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Breaking the Cycle

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Breaking the Cycle


Abuse impacts all of us. Mostly we know about physical and sexual abuse. Although emotional abuse has reached epidemic proportions, most of us have no idea what it is or how to Abuse impacts all of us. Mostly we know about physical and sexual abuse. Although emotional abuse has reached epidemic proportions, most of us have no idea what it is or how to identify it. It’s what I call the Silent Killer. All of the various forms of abuse destroy a person’s self-esteem and health. We all know someone who is in an abusive relationship and that person may even be you. Learn what it is and what you can do to prevent it and to heal from it.

Ways to Clear Fear

Begin by using the following 3 techniques to help clear yourself and the earth of fear and other painful emotions, like anger and sadness. Please do them with me. The first one is an affirmation. “I am love as I am loved; you are love as you are loved; all is love as all is loved.” The second one is a visualization. If you have trouble visualizing, then just think the words in your mind: close your eyes and think or see a beautiful pink heart full of love shining pink light down on you. See and feel the pink light going through your body, down to your feet and into the ground where the pink light is filling and healing all of the fault lines in the earth, the oceans and the atmosphere. The last technique is a chant: om a ha a om am am. Know that as you do these three techniques, you are helping to fill yourself and the earth with pink healing love energy which is balancing all energies and helping to create calm and peace within yourself and the earth.

People who have been abused collect more than the normal number of fears and their response to fear is more intense and pervasive. Many develop strategies to manage their fears and/or to avoid feeling. These strategies can look like mental illness or disorders, but they are really coping devices. I’ve noticed that as my clients remove abuse and abusers from their life, the symptoms diminish until they disappear. These coping mechanisms often develop as a means of avoiding feeling or avoiding facing the reality of their situation. They can include hypochondria, OCD behaviors, paranoia and depression to name a few. I find that my clients don’t need medication. They just need help in understanding what is happening in their lives and then in changing it.

Feeling is Essential

Often a client is concerned that they will be overwhelmed with emotion to the point of not being able to handle it. When we have bottled up our emotions for long periods of time, it is difficult to begin to allow ourselves to feel without getting overtaken with sadness, anger or grief. As Mark Twain said, “The only way around it, is through it.” The pain is eating away below the surface at our physical and mental health. It is hurting us and will continue to do so until we let it surface so we can feel it and let it go. The pain and damage is prolonged when we don’t let it go. The key is to stop hanging on to the harmful emotions. Using color and tone can provide a gentler way of releasing the fear, anger and pain.

The fact is that if we don’t allow ourselves to feel the pain, anger and sadness, it’s going to come out in inappropriate ways. Often the person will have reached their limit and suddenly they explode in anger. Most often the anger is not directed at the person they’re really angry with but rather at someone in the service industry or a child or an employee. We feel frustrated and justified, but really we’re targeting someone who can’t fight back. It’s healthier and wiser to face our feelings and cry when we feel sad or turn our anger into righteous indignation and take action to change our life, the life of others and the world.

Refill with Peace and Love

And as we empty the sadness, anger and pain, are we refilling with gratitude and happiness and peace? I’ve noticed lately that people are often surprised when I thank them for providing help or exceptional service. Even if you’re paying someone or it’s their job to provide a particular service, it doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t say thank you. Showing gratitude and appreciation for service gives people more personal gratification than money. As long as we have enough money to pay for food, shelter and clothing, our emotional satisfaction comes from our personal relationships. Saying thank you provides a good feeling for everyone involved.

Silver Linings

Yesterday, I was making a deposit at an ATM machine when it malfunctioned, kept my checks and provided no receipt or record of the transaction. The bank was closed so no help was available. This was so important that I didn’t want to wait until the morning to take care of it. Since I have a credit card through the bank, I decided to call the credit card phone number and try to get help through them. I was directed to the wrong number and then disconnected twice and, of course, was on hold for long periods of time. Thirty minutes later, when I got someone for the third time, I began by saying how frustrated I was and that I needed her to get me to someone who could help me. And unlike the previous two people, she actually did find the correct phone number for me. When I got through to that person, she was extremely helpful, sincerely concerned about the malfunctioning machine and my troubling experience. With the check numbers that I provided and detailed information about the deposit, she credited my account and assured me that the machine would be fixed. I felt taken care of and grateful and we ended with kind words to each other.

