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Honesty is a Muscle You have to Work At to Be Good At

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Honesty is a Muscle You have to Work At to Be Good At

This week’s article is provided by Ron Carucci, is co-founder and managing partner at Navalent. It is a companion to his interview on Innovating Leadership, Co-creating Our Future titled To Be Honest: Lead with the Power of Truth, Justice and Purpose that aired on Tuesday, November 9th. The following article has been adapted from Ron’s book  To Be Honest: Lead with the Power of Truth, Justice & Purpose.

Of all my findings, the revelation that honesty is more than a character trait or moral principle was the most important. It’s more than an aspiration; it’s a capability. To be good at it, you have to work at it. And that begins with believing you can be better at it than you currently are.

To be sure, leading this kind of life and team takes work. It demands practice. Embodying truth, justice, and purpose requires real competence. These aren’t just ethical qualities you either have or don’t. My research revealed that honesty is a muscle, and like any muscle, to make it strong you have to work on it. Regularly. When an athlete leaves the gym or a patient leaves physical therapy, they feel sore but satisfied. Becoming good at honesty is no different. When you declare that you and your organization wish to serve a worthy purpose, you have to eliminate the distractions and contradictions that keep you from doing so. This process takes insight, ongoing feedback, and creativity. It takes grit to deflect the naysayers and courage to remove the obstacles.

When you set out to create a more just organization, you will be tampering with deeply embedded institutional biases that, likely unknowingly, have privileged some people over others. You have to be willing to interrogate your processes of accountability—what you measure, how you acknowledge contributions, how you create opportunities for others to advance and shine, and how you talk with those you lead about their contributions—to make sure everyone has the same chances of being successful, no matter who they are. That may require disappointing some people who’ve benefited from the biases in the old system and helping them recognize the need to create accountability that is based on dignity and justice for all. It means being vulnerable with those you lead and building sufficient trust with them, as only then will you be in a position to hold them to account for commitments they make and talk openly about when they fall short. And you have to model what it means to acknowledge your own shortfalls and improve.

There are plenty of platitudes I could offer about why being more honest and just is “good for you,” though you’ve undoubtedly heard those since kindergarten. But I deeply believe that understanding the conditions under which we, and our organizations, encourage dishonesty and injustice can bring greater levels of contribution and satisfaction, and ultimately meaning. I want you to discover, painful though it might be, the ways your organization unknowingly encourages employees to withhold or distort the truth or act unjustly, and how to fix the conditions that create this behavior. From there, you will be much more empowered to make different choices. And, as you will see, choosing truth, justice and purpose can make you and your organization healthier, higher-performing and significantly more competitive, and ultimately, more joyful.

In the end, my hope is that To Be Honest will help you live a more honest life—one in which you tell the truth, act with justice toward others, and live your purpose with deep satisfaction and impact. I have no intention of defining your moral compass or value system; that’s yours to do. But I want you to feel proud of the people and organizations you lead, knowing that you’ve created the conditions in which people will choose honesty. That way, when you return home at night, you’ll be able to look your loved ones in the eye and know you are exactly the person they believe you are.

What you will find on the pages of To Be Honest is the roadmap for doing just that.

Read my new book To Be Honest: Lead with the Power of Truth, Justice & Purpose and download our free How Honest is my Team? assessment here

To become a more innovative leader, you can begin by taking our free leadership assessments and then enrolling in our online leadership development program.

Check out the companion interview and past episodes of Innovating Leadership, Co-creating Our Future, via iTunes, TuneIn, Stitcher, Spotify, Amazon Music, Audible,  iHeartRADIO, and NPR One.  Stay up-to-date on new shows airing by following the Innovative Leadership Institute LinkedIn.

About the Author

Ron Carucci is co-founder and managing partner at Navalent, working with CEOs and executives pursuing transformational change for their organizations, leaders, and industries. He has a thirty-year track record helping executives tackle challenges of strategy, organization and leadership.  From start-ups to Fortune 10’s, non-profits to heads-of-state, turn-arounds to new markets and strategies, overhauling leadership and culture to re-designing for growth.  He has helped organizations articulate strategies that lead to accelerated growth, and design organizations that can execute those strategies. He has worked in more than 25 countries on 4 continents.  He is the author of 9 books, including the recent Amazon #1 Rising to Power and the forthcoming To Be Honest, Lead with the Power of Truth, Justice & Purpose. He is a popular contributor to the Harvard Business Review, where Nava lent’s work on leadership was named one of 2016’s management ideas that mattered most. He is also a regular contributor to Forbes, and a two-time TEDx speaker. His work’s been featured in Fortune, CEO Magazine, Inc., Business Insider, MSNBC, Business Week, Inc., Fast Company, Smart Business, and thought leaders.

