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Cella’s Chat: Gratitude, Can It Really Change Your Life?

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Do you realize how gratitude can change your life? How does gratitude promote well-being?  I make it a practice to say five things I am grateful for daily.  I never could have imagined this simple habit could change my life as it has, bringing positive results in every way.  Today I sat for a moment and took a walk backward in time, thinking about the beautiful life changes that have taken place.  When I allowed myself to be thankful for the way things were – instead of “wishing” my life away on what I didn’t have, the doors opened up and great things started to manifest.  Examples would be a healthy relationship (marriage), finally quitting a job that was joyless to working and living my passion, inspiring others to heal and live their passion and the list goes on.  Some facts about gratitude are:  gratitude makes you happy.  Yes, a five minute a day gratitude journal can promote happiness and wellbeing – improving your health, relationships, emotions, personality and career.  I mean, winning the lottery sounds great right?  However, because of hedonic adaptation, we quickly get used to the money and stop having as much fun with it as we once did, hence going back to not feeling satisfied and happy.  How about the fact that gratitude generates social capital?  According to an article written by Amit Amin (The 31 Benefits of Gratitude You Didn’t Know About: How Gratitude Can Change Your Life) in two studies with 243 total participants, those who were 10% more grateful than average had 17.5% more social capital.  Gratitude makes us nice, more trusting and social not to mention, more appreciative.  This results in deeper relationships and improved marriages.  Not bad, right? Did you know that gratitude can boost your career?  It makes you a more effective manager, helps you network, increases your decision making abilities, productivity and helps you get mentors and protégés.  So, this results in a greater ability to achieve your career goals and makes the workplace a friendlier atmosphere to be in.  A few other great benefits is that is boosts our emotions, helps develop our personalities, creates optimism and reduces materialism…just to name a few.  Psychological and behavioral research has shown the surprising life improvements that can manifest from the practice of gratitude.  A study was conducted by psychologists Michael McCollough (Southern Methodist University) and Robert Emmons (University of California) on the act of gratitude.  The study broke the group up into three parts – the participants of all three groups were asked to keep a journal.  The first group kept a journal on events that happened during their day – not necessarily good or bad; the 2nd group was asked to record unpleasant experiences; the last was asked to make a list daily of things they were grateful for.  The results of the study showed that daily gratitude expresses results in higher reported levels of alertness, energy, determination and optimism.  Also, the group expressed less stress, anxiety and depression exercised more and achieved more goals they set.  Another study showed that gratitude not only can be deliberately cultivated but can increase levels of well-being and happiness among those who do cultivate it.  You see, when we are grateful for even the hardships we experience, our vibration shifts and the doors open. When you realize their is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.  Lao Tzu.

Meet Marcella Zappia, Writer, Nia Instructor, Ageless Grace Educator and Host of the new and upcoming show Cella’s Chat on the Voiceamerica Health and Wellness Channel Every Thursday at 1 pm Pacific Standard Time. Tune in to this weeks episode Nov. 21st Cella’s Chat: Gratitude, Can It Really Change Your Life?

Also Check out Marcella’s Blogs and her websites, Ageless Grace and Nia Now

Just as a caterpillar sheds its skin and becomes a butterfly, Cella’s life fell apart and she too was reborn. From the outside, life appeared perfect. As is the reality for many women, Cella thought it was her personal obligation to take care of everyone’s needs but her own. That is exactly what she did up until May 13, 2008. She was married to a military man for twenty years who was often absent during that time due to his job. This left her to raise two boys, work full time in the legal field, all while thinking it was perfectly normal to run herself into the ground. Cella’s own battle began as the perfect storm of circumstances came together to initiate her downward spiral into illness and depression. Feeling hopeless that she would never salvage the person she was before, Cella felt her only solution out of the pain was to take her own life. As an attempt survivor, she learned that the greatest resource was the healer within. Now she works with people to help them rekindle their passion for life. As a certified Nia instructor and Ageless Grace educator, Cella is also versed in many healing modalities including Qigong, Tai Chi, nutrition and wellness. Through speaking, writing, and the dance arts, as well as the creation of a woman’s support group, it is Cella’s desire to help others to manifest and transform their lives to find their personal empowerment. A true testament that all things are possible, she is walking her talk while teaching others to do the same.