There were many silver linings for me in this experience. Most importantly, I didn’t get angry with anyone. I kept myself calm by reassuring myself that the bank had to have a way of correcting the problem and by saying a prayer asking for help in getting the matter resolved. I took appropriate action in a pretty calm manner, stated my frustration instead of being angry at someone who did not cause the problem. This allowed her to stay calm and find the right phone number for me. When I did get through to the person who could solve the problem, I realized how much I’ve grown in my ability to handle my financial record keeping. I had check numbers, names and amounts, which made the process go smoothly. I was proud of my own growth and healing and truly grateful for the competent people who helped me. This experience would have been fraught with stress, anger and unpleasant interactions a number of months ago. Having allowed myself to let go of the fears, anger and sadness from the past allowed me to be fully present in the moment. The people helping me were just that, people. They weren’t objects standing between me and what I wanted.

Break the Cycle

The concept of empathy has been a recurring theme in our programs. Without it, people are not able to experience the full range of feelings and don’t care if they cause harm to others. An abuser wouldn’t care if he yelled at or was rude to the service people. All that would matter would be venting anger and getting what he needed. Because I do have empathy, had I been rude to the service people, I would have added guilt, shame and more pain to my already overloaded emotions. Breaking the cycle and releasing myself of the past pain has changed my life. If I can do it, so can you.identify it. It’s what I call the Silent Killer. All of the various forms of abuse destroy a person’s self-esteem and health. We all know someone who is in an abusive relationship and that person may even be you. Learn what it is and what you can do to prevent it and to heal from it.


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The Essential Moment: Click!

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Cheryl Esposito welcomes Carl Studna, world-renowned photographer, teacher, and author of CLICK! Choosing Love…One Frame at a Time. Carl’s intimate portraits of influential people ranging from Paul McCartney to His Holiness the Dalai Lama, are published and known worldwide.

Why do photos matter? Carl says they are a “split moment in time” that is forever stilled. His work is to love the moment into being…with patience, compassion, and a way of seeing that allows the moment to reveal itself. People often tell him that they hate having their photo taken – even celebrities whose photos are seen around the world. Carl sees his role as helping them through the door of self-doubt, self-judgment and fear of being seen a certain way. Carl has created the LuminEssence Method©, a transformative process to help people show up in full presence of who they are…in front of the camera and beyond. Join Cheryl Esposito and Carl Studna on ‘Leading Conversations‘, 6/19, at 10am PT to learn to allow your essential self to be revealed…Click!

Stuck in a Relationship Rut?

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Stuck in a Relationship Rut?


For some folks dating feels like a rut. For many relationships, first comes love, then comes marriage (or moving in together), then comes “Oh, it’s you again?” Join Ariel and Shya Kane on this refreshing episode of Being Here and reignite the passion as you discover your ability to relate anew.

Listen Live this Wednesday, June 10th at 9am PST / 12pm EST on the VoiceAmerica 7th Wave Network.

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Take Your Power Back Now – Overcome Fear

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Stuck in an abusive relationship for 8 years with a man who nearly killed her one night in a hotel room, Vanessa Simpkins turned her story of tragedy into triumph with her #1 Best Selling Book “Take Your Power Back Now! How to Overcome Your Resistance to Creating a Life You LOVE! The Ultimate Confidence Guide for Women!” which has been featured on FOX, NBC and CBS morning shows.
Tune in Wed 11am PST on the Empowerment Channel with host April J. Ford on You Are Not Alone – How To Rise Above Life’s Challenges.

Leadership to the Extreme – with Love!

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Cheryl Esposito welcomes Steve Farber, president & founder Extreme Leadership. Best-selling author: Greater Than Yourself: The Ultimate Lesson In Leadership & The Radical Leap: A Personal Lesson in Extreme Leadership.
Steve Farber had to make a change. His successful Wall Street business was killing him – physically & emotionally. Fast-forward to today with a successful business advising leaders on Wall Street & elsewhere, he is a happy, passionate man, loving life. He knew: aligning his values & his work would feed his spirit; loving his work would pay dividends – personally & to the bottom line. Love in leadership? Not always easy. Daily, leaders make changes, empower people, & put themselves on the line resulting in success or failure. You can fear that & not take action, or see fear as a reality in business. Steve says fear would not be worth it without love of the game. Easy to do? You be the judge. Join Cheryl Esposito & Steve Farber for leadership to the extreme – with love! Friday May 8, 2015 10:00 am Pacific Time on Leading Conversation

