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The life we sustain by our choices are our own. This is nowhere truer than in a capitalist democracy where our choices drive the market and our civil society through our vote and subsequent participation in the democratic process. A functional democracy that intends to be sustainable cannot be treated as a spectator sport by the citizens. It is very much a contact sport that requires educated and fact based active participation if it is to benefit the voting citizens. At the core of that participatory democracy is an empowered citizen population that understand their own self-interest.
Each persona’s self-interest is not one-dimensional because it needs to address the interest of a person in the four functional roles, namely
If we want high pay as workers, we need to understand that we cannot have all our goods and services free or cheap. If we want high return on investment form our 401K or Pension, regardless of the morality of the organizations delivering those high returns, as citizens and consumers are we willing to accept the cost of profit making by way of pollution in our water supply or the sub-prime crisis that leads to our job loss and home foreclosure?
It is true we come into every situation for a purpose, but just like Goldilocks realized, we need to exclude the extreme choices of “Too Hot” and “Too Cold” to find what is “just right” and then pursue it while balancing our self-interest. Such is the case when shaping public policy. Stakeholders start in extreme positions and with dialogue, facts and consensus building a workable balance could be established for progress to happen.
Please join My Guest Bukola Bello of Vision Mai LLC and me to engage in this very important conversation so we get it just right. We need to harmonize our multifaceted self-interest to build a solid foundation for a sustainable democracy which is the underpinning of our empowered lives. The rules of engagement for our lives are shaped by the public policies in play. Let’s make sure we lay down these policies just right so we can build on it!
What am I going to write about? The time I struggled and showed my ass by behaving like I’d lost my mind? There are moments I feel like I’m part of the circus or better yet starring in a sit-com. My life is far from always being full of laughter though we laugh a lot in our family.
I get tired of taking everything so seriously. So I put on a pair of “TV glasses” and see what each situation I’m worried about, frustrated with, pissed about, and enjoying would like through the camera of a sit-com.
I discovered this solution when Eli was an infant. I was alone and changing his diaper. He stuck one foot in poop, then another, then his hand. Somehow it got on my hands too. I was by myself at home. And as a new mom, I began to panic. How do I figure this out? How do I get my son and myself clean without getting poop everywhere. Every idea I thought of resulted in me seeing my son ending up falling to the floor. All the tools I needed were in other rooms, The thought of carrying poop from room to room with a dog and three cats standing by to enter the fray filled me with more anxiety. My body tensed and tightened. And then Eli began to cry. Big surprise, right? And then as he wriggled in more poop, for a split second I imagined my reaction if I was watching this on TV. What was the big deal? And I began to laugh. And as I laughed and my body loosened, Eli calmed and smiled. I have no idea how, but somehow I cleaned us both pretty quickly and easily. And from then on, I pulled out my “TV Glasses” during life situations. Any caregivers out there ever experience similar situations?
Which brings me to a few days ago when again I was struggling, frustrated and a little scared. Instead of picturing the sitcom, I cried. I disagreed with my producer for my upcoming radio show and participated in unnecessary arguing drama. I was not fit for human consumption and I felt it in my body. I reflected on all my “life plates” I keep spinning, my to dos. Are these life or death “plates”? Nope. What will happen if I don’t get EVERYTHING done? Nothing. What am I afraid of?
Truth? Falling on my face which is FAILING. Yet even as I say that most of me is not afraid. I know in the deepest part of me, even if I fall on my face there is a reason. I know the experience will provide me with an opportunity. Now truth be told. It isn’t comfortable to fail. So I don’t know of anyone who runs out and says Yes, I’ll choose Failure. What I know is if I don’t choose change, which comes with risks, and pushing out of what is comfortable, I stay stuck.
Complacency becomes another word for stuck. Don’t make waves. Status quo. Don’t ask a tough question because of what might happen. Did you know stuck means you don’t get to experience the fantabulous either?
Self-esteem plays a huge role in your willingness to embrace change. Change can have ALOT of unknown and unfamiliar feelings and factors. So of course complacency will feel better in some aspects because you know it. And you know your outcomes even if they are painful.
