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Rediscovering the Art of Connection in the Age of Technology

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Rediscovering the Art of Connection in the Age of Technology

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My passion is to help people better their lives by releasing their fears and blossoming into who they are meant to be. In my weekly radio show, Uplift Your Life, Nourishment of the Spirit, I share information and tools to help you make new healthier choices, heal physically, mentally and emotionally and become your authentic self. In my new blog, I’ll help you do this by sharing my tip of the week, a story to help you learn how to find the Silver Lining in every situation and a response from a listener, Marian Stephens, who is using the information in my radio show to change her life. Her first email to me impressed me so much that I invited her to be a regular part of my blog. This was Marian’s heartfelt response: “I have been longing for guidance and direction in life. Your show is powerful and I know there are so many like myself who will listen and change their lives. I feel honored that you want me to be a part of that experience. Thank you so much!” I hope we inspire you to listen to the show, read the blogs and change your life.

 

Dr. Paula’s Tip of the Week

 

This week my guest, Michael Gelb, and I discuss the importance of human connection and how to cultivate open and honest communication channels with family, friends, and co-workers. My tip of the week is a surefire way to begin finding the power of authentic connection.

 

The tip of the week comes from my e-book, 33 Tips for Self-Empowerment, I wrote this book because when you are self-empowered, you are connected to your limitless higher self, your soul, your intuition, your gut feelings, your guidance. Our limitless higher self is the wiser part of ourselves, the part that knows the Truth of who we are. Our logical mind is so loud, however, that it often drowns out the whisper that is trying to guide us on our authentic path. As you learn to listen to the still small voice within, you will begin to feel at peace. Because your limitless higher self has direct access to the Divine, it is through this connection that miracles occur, like unexpected healing, healthy relationships, peace and wealth. This connection gives you an inner foundation of love, which eliminates fear. It is through this love that you can heal the planet and yourself and make the shift into the 4th dimension. Our higher self helps us find safety and even save our own life and others’ lives. We must train ourselves to trust our higher self and never go against it. Don’t talk yourself out of something that feels right to you or let what others say or think influence what you do. Please use these tips. My Tip for this week is in honor of our topic today. If you’re working on releasing your anger, for instance, ask yourself: Is the intensity of my anger diminished? Is the duration of my anger shorter? Is my recovery time faster? Is the amount of time between angry outbursts greater?

 

When you’re changing a behavior, whether it’s adjusting how you use technology, connect with others or let go of destructive habits like anger, blame, shame, judgment, etc., it’s important to notice small changes along the way. Give yourself credit for your progress . . . And celebrate your victories!

 

This is important because our minds tend to focus on what is still missing, what we’re not doing right and how we’re not perfect. This negative energy robs us of the joy of our progress, steals our hope and makes us believe that we’ll never achieve our goals. Monitoring our progress is a powerful way to counteract this tendency. We are in charge of our thoughts and have the ability to kick out the ones that hurt us. Since our thoughts carry a frequency, it is important that we stay as positive as we can. The higher vibration will attract more of the same, which will build our positive energy and create more good things in our personal and professional lives. Whether you are a designated leader or not, your energy affects everyone around you. Make sure that you are spreading positive energy. As we change ourselves, we change everyone who comes in contact with us, even people who just pass us on the street. In this way, each one of us is a leader, a piece of the puzzle, part of the one mind that will help to heal the world and help it become the world we want to live in. What you think, say and do matters.

 

Dr. Paula’s Silver Lining Story

 

Intimate connection with one another is more important than ever. Electronics, social media, texting, google, Wikipedia, and many other Internet spots are luring our attention away from face to face or voice to voice communication. In my story today, I share my own challenges with social media and email.

 

I must admit that I was a little slow getting into cell phone technology. I’m fully in it now, though. Initially, I had to learn to text if I wanted to communicate with my children. Then I added social media for business purposes. It was fine, until one night I noticed that I had gotten a little too far into it. Without wanting to, I was checking my social media every few minutes. That’s when I put the phone out of reach and turned off the alerts. I stopped using social media for a few days to break the pattern that had over-taken me, and I never turned alerts back on. Now I choose when I want to go on social media and I only use it to fulfill my mission of uplifting people’s lives, including my own. I blocked people who were using social media to spread mean spirited posts, I deleted any comments on my posts that were rude or inappropriate, and I encouraged others to do the same. Sometimes I take time off from social media if I’m particularly tired or busy or just not wanting to do it. Other times I spend extra time because I need uplifting and the posts make me laugh or nurture my soul. I don’t follow a time pattern. I follow my internal guidance because it never steers me wrong.

 

Technology is not good or bad. How we use it determines its value, and we all have choices in that regard. Although technology often saves me time, I’m old fashioned about the value of more personal communication. Sometimes, I use text to set a phone appointment, which I consider to be second to face to face communication. But skype or a personal visit isn’t always possible. Emails and text are efficient and helpful at times, but they don’t convey tone or the warmth of a voice or smile and they can be easily misunderstood. I remember having crafted a difficult email to someone with great care only to discover from a third party that the person had completely misinterpreted my message. A phone conversation would have given me the opportunity to pick up on the miscommunication and solve it before it grew.

 

I have learned a lot from people younger than me about the value of technology. I have also learned to be discerning about when I use it and to not throw away what I know about the value of personal connection for healthy communication.

 

Marian Stephen’s Story

 

When I received the following email from Marian, I was so impressed with her self-awareness, openness to change and willingness to take the ideas in my radio show and apply them to her own life that I invited her to do this blog with me. We hope this will help you create the life you want.

 

Today’s show reflected the theme of an ongoing conversation that I have with my new husband, Rob. We have a desire to deepen our connection. We share a very strong connection and I have found that it has led to a greater sense of self awareness and a wish to express myself creatively. What we have been searching for is the language to express what a deep connection looks like and the tools needed to achieve it. I know working with you and your team is going to provide me with the answers I have been seeking. I want to define my spiritual path in order to express myself through the written word and tell the story of my parenting journey. Applying some of the concepts outlined in today’s episode will also help strengthen my relationships with my family – these relationships are the foundation on which I am building the practices needed for the lifestyle I want.

 

Tonight I am going to try the technique you suggested in a previous show of lighting the candles and writing down the questions I have. I know I should trust my intuition, but still disregard that quiet voice that speaks to me despite knowing it is true. My oldest son has special needs and I am struggling with what next steps to take with him. I find myself stuck in a negative thought cycle that has left me feeling unable to act. I’ll get a glimpse of what I need to do, then the ideas become elusive.

 

The question, “How might