Waking Up From the Dream By Ariel & Shya Kane

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Waking Up From the Dream By Ariel & Shya Kane

Waking Up From the Dream By Ariel & Shya Kane Back in the mid-eighties, we walked into a health food store and noticed a tarot card reader who, for a nominal fee, offered short sessions for the store’s clientele. The two of us were departing within the week for a six month intensive course at a meditation center in Europe and thought it might be fun to see what she had to say about our imminent trip. We had high hopes that these six months would produce the Self Realization for which we had worked so long and hard over many years to achieve. So when our turn came, we sat before her with expectations of a fun, lighthearted reading into our futures that would affirm that we were on the right path, a path that would bring us the illumination we desired. Contrary to our expectations, we were in for a big surprise. It is shocking how disturbing it can be when someone gives you information that goes in opposition to your point of view. Here, next to the 7 grain bread and organic beans, this tarot card reader told us what she saw with the best of intentions and ultimately, we did not like it. Gazing at the faces of the cards before her, she said, “I see you are going on a trip.” This sounded like a good beginning. We hadn’t given her any information. Next she said, “And this trip is not a short vacation but a lengthy stay at a distant land. You will be traveling over a large body of water so wherever you are going, it is overseas. The cards indicate that this journey is one that is not lightly undertaken but one of a spiritual nature, rather like a pilgrimage of sorts.” Wow, we thought, she is really good! If there had been a hidden camera recording this event, the tape of our meeting would now show us eagerly listening to catch every pearl of wisdom that this reader had to impart. It is funny how we human beings idealize our lives hoping to prove that the road we are traveling is the perfect or right one and maybe it is for awhile. But the smooth road we were on with this reader was about to take a very sharp and bumpy turn. She certainly had created credibility with us by describing the near future events that were part of the script of our lives but then she said something that sent us into an immediate panic and we broke into a cold sweat. Looking at the pictures intently, as if to catch some subtle nuance, this woman solemnly pronounced that as a result of this trip and our experiences, we would become – disillusioned. Oh No! We wanted illumination from this investment of our time and energy, not disillusionment, whatever that meant. It sounded so negative and we wanted our lives to be positive. Here we were, about to invest six months and a lot of money and we certainly didn’t want to be disillusioned as a result. To tell you the truth, it is hard to remember what happened next. The idea of being disillusioned by this trip of a lifetime, which we had planned to save us from ourselves and the domination of life, was suddenly upsetting. We thanked her, rather stiffly, and left that store deeply shaken by those few words that we disagreed with. One week later we were in Europe. Six long months later, we were leaving Europe, in fact, disillusioned. On our journey, the two of us discovered that we were not interested in a counter culture way of life which by its very nature is based in opposition to that which already exists. Rather, we realized that we wanted to live from our truth, which is not for or against the so called establishment. When we got back to the States, we thought about the tarot card reader and what she had said and finally broke out the dictionary to look up the word disillusion. We were surprised by its definition because we had thought of being disillusioned in all the terms one might find in a thesaurus, i.e. failure, disappointment, falling short of, dashing one’s hopes, etc. In fact, the primary definition of disillusion is “to free of illusion and false ideas.” What it means is that the illusion under which you have been living is dissolved so that you see the truth of the situation, as it is, not as you would prefer it to be. This disillusionment was the beginning of our Self Realization. After we returned from Europe, we discovered that nothing was going to save us from ourselves and the domination of life. No matter where you go, you bring yourself along. Over the past years, as seminar leaders, authors and individuals living our lives, we have come to realize that the only time life dominates you is when you are not living in the moment, when your hopes for the future create an illusion of how it will someday be better than it is now. True freedom happens when the illusion dissolves and you live life directly in each moment not as you would prefer it, but as it is. If you want to live life to your potential, rather than strive to be a better you, discover who you are and how you are being in any given moment.

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Since 1987, internationally acclaimed authors, seminar leaders, radio show hosts and business consultants Ariel and Shya Kane have acted as guides, leading people through the swamp of the mind into the clarity and brilliance of the moment. Find out more about the Kanes, their seminars in NYC, in the UK, Germany and Costa Rica, the Say YES to Your Life! Meetups their work has inspired, their Being Here radio show or join their email newsletter. Also get information about their award-winning books.  Their newest book, Practical Enlightenment, is now available on Amazon.com.