To dream by night is to escape your life. To dream by day is to make it happen.  ― Stephen Richards

Cella’s Chat: What Does Your Past Reveal? By Marcella Zappia

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Cella’s Chat:  What Does Your Past Reveal? By Marcella Zappia

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I have always felt it was important to leave the past exactly where it should be…in the past.  However, this weekend I came across some long forgotten, but definitely eye-opening, letters and journals I didn’t even remember I had.  As I started to clean out bins of things I could finally let go of, it was like opening a time capsule of information, memories, and feelings. Opening envelopes of letters I had written and then carefully tucked away after the recipient read them (as that person lived in the same house), it finally became evidently clear that my desperation and eventual suicide attempt did not “just happen.”  It was years and years of accumulated behavior patterns and cycles that were never broken until the suppression finally wore me down … the ultimate act of my body and soul telling me … ENOUGH! In order for anyone to truly heal, we need to break through the blockages and cycles that keep repeating. These blockages will continue to surface until dealt with and healed in the proper manner.  Blockages can be such things as unresolved issues, denials, thought patterns, the wounded inner child, beliefs, labels, etc.  When these blockages appear and are not resolved, they eventually show up as illness or disease.  That is what happened in my case.  Slowly but surely my body gave me signs, nudgingly at first, and then glaringly evident and in my face.  I was so caught up in a cycle of taking care of everything and everyone, ignoring symptoms that arose in my body, trying to control all the uncontrollable situations that were arising around me as my household ship was sinking and my other half (at the time) was literally out-to-sea!  As he was working to keep his ship afloat and fight for our Country, I was sinking as I was trying to fight for our family.  I felt extremely alone – like I was in quagmire of quicksand trying to keep my head from going under.  Literally, the feeling was suffocating as my body slowly faded down to nothing without my even noticing.  Comments of “are you ok” became a constant at my job because I was too “busy” to pay attention to my symptoms. The bottom line, I was suppressing emotions and not dealing with them.  Living a cycle of trying to please and be perfect to prove my value and hold up the contract I thought I made with myself which was; I had to be perfect.  If an emotion is not dealt with, it gets stored as a shadow personality and will continue to come out in different ways trying to be heard.  My story and this cycle is not just mine.  This is the story of many young women trying to find their place, trying to prove their worth and be perfect in an imperfect world.  It usually shows up in young relationships where many times one person is trying to keep a relationship going and the unhealthy cycle begins.  A silent crying out of “accept me,” “love me,” “don’t leave me,” “I will do anything” – perpetuating the young love cycle of love/hate, jealousy, brooding and heartbreak. This eventually leads to the emotions of fear, guilt and anxiety because we haven’t developed a toolbox of healthy responses to what our future life will present to us.  The saying “if I knew then what I know now” clearly comes to mind as well as “with experience comes wisdom.”  Now that I am on the other side of these lessons and always continuing to learn, it is hard to watch my children partaking in the same emotional merry-go-round without the foresight to understand that how they react now will mold their future life path.  We do have the power to change our thoughts, learn from our mistakes, heal our lives and find our joy.  As parents we must, with guidance, allow our children to walk their own path so they can acquire their own individual toolbox of skills and responses to navigate their future.  Once we get the lessons, we can focus on the present and allow the past to stay where it is…in the past.   Sometimes it’s the scars that remind you that you survived. Sometimes the scars tell you that you have healed.― Ashley D. Wallis

Marcella Zappia

Upcoming Host of “Cella’s Chat” on Voice America’s Health & Wellness channel Writer, Nia Instructor, Ageless Grace Educator www.voiceamerica.com

Blog:  www.yeslifeisworthliving.blogspot.com www.nianow.com; www.agelessgrace.com

To dream by night is to escape your life. To dream by day is to make it happen.  ― Stephen Richards

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