, nor had she partaken of the rides and activities. Instead, she was âin charge of beans.â The gathering was a community outreach project produced by her church and she had spent the day at the outdoor barbecue serving beans. We could tell that she came away well-fed.
There are infinite possibilities for service. In your own community there are bound to be plenty of pre-existing avenues or you can create some of your own. Throughout the world there is a grass roots movement to create Say YES to Your Life! Meetups where people volunteer to lead evenings dedicated to sharing their own experience of Practical Enlightenment, in effect giving it away so that others can have the experience for themselves. The producer of our Internet radio show Being Here has selflessly volunteered her time since 2007, making it possible for millions of people to have a taste of Instantaneous Transformation. Teams of volunteers in our transformational community set up our course rooms and manage supplies in order to support others in discovering what is possible for them.
If you want to experience true happiness and well-being in a sustained manner, there comes a time when you must take your attention off your own survival and getting somewhere, and discover how to take care of others and the environment around you. The challenge is that most people think that if they take their attention off their own survival, they wonât get what they want or need in life.
Taking care of the people around you supports you in having a brilliant life. But you canât take care of others to get ahead, or to achieve anything. Itâs got to be a pure act of being of service â not for what you are going to get out of doing it. Here is an example of this as told by Shya:
There was a time, many years ago, when I was managing a group of volunteers at a workshop. As we prepared the room before the seminar participants arrived, there was a couple who were complaining that they had to be there. They had volunteered because, at the time they had agreed to come, somebody had told them that they would get a lot out of assisting (in being of service to others). So they were not assisting to assist, they were assisting to âgetâ something for what they did. They brought the same complaint they had about other areas of their lives to this project. So I suggested to them that they go home because they didnât really want to be there. Iâm sure that when they got home they didnât really want to be there either.
Itâs funny, when you have your attention on you and how you are doing, for the most part, youâre miserable. Being of service allows you to stop focusing on yourself and striving to get somewhere âbetter,â which is a gift. Since no two things can occupy the same you at the same time, being of service allows you to take your attention off you and the machinations of your mind. Your mind can never be satisfied. Whenever you achieve something or acquire something it automatically races off to want the next thing as if where you are and how you are being is not sufficient, as if you are not already perfect, just as you are. Again, it is all about being here and saying Yes to your life in this moment rather than getting somewhere. But if you take care of others in order to manipulate yourself to be happier or more fulfilled it wonât work because in reality, you still have attention on you and how you are doing â the mind is sneaky that way.
IF YOU WANT TO BE OF SERVICE, START WHERE YOU ARE
Do you have an impulse to volunteer, to step outside of yourself, to make a difference with others? Itâs easy. Start where you are. Take a look at the things you are passionate about and share them. Take a look at what is going on in your life and know that you are a gift and share that. We have friends who encourage others to accompany them in a full spectrum of activities that they are interested in: âJoin me in Hot Yoga,â (a great way to ensure that you will exercise, by the way.) âIâm doing a new nutritional program and I am really excited about it. Want to do it with me?â (A great way to spur yourself to keep to your word when dieting). âI found a new coffee bar and I am sure you will love it.â Or âI just heard an audio book that you should try.â
Itâs OK to be excited about your life. Itâs OK to be wildly enthusiastic about what you are up to. Itâs also OK if you feel upset. Sometimes people mistakenly think that they have to be in a âgoodâ mood or the ârightâ place to be fit to share themselves or give of themselves to others. Simply taking the attention off your story and how you are doing and giving of yourself pulls you into the moment. For if you resist where you are you get lost there. But if you include your current state as though it is perfect, leave it alone and move on, you are free.
Since 1987, internationally acclaimed authors, seminar leaders, radio show hosts and business consultants Ariel and Shya Kane have acted as guides, leading people through the swamp of the mind into the clarity and brilliance of the moment. Find out more about the Kanes, their seminars in NYC, in the UK, Germany and Costa Rica, the Say YES to Your Life! Meetups their work has inspired, their Being Here radio show or join their email newsletter. Also get information about their four award-winning books. Â Their newest book, Practical Enlightenment, is now available on Amazon.com.