Being Loved and Knowing It

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The Legendary Leaders Radio Show focuses today on ‘LOVE’. What is it? How do you know when you are loved? How do you know when you are being loving? You’ll learn today what the ‘7 Components of Love’ really are. Then you’ll return to your inner sanctuary and deepen your experience of being loved by your Higher Self. We are opening up the phones lines to take calls where Maria will channel direct answers to your most burning questions from your Higher Self. Listening to these conversations is life changing. Please join us. Tune into ‘Legendary Leaders: Answering the Higher Calling‘ Radio Show this Tuesday at 1:00 pm PST, 4:00 pm EST.

Love, Marilyn Style

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The Investigation Room – Blog:

The Investigation Room is designed to expel fact from fiction and probably theory from outlandish rumor. Each week, if and when one of the guest shares something of use to the Investigation, we will share our finding with you.

FACT – Objective and multiple sources confirm and/or there is tangible evidence to back it up.
PROBABLE THEORY – Subjective; however, most people can understand the line of reasoning.
OUTLANDISH RUMOR – Subjective and is a person’s point of view that no one can substantiate or see as plausible.
THEORY/FACT – We are still working to determine this.

This week’s guest on Goodnight Marilyn Radio included: Holly Beavon, well-known professional Marilyn Monroe impersonator; Douglas Kirkland, who has been named “Photographer of the Year” (PMDA) and “Mentor of the Year” (Fotofusion). Kirkland is also the author of “With Marilyn: An Evening/1961” and famous for his legendary bedroom pictures of the star; Lois Banner, honored professor at University of Southern California and author of many books and scholarly articles on women and gender, including two books on Marilyn. “Marilyn Monroe Personal, A book taken from her file cabinets” and “Marilyn: The Passion and the Paradox.”

OUTLANDISH RUMOR: Recently, 78-year-old retired CIA officer Norman Hodges says he has a series of confessions, one being that he was the responsible for murdering Marilyn Monroe. Darryl Connorton, a CIA officer and member of Goodnight Marilyn’s Investigation Team member is looking into this.

For more information on Holly Beavon please visit www.hollybeavon.com.
What has your experience been as a Marilyn Monroe impersonator?

Holly was discovered in Indianapolis by Bernie Wayne, an American composer and director, who wanted to take her to Vegas to become a Marilyn Monroe impersonator. To Holly, the most rewarding part of being a Marilyn impersonator is having the opportunity to uplift others and instill confidence in fans worldwide.

On the show, Holly stated several reasons why the public loves Marilyn. She was so beautiful, passionate and intelligent. However, Marilyn also was vulnerable to many insecurities and dealt with issues that many can relate to.

For more information on Douglas Kirkland please visit www.douglaskirklandphotography.com.

What were your interactions with Marilyn and what were your impressions of her?
FACT: Marilyn was emotionally unstable at the time of her death and even 9 months prior, as described by Douglas Kirkland.
FACT: The image Marilyn portrays to the public is not actually who she is in reality.
Renowned photographer Douglas Kirkland has worked with celebrities such as Elizabeth Taylor and Judy Garland. He had a photo shoot with Marilyn at her bungalow in Brentwood nine months before she passed away. He described his interactions with her on Goodnight Marilyn.

The first evening, he met her at her bungalow on Doheny Drive to discuss the concept of the photo shoot. There were only two chairs and a bed in her bedroom. To his surprise, she was very modest and humble, unlike the persona she portrays to the public. She appeared more like the girl-next-door rather than a sexy bombshell. It was Marilyn who came up with the vision of the photo shoot: chilled Dom Perignon and Marilyn wearing nothing but white sheets while laying on her bed.

Kirkland came back the second evening to do the actual photo shoot. His interactions with Marilyn were very different than the night prior. Marilyn transformed when she came into the room. She was enticing and sexy, there was electricity in the air – this was the movie star known to the public eye. Kirkland later said that the true power of Marilyn was her ability to live in a sexual framework. Rather than having to instruct her, Kirkland had a natural dialogue with Marilyn. She was no stranger to the camera, she and Kirkland flirted playfully while he took her photographs.