So here I go taking another leap: 1) I premiered my radio show heard globally 2) I stopped part of my business marketing which I believed until recently was the largest draw for meeting new clients. I do not know what I’m doing next to grow my community. I trust it will be revealed soon (there was a bit of GULP the first time I said that) 3) I am continuing to lovingly detach as a parent (more on this in future articles). Providing my son opportunities to grow and fail (as safely as I can) 4) I am visibly emerging with live videos on social media, radio, joint ventures with other healers 5) I am learning how to do my radio show from my computer and all the mechanics and marketing (there are at least 10 things here I don’t know) 6) I am allowing in my relationship with Marc instead of listening to the voice telling me to “drive the train”. With more leaping each week and sometimes daily.
And while some days it feels harder and some days I fail. I am still happy everyday. And more and more consistently, I feel an ease and a joy. I feel a freedom like I did as a kid riding my bike super fast with the wind blowing my hair kicking my feet out as I went down a huge hill and yelling WHEEEEEEE!!!
With Love and Gratitude,
Iâve been having conversations recently with a friend. He truly wants to find and enjoy a long term committed relationship. His relationship experience is dotted with disappointment and hurt. He recently met someone new and they clicked.
In one breath, he tells me about their amazing connection. They enjoy spending time together, talking, intimacy, just hanging out. They’re very attracted to each other, yet it’s much more than physical. He spends a lot of time telling me about their connection in some detail. They have similar values, think similarly, yet they also have some differences.
Then he says âshe is a unicornâ. By definition a unicorn is a fantasy, âa mythical animal typically represented as a horse with a single straight horn projecting from its forehead.â He follows this up saying âshe seems perfect for me. There must be something Iâm not seeing. I keep looking for what’s wrong with her. She is too good to be true.â
Have you ever met someone amazing and thought that very same thing? âToo Good to Be True?â It could be with a relationship, a friendship, a job, the way your life is flowing. Anything.
I had a time when I felt this way too. It wasnât when I met and dated my husband. It was later AFTER we married. Weird, I know.
When you say âitâs too good to be true,â You’re questioning what is coming into your life because of your own lack of or limited belief in self-love, self-worth. You feel self-doubt which causes you to resist change, looking for “the other shoe to drop” effect, instead of embracing change.
Your limiting belief is two-fold (or more):
1) You’re missing some of the enjoyment of your relationship by focusing on some unforeseen problem (fear, anxiety) that may not ever happen. That is creating fear in you and causes you to âping pongâ. Yes, I am in. No, I am afraid. Yes, I am in. No, I am afraid. The ping ponging changes the magnetic energy around you as well as your behavior and it can feel confusing to someone else without them understanding why.
For my friend, it comes out in his relationship when they discuss their relationship histories. He wants to know, he doesnât want to know. Then he hears something that concerns him and thinks he may have found âthe other shoeâ, but he doesnât really want to find the other shoe. And then these feelings drape themselves over his girlfriend and she becomes sensitive and upset. Meanwhile he doesnât understand why she is upset. This can lead to drama, unnecessary drama, instead of enjoying each moment and the now.
2) What are you truly afraid of? Why do you feel you do not deserve this happiness and love? He has been hurt in the past. Does that sound familiar? He says maybe he isnât meant to be with someone. Which is as close to saying âmaybe I donât deserve to be with someoneâ, âmaybe Iâm not loveableâ. My friend has a harder time going to this place. That is so common. Who wants to sit in feelings of âIâm not worthyâ and âIâm not loveableâ. And yet, even not addressing them, they take hold in your life. And they can decimate your relationships if you engage or speak from lack.
When you have full love and belief in yourself, you stop resisting, surrender and embrace change. Then you move past the âis this really happening?; Is this real?; Is this something I deserve? And you just say…YES.
If you feel âit is too good to be true?â or you wait for the âother shoe to dropâ? What do you do about it? Do you do anything about it or silently suffer?
You can put an end to these silent and shared conversations. You can quiet your fear. It is so possible. I didnât always believe it. Through my own healing and the support and guidance I share with and teach to my clients, Iâve seen and experienced it.
And if you are ready to look at your life from a possibility of: anything is possible and life has many possibilities. I invite you to a complimentary call with me Touching Your Inner Guidance. Just click the link below and weâll talk about what you are done with and ready to leave behind; what you want for yourself and can so have; and how what I do can support and guide you to those extraordinary possibilities.