If you are looking for a new campaign to join than this weekâs show has plenty of fuel for the soul.
Broadcast Saturday December 20th, on WGHN 1370 AM, Grand Haven, mornings 9-10, airing throughout the western shore cities of Lake Michigan, inspiration and education begin here.
David Hornack loves people, and especially children. We love David because he really cares about our overall health of society and multi-generational relationships. Together we have created the concept of âBoomers Rock Unified.â
Our Grand Haven âBoomers Rock Localâ guest is a giver with a bottomless well of love for care givers Petra Forbes. You know her from the âCaregiver Resource Centerâ she created.
David Hornack, a 2013 Governors fitness award winner and principle of Horizon Elementary in Holt, Michigan is a unifying force of positive energy; you just cannot get enough of his enthusiasm and true grit love for his community and kids. Listen to our plan to bring a new concept to life, and build multi-generational goodwill and health.
This is a canât miss project and we need your help, plus it can help you as our âMiddle-Livingâ brothers and sisters move forward.
Petra Forbes found her passion for caregiving when she began her career at Mercy Health in 2001; it shows in her energy and passion.
Key Words and phrases to listen for-
â¢ Staying generationally connected
â¢ Youth and enrichment of the aging process
â¢ Volunteering and supporting your community
â¢ Advanced learning
â¢ The wellness of giving and sharing knowledge
â¢ Reading to youth
â¢ Social cues
â¢ Exercise and maintaining your health
â¢ Resources in Grand Haven, Michigan
A ‘Culvers’ restaurant story of success!
This weeks episode brings together a very special ensemble, illustrating giving back to the community with the ‘Culvers Restaurant’ Franchisee in Grand Haven, Angela Taylor. As community leader and business owner Angela epitomizes our ‘Superior-Seniors’ in her hiring practices.
Larry Cooper, a 76 year old young employee of Angelas, a perfect example of our never give up generation and not waiting for the end to occur will be our cleanup hitter on this episode.
Broadcast Saturday December 13th, on WGHN 1370 AM, Grand Haven, mornings 9-10, airing throughout the western shore cities of Lake Michigan, inspiration and education begin here.
Angela will share the backstory of the ‘never say die’ attitude of building a premier business in Grand Haven from scratch. Her relationship with Larry Cooper and how his staying connected to life through her outreach and hiring practices of never ‘marginalizing’ older adults is testament to the Boomers Rock mantra of helping others achieve.
”Tom Matt’s “Boomers Rock” Radio Talk Show’ is heard every Monday at 6:00pm EST on the Variety channel right here on VoiceAmerica. Please like our Facebook fan page, ‘Boomers Rock’, or follow us on Twitter, ‘Boomers_Rock’ and post any questions comments reactions and suggestions to help us deliver the best content to all ‘MiddleLiving’ adults.
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I am a better person now than I was 6 years ago, and better still than I was eight or twelve years ago, and I don’t want to even mention sixteen years ago. But at each of those points in time, I was happy, and doing what I thought was the right thing. I made a few good choices that led me down a happier path, and I’m better off, as well as a better person, because of those choices. The trick is that, every day, we have those choices. If you make good, fundamental choices every day, you will see positive effects in your life. Here are a few of the key choices I make.
1. Build Great Relationships
I want to have the best relationship I can possibly have with my family, friends, coworkers, and acquaintances. If you have that loving, caring consistency with your spouse or significant other, children, parents, and any other family, you will have a strong chance of having great relationships with everyone you come in contact with. For my spouse, I write what I call âAmbush Notesâ and slip them in her lunch box or leave them hidden in the newspaper, or somewhere where she will find it. It costs nothing, means a lot and she has kept them all over the years. If we can do nice things we can be a better person, and it carries over to all of our friendships, try doing something small, a compliment, a hug or just notice a little thing and say something. Good perpetuates good.