Twelve hours later, Kirkland returned a third time to review the photographs with Marilyn. He rang the doorbell 2-3 times and eventually became worried after not receiving a response of any kind. However, after several minutes of waiting, Marilyn came to the door wearing dark glasses and a scarf over her head. This was a much different side of Marilyn than Kirkland had seen previously. The room even appeared darker than it was before. Kirkland was not sure what had happened to Marilyn, this was neither the quiet girl nor the sexually charged woman he met. According to Kirkland, Marilyn began referring to herself in third person. She spoke about a truck driver, whom she described as a man’s man, and how men like him would love to be with a girl like that in the picture.

After the photo shoot, Kirkland flew to Paris for another assignment. Unfortunately, he learned of Marilyn’s death while abroad. He very much enjoyed the brief interactions he had with Marilyn.

You can purchase the book Marilyn: The Passion and the Paradox by Lois Banner.

How did Marilyn feel about her first husband, James Dougherty?
FACT: Marilyn’s first husband was James Dougherty. They were married from 1942 to 1946.
FACT: Marilyn had a crush on him in high school, he was big man on campus. James (Jim) was captain of football team and student body president. The marriage was suggested to her guardian at the time, but she was not opposed. Her guardian was leaving Los Angeles and Marilyn was underage, her guardian did not know what to do with her. She may have had to go back to the orphanage otherwise.
FACT: Jim was a very nice man, Marilyn was happy to marry him at first and content with being a house wife for a year.  However, the demise of the relationship was the realization that he didn’t have the sensitive side she was looking for. She became lonely and a bit depressed, she was often left at home while he went out with friends. She got a job at an aircraft factory while he was overseas.
How did Marilyn feel about her second husband, Joe DiMaggio?
FACT: Marilyn’s second husband was baseball player Joe DiMaggio. They were married for a year in 1954.
FACT: Joe had many sides to him. He would go from being very nice and loving to overbearing and difficult. He was a Sicilian Italian man, who became a famous athlete at a young age.
FACT: Marilyn and Joe had a very passionate sexual life. She was very attracted to him.
FACT/THEORY: Marilyn man have married Joe because she was having problems in her career and she wanted to be protected by his fame.
FACT/THEORY: She had many affairs while married to Joe DiMaggio.
FACT: Although great as friends, they were quite opposite in their ways. He was neat, she was messy. She was always late, he was timely.  Once married, he felt he possessed her as his wife.
How did Marilyn feel about her third husband, Arthur Miller?
FACT: Marilyn’s third husband was playwright Arthur Miller. They were married from 1956 to 1961.
FACT: Marilyn and Arthur had met in Hollywood a number of years before they were married. He saw her out at a party and was drawn to her charisma. He was married at the time and felt he had to leave Hollywood because he did not want it to turn into an affair. They met again in New York a few years later.
FACT: Marilyn became his student in a sense; he trained her and studied with her. They had a vision that they would control the acting stage together in New York.
FACT/THEORY: Our guest expert Lois strongly believed Marilyn was a party girl. Based on Lois’ research and after speaking to many producers. She believes Marilyn was very sexually free. At the time, party girls were Very high class. They didn’t think of themselves as prostitutes but, would go out with men in Hollywood as demanded by acting studios and sleep with them.
FACT/THEORY: Many say the reason why Marilyn and Arthur divorced was because they could hardly talk to each other, especially after Marilyn’s affair with Yves Montaud, an Italian actor and singer. Marilyn and Arthur fought horribly on the set of the last film they made together. She was angry with him and felt he had taken over her career and used it for his own intentions.
Of all of her husbands, who did Marilyn love the most?
FACT: Marilyn loved Arthur Miller the most, he was the love of her life. Marilyn was very upset when the divorce occurred.
Did Marilyn have plans to remarry Joe DiMaggio after her divorce from Arthur Miller?
FACT: Marilyn did not want to get back together with Joe. There were no records of phone calls between Marilyn and Joe the last month she was alive. She wanted to move to New York and study at the Actor’s Studio.
OUTLANDISH RUMOR: Marilyn and Joe had plans to remarry. They were to be married the day of her funeral.
FACT: Joe was trying to help Marilyn in her last months. Marilyn enjoyed the companionship and friendship of Joe. He was a protector, he was able to get Marilyn out of the mental institution.
Was Marilyn romantically involved with any other men?
FACT: Robert Slatzer was not romantically involved with Marilyn. He knew Marilyn in her early days in Hollywood. Those who were struggling in Hollywood would form friendships. She had many male friends in that period, but she was never married to him.
FACT: Marilyn had a well-publicized affair with Yves Montaud while married to Arthur. Montaud is an Italian actor and singer.
FACT/THEORY: Marilyn was in a relationship with Hal Schaefer, a jazz musician.  People say she should’ve married him.
FACT/THEORY: Marilyn was in love with Fred Karger, a composer and musician. This occurred early in her adult life and he did not want to marry her.