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Integrity and The “Little” Things by Ariel & Shya Kane

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July 13: Integrity and The “Little” Things

It’s so easy to shave off the truth here and there in order to get what you think you want or think you need. However, it’s surprising how chipping away at the edges of your truth can break the structural integrity of your life as a whole. Join the Kanes and discover how being honest with yourself can restore your integrity and well being – in an instant.

Listen Live this Wednesday, July 13th at 9am PST / 12pm EST on the VoiceAmerica 7th Wave Channel.

After this Wednesday, you can stream or download this episode and over 400 episodes on a wide variety of topics from our archives here.

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The Gift of Choice

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With the on-air Be the Star You Are!® youth reporters.

The Gift of Choice
Every week, Express Yourself!™ will bring you a stimulating program based on a chapter from our award winning book Be the Star You Are!® for Teens.

Gone Too Far-Natalie Richards
Life is about choices. We can choose to be happy, we can choose to be sad. We have the power. Host Henna Hundal examines the benefits of choosing a life of integrity, honesty, bravery, and empowerment, while inspiring others to do the same. Henna interviews two thrilling authors, Natalie Richards and Anita Telle.
Natalie is the author of the YALSA Teens’ Top Ten nominated psychological thriller, Six Months Later, and the newest thriller Gone Too Far. She discusses the choices she has made to live her passion as a writer and she encourages youth to go for their dreams.
Anita Telle has a mission: To teach acceptance and love to children ages 4 – 9 so they will grow up to be amazing, supportive and loving teenagers, immune to peer pressure and bullying.
Her recent book “The Ultimate Anti-Bullying Solutions Guide: The Sure fire way to STOP Bullying NOW!” is a handbook for people who want to choose a positive solution.

Choice is a gift. Choose Wisely!

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Natalie Richards
Natalie Richards
Born and raised in Central Ohio, Natalie D. Richards is the author of the YALSA Teens’ Top Ten nominated psychological thriller, Six Months Later.  Publisher’s Weekly calls her newest thriller, Gone Too Far, ‘…a gripping whodunit with a challenging ethical dilemma at its center.’  With a career history in technical, legal, and business writing, Richards turned to fiction in her late twenties and hasn’t looked back.  A champion of aspiring authors, Richards regularly presents workshops to schools and writing groups.  When she’s not writing or speaking, you can probably find her wading through the towers of dog-eared paperbacks that have taken over her bedroom.
www.nataliedrichards.com
anita telle
Anita Telle
Anita Telle is an entrepreneur, philanthropist, international award winning author, speaker and renowned children’s champion. She has a mission: to teach acceptance and love to children ages 4 – 9 so they will grow up to be amazing, supportive and loving teenagers, immune to peer pressure and bullying. She grew up in Norway, where storytelling is part of her culture. Drawing on that heritage, Anita started writing books for children with engaging stories.Anita has read her books to more than 1000 children. Inspired by the experiences of children, parents, teachers, and her son, Anita wrote “The Ultimate Anti-Bullying Solutions Guide: The Sure fire way to STOP Bullying NOW!” www.anitatelle.com

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Honesty and Sweet Healing

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Honesty and Sweet Healing

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The Merlin Arthur Legend continues today as we hear about Arthur as a boy and how Merlin taught Arthur the first quality of chivalry, Honor.  We’ll be talking more about honor and honesty with ourselves, specifically around the topic of sugar. Our guest today is Ame Wauters, a Certified Holistic Health Coach and author of ‘Sweet Healing: Free Your Body from Sugar Cravings and Nourish Yourself with Divine Dessert,’ where you will understand more about the toxic tyranny of sugar and how to reclaim your power and motivation by nurturing yourself. In Our ‘Brain Tip of the Week’ you’ll go on a guided visualization to meet the three faces of your ‘Inner Parent: the Critical Parent, the Indulgent Parent and the Nurturing Parent, to reveal some of your foes and reclaim connection to one of your visionary allies. Go to VoiceAmerica 7th Wave Channel and hear  ‘Legendary Leaders: Answering the Higher Calling‘ Radio Show this Tuesday 3/24/15 at 1:00 pm PST, 4:00 pm EST.

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InsideOut Forum Discussion Call: Do You Rush to Judgment? Why and How to Stop It?

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InsideOut Forum Discussion Call: Do You Rush to Judgment? Why and How to Stop It?

rushing to judgment

On today’s InsideOut Forum Discussion Call, we continued the conversation about whether we rush to judgment and why and how we can stop it. Every single person admitted that they do, indeed, rush to judgment. This seems to be a completely universal characteristic that we share. That fact takes away the shame immediately and allowed us to share openly and honestly about this less-than-attractive quality. Smile.

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