2. Build Structure Into Your Life
With the busy-ness of our 21st century, will all need to give to ourselves more of the quality of life tools that can make us improve our own self-esteem. Make it a priority to give to yourself the time you deserve as a reward for all of your hard work, anything you enjoy doing, and do it daily. Donât let busy-ness steal your personal time; busy-ness will drag you down. Whether it’s 10 minutes of stretching and walking, or 15 minutes of reading, or 20 minutes of meditation, the point is that it must be a gift you give yourself. Before you can share love with others you must love yourself first.
3. Create A Vision
If you had a magic wand, what would you create with it? Planting the seed of improvement, or dreaming of that goal that you have in your mind is hugely important to our future successes. If you can imagine it then you can achieve it; that may sound far-fetched, but take it from a guy who is living the dream, if you canât see it, you will never achieve it.
4. Positive Mental Attitude
I truly believe that the law of attraction is a viable force in our universe. If you carry yourself with the feeling that life is a beautiful, and that we are the capable of achieving our dreams, then a positive attitude will draw those dreams to you (even if you merely convince yourself to make the necessary changes, then that is the mystical force driving the attraction). Be willing to build on all of the positives in your life, take this from the guy who did spend many years in the dark hole of alcohol and substance abuse, living with an upbeat demeanor will spill over into all that you come in contact with, and that it is completely possible without the temporary feelings delivered by drugs and alcohol. Practice gratitude thoughts and appreciate your positives. Do not diminish the small inconsequential normalcies of life.
5. Give To Others
In todayâs society we are in need of all of the knowledge and assistance that people can donate and deliver. Take your special skill set and share it with another person, be a good listener, mentor others and share your abilities with groups in need. By becoming engaged you will reap such rewards that you will be amazed at how it can not only impact the lives of others but impact your own as well. Part of improving my life has been through finding what I am good at and sharing it. Which is why I love doing the talk show so much: it is a verbal outlet to helping many, bringing knowledgeable people together to share the goodness of life. I call it the âRefirement Zoneâ for a reason, igniting our lives takes thinking about what we truly want, by giving back we do.
Try these thoughts, in your own way, and like I said if in one month you donât see a change, you donât feel a little bit better about things, send me an email to
Tom@boomersrock.us or see much more content at www.boomersrock.us
Tom Matt is the host of the weekly talk show âBoomers Rockâ, heard on WGHN 1370 AM Saturday mornings at 9:00 in Grand Haven, Michigan, and syndicated on the Internet here at VoiceAmerica. His show is also heard on the Spartan Sports network SSN/247. This is where he brings experts in to discuss all issues that enhance our quality of life.
Tom welcomes comments and feedback, on his site Boomers Rock, please join our family and change the world! Visit our website, sign up and become part of the solution, its free and always welcoming/
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âYou havenât learned how to live until youâve learned how to give!â Kirk DouglasÂ Gratitude from Founder, Cynthia Brian.Â The rains have begun and Northern California isÂ drinking in deeply! How grateful we are for thisÂ precipitation as another year of drought could devastateÂ our beautiful state and its farming communities.Â Thanksgiving is a time to express our appreciation forÂ all of our blessings and challenges. Serving asÂ Executive Director of Be the Star You Are!Â® is a giftÂ from my heart and I thank all of you who have soÂ generously supported our programs and outreach services with your time, yourÂ energy, your expertise, and your dollars. In our 16th year as a 501c3, we areÂ celebrating many milestones and thrilled to be honored again as a Top NonÂ Profit. On November 21st, our teen radio show, Express Yourself!â¢ rejoiced toÂ be broadcasting three years. What began with only five teen reporters hasÂ grown to thirty from around the United States. Read about our teens and watchÂ an inspiring video from host, Henna Hundal, as she talks about how being partÂ of Be the Star You Are!Â®’s radio team has changed her life.