Tap into Your Inner Stillness to Achieve Happiness

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This show will explore tapping into our inner stillness to find a connection with our mind and body, community and nature. By doing so we can achieve a life of peace, love and bliss! I am excited to welcome yogi, surfer and Blissologist, Eoin Finn, to the broadcast! Join us as we discuss the concept behind blissology and how we can cultivate a relationship with our inner stillness to guide us in our relationships and connectedness. There will be a call-in Q&A session where you can ask Eoin or me any questions by calling, 1-888-346-9141, 4/5/15 @ 12pm PT

Love Talk, February Gardening, Art of Having it All

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With Cynthia Brian and Heather Brittany on StarStyle®-Be the Star You Are!® Radio brought to the airwaves under the auspices ofBe the Star You Are!® 501 c3 charity.

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How can you harness Cupid’s arrow to bring more love into your life? Whether it be romantic or familial, we all crave acceptance. In T42 and Health Matters, Heather Brittany and Cynthia Brian investigate the language of love.

One of the most popular ways to show we care is to give those we love flowers. Florists sell more bouquets at Valentine’s than any other time of the year. Depending on what message a person wants to convey, there is a flower and a color that corresponds to the emotion. As we walk the gardens, we’ll discuss floriography.


New York Times Bestselling Author, Creator of the Enlightened Kid Program, Life Coach, Transformational Leader, CEO and founder of Quantum Success Coaching Academy™, Christy Whitman, discusses life, love, and having it all with her newest book, The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance.


Guest Bio: Christy Whitman is a New York Times best-selling author of three books who preaches what she practices. Her forthcoming book, The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance, brings together the most cutting edge and efficient strategies of deliberate manifestation, refined over a decade of coaching others to lead more successful, abundant, and self-expressed lives.

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Love Makes the World Go Round

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When we think of Valentine’s Day, we think of hearts, red roses, cupid, and love. Love is magical, transformational, the essence of life itself. Hosts Henna Hundal and Youngjoo Ahn interview author and astrologer, Jessica Shepherd, about her books “A Love Alchemist’s Notebook: Magical Secrets For Drawing Your True Love Into Your Life” and “Venus Signs”. Jessica advocates thinking bigger when it comes to love and soul mates. Singer/songwriter, Dylan Rouda, releases his new single, Polaroid Picture. Dylan calls his style “East Coast urban rock meets West Coast surf rock”.

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Dylan’s passion is writing lyrics and singing anywhere and everywhere. We get to hear his single, Polaroid Picture” which was recorded after a breakup. At her first year at Smith, Youngjoo talks about living on her own and how her relationship with her family has evolved in her absence. Reconnect with your inner gifts of passion, purpose, and most importantly, love with Express Yourself!™

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Jessica Shepherd is a writer, astrologer and health coach who has studied and practiced modern astrology since 1992. She is the author of A Love Alchemist’s Notebook: Magical Secrets For Drawing Your True Love Into Your Life (Llewellyn, 2010), Karmic Dates and Momentary Mates: The Astrology of the Fifth House (Moonkissd Astrology, 2014) and Venus Signs: Discover Your Erotic Gifts & Secret Desires Through Astrology (Llewellyn, 2015). She publishes an astrology blog Moon Kissed and lives with her husband, stepdaughters, and pets in Fairfax, CA.

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Dylan Rouda taught himself the drums at age six. By eight, he’d moved on to the guitar. At age 10, he wrote his first song. Born and raised in Columbus, Ohio, his voice wasn’t discovered until his first-ever musical theater audition for a citywide performance of Peter Pan drew the attention of the director who declared he had perfect pitch and cast him as John. Since then, Rouda has performed on stage and on television in numerous roles, but at heart, he’s a singer/songwriter. His single, “Polaroid Picture”, depicts the need to hang on to a relationship even after it ran its course. He lives in Laguna Beach, California, where surfing is his passion after music.

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