We have a lot of energy up in our play group and among friends about the price of living in harmony with others. For some it is the cost of friendship. For others it is the cost of loving others. We have learned at what cost our conditions about life is about for each of us. With consciousness technologies we learn how to shift that knowledge into something more rewarding. What if we were easier with what life wants to be for each of us and what if we could move out of the stuck patterns easier? What if we could first question how we think life has to be? What if we knew that realities abound in the spectrum of life and that we donât have to be too attached to any of them? And that we are choosing on the level of where this awareness is?
Some of us have the rule set that things can be good for a while and then stuff happens. Having a friend can be good and then sabotage takes place in some way. We start in a state of hope that this time will be different and then disappointment ensues. We love our child and then they are taken from us. Further interactions are fraught with concerns and compromises never met. It is never the same again. Years later it would still seem the same.
The realities are that we are different. From the perspective and conversations of being consciousness in action, consciousness evolving we are not the frightened fearful children hanging on to lost illusions. Yes, we are still innocence having experiences and now those experiences are getting us wiser and more aware of what is possible. If we are in the reality that we are malleable still, it is easier. We canât change the past in our currently held reality but we can change how we relate to the past. When we change how we relate to the past we change as we are in the now and the future is then different.
There is nothing wrong with pain and suffering. Hey, I know that they donât feel good. I lived like that for maybe 50 some years. The last ten years have been about feeling appreciation for being able to learn and feel something different. Now they only serve as valuable tools to making choices and the awareness that some lifetimes would seem to be about no rewards, no way to win, no way to find grace in being embodied. Yet, in being willing to go to that space or place within it is possible to find grace and change the patterns. The flight/fight/freeze mechanisms we each employ to threat are there when we feel overwhelmed to stand our ground and challenge in our own power. Often they are still running without notice. Getting them turned of is helpful. Now we are able to deal from a centered sense of self. Think of the martial artist. Not always the biggest guy in the bunch but someone everyone can be leery of, not so easily pushed around.
Living in harmony with others is about living in harmony with ourselves. We are unique, often mystifying collections of feelings, impressions, learnings all sharing in our field of being called self. We are multidimensional sensory apparatus. Taking time to spend time in heart space and ask for new information about old patterns and able to engage potential as real is good. Releasing what is there into new patterns of being is key to a new sense of wholeness. Which is different than an often sense of what is missing as being or not knowing what is missing, just that something is missing kind of being. Use what pains you. Show appreciation for it. It is telling you where you are stuck. Allow a way for it to be useful and to release what is held.
We are all in less pain. We are all suffering less. We have moments now between the pain and suffering. We are aware of what we hold onto maybe is not ours, not us, just sensations as clutter. They may only be energies picked up along the way to match and validate our biases of beliefs about who we are in this life. It is as easy as questioning what you find to be real. If you employ the word âseemsâ what shows up differently?
Life in the Beyond
Life in the Beyond: The cost of living in harmony 10/29/14Â Â©2014 Janet Barrett
Your Heaven can be a state of perfect harmony between light and darkness; a state where all extreme opposites intertwine.
In this Heaven, you can be free from the chains & shackles of the material world, where the false ego holds you in captivity, where you are held in bondage on the plantation of the flesh and all of its vainglory.
In this Heaven, you will now see beyond the apparitions that hinders you from viewing the true physical dimension and all of its genuineness.
One day you will be one with the Divine, and liberated from all that is; you will enter the gates of paradise free at will, while concurrently leaving fresh foot prints on this great rock which we call Gaia.
Morgan O. Smith
Morgan O. Smith is a former Stand-up Comedian & Television Host turned Mystic & Philosopher. He is a 2001 Gemini Award Winning Writer and has been nominated for The Geminiâs Peopleâs Choice Awards:Canadaâs Favorite Comic back in 2003.Morgan has been studying Eastern Philosophy & Metaphysics, and has been practicing meditation for over a decade. Morganis also a Certified Meditation Instructor, Reiki Practitioner and Brainwave Entrainment Facilitator. Â Morgan holds a Teacherâs Certificate in Transformation Meditation and is the creator of Yinnergy â which is the latest advancement in brainwave entrainment technology, based on Marko Rodinâs Vortex Based Mathematics. Â Morgan is the Host of the highly anticipated radio show, Sight beyond Sight will be airing later this year on Voice America. Sight beyond Site is an opinionated conversational show tackling subject matters such as Mysticism, Metaphysics, Meditation, Spirituality and Non-Duality.
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