This past week, theÂ Moraga Chamber of Commerce honored Be the Star You Are!Â® by selecting usÂ as its charity of choice for holiday contributions. We want to say THANK YOUÂ to the Moraga Chamber for choosing Be the Star You Are!Â® and hope that otherÂ businesses, chambers, and organizations will also consider choosing BTSYAÂ as our goal is to grow leaders. We are so thankful to be able to use these fundsnot only to continue our two wonderful radio programs, but to make a differenceÂ in the lives of those less fortunate with our gift of new books. We have beenÂ busy packing boxes to donate to Spark of Love, Los Angeles Fire Department,Â Toys for Tots, Moraga Fire Department, Children’s Hospital, and UCSF BenioffÂ Children’s Hospital.Â Speaking of new books, for the first time ever, we are discounting three of ourÂ signature books to only $9.99 plus $6.00 shipping through December 31 andÂ hope that you’ll purchase several copies for everyone on your holiday list.
As autumn fades to winter, it’s time to open your wallets for charitable giving.Â We have lots of ways you can help and we know you want to give and live.Â December 2 is Giving Tuesday, so please make a tax deductible contributionÂ with funds that will be matched. If you are an on-lilne shopper,Â check out our shop and give below with Amazon Smile, IGIVE,Â GoodSearch, EBAY, and our own BTSYA Logo Store. All give a percentage to BeÂ the Star You Are!Â® with no additional cost to you.Â Read on for inspiration. From our hearts to yours, may grace and gratitude beÂ part of your Thanksgiving and holidays.
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Picking up where we left off at the end of part 1 of this article, before wrapping up this exploration of gratitude, I want to consider an additional essential aspect of genuine gratitude that truly fosters flow: the principle of circulation. While many people are extremely comfortable with giving to others, far fewer are equally comfortable with receiving from others. Raised with such precepts as, âIt is better to give than receiveâ and âGod loveth a cheerful giver,â many have mistakenly concluded that life is all about giving. But giving without a similar commitment to receiving blocks rather than fosters flow.
Flow requires free circulation, both inflow and outflow, with neither condition being desired, admired, or sought after more than the other. Giving with abandon accompanied by resistance to receiving is not what love looks like and it wonât encourage flow. Such duality indicates that fear has crept in and tainted what could, if fueled differently, be an act of love. The roots of this sort of circulation imbalance are planted firmly in misunderstanding the nature of power and assuming power is the same thing as force.
This misperception is based in the belief that giving will put me in the âupâ position, leaving me superior and powerful. Once I succeed in giving to you, I can expect you to return the favor on demand in the future in whatever form I desire consistent with my unilateral terms and conditions.
With this definition of giving in place, it follows that I might perceive receiving would put me in the âdownâ position, leaving me inferior and powerless. Once I succumb to receiving from you, I will be obligated and vulnerable to acting for your benefit in the futureâon demand and against my willâin ways that may conflict with my personal values and abilities.
The simple recalibration to these misperceptions is to realize that sort of exchange is not what love looks like. Remembering loveâs essential attributes of respect, curiosity, and compassion will increase your clarity in that regard. As the giver, when you choose unconditional love as your core fuel, whatever the expectations of the receiver, you never give from a desire to control or manipulate others. And as the receiver, when you choose unconditional love as your core fuel, whatever the expectations of the giver, you are never obligated to respond from fear. Only you decide what is right for your life. What you give and receive, from and to whom, when, why, how, and how much are always yours to choose. In each moment, you have the opportunity to choose love over fear and behave in alignment with your choice.
Hereâs an additional insight to help you move more comfortably into balance, harmony, and understanding concerning the roles of giving and receiving in fostering flow. The practice of âover-givingâ is just another variation on the arrogance-based disrespectful interference I explore in my writings on respect. When we over-give, we rob the recipient of the opportunity to develop the healthy independence essential to personal growth and freedom. How do you know when this is the case? As always, look underneath your potential actions and be unflinchingly honest with yourself about whether your core fuel is love or fear. Once you recognize your fuel, youâll have the opportunity to respect yourself and the other by making a conscious constructive choice.
People sometimes respond to this perspective on giving and receiving by saying, âBut Deborah, it just feels so good to give!â Yes, it does feel good. And when you refuse to receive with gratitude and grace, you rob another of experiencing that joy of giving. Much as you may not like to admit it, such behavior demonstrates greediness: hoarding all of that good feeling for yourself. When you give but donât embrace receiving, you imprison yourself with fear and your gifts become tainted.
Remember to consider the big picture when assessing how well circulation is working in your life. Donât expect direct reciprocity in relation to what you give. Adopt a âpay it forwardâ mindset and the big picture Godâs-eye view, knowing that the circulation you set in motion when you give to a friend or stranger, may return to you in ways you never dreamed of through people you donât even know at a time well into the future. When you celebrate giving and receiving with a sense of joy and freedom, you exhibit genuine gratitude and foster for yourself and others lives of generous, effortless, gracious flow filled with faith, hope, prosperity, peace, and joy.
The only person controlling your life isÂ you. Turn unexplored possibilities into fulfilling realities by harnessing the transformative power of loveâand gratitudeâto step into your greatness. Choose your energy and change your life!
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About the Author
What’s love got to do with minimizing stress and getting unstuck? Everything, according to empowerment coach and inspirational speaker Deborah Jane Wells, author of Choose Your Energy: Change Your Life! During her 30 years as an organization transformation consultant, Deborah served as a senior partner in four of the world’s largest, most prestigious global professional services firms. In 2005, she took a five-year sabbatical to find healing and peace because non-stop work had taken its toll. Her recovery from burnout, including a sustained 80-pound weight loss and freedom from 10 years of debilitating depression, led to finding her purpose guiding others on their journeys. Through healing and self-exploration, she discovered that loving yourself unconditionally is the key to transforming your personal life, your work, and the world. Deborahâs books, blog, radio show, and signature coaching programs help individuals and organizations harness the transformative power of love to step into their greatness. Learn more at the Deborah Jane Wells Website.
Â Â Â Â Â Â Kantha is a highly successful consultant who attributes all of her success to one simple concept: Paying it Forward. She has never had to pitch companies to get hired. High-end businesses just seem to flock to her! You might be asking yourself, âhow?â How does Kantha âpay it forwardâ to reach greater success? The answer is quite simple. She approaches each conversation or interaction in life as an opportunity to leave the other person or audience with a gift. She makes her No. 1 goal to give to her peers! Success follows! To listen to Kanthaâs tips on generating new business and success by âpaying it forward,â tune in to Wealthy Thoughts with Richard Levy on Monday, December 2, 2013 (12 p.m. PST, 2 p.m. CST, 3 p.m. EST). You will not want to miss this interview!
Tune into Wealthy Thoughts Every Monday at 12 Noon Pacific Time on Voiceamerica Empowerment Channel.Â Listen to this weeks episode “Pay it Forward” with host Richard Levy as he interviews his guestÂ Kantha.
Do you catch yourself thinking negatively sometimes? Do you carry around a lot of suppressed anger or envy towards others? If so, these thoughts could be holding you back from success without you even realizing it! âWealthy Thoughtsâ with Richard Levy will empower you to live a more positive and prosperous life. Richard believes that there are certain thoughts and actions that attract wealth, while others repel it. During this show, Richard provides CLEAR and SIMPLE direction for anyone seeking a positive lifestyle change.Â Our Topics includeÂ releasing negativity, anger and abusive relationships, improving health, overcoming debt, following your lifeâs passion, attracting your dream job and/or soul mate, eliminating fears, the power of affirmations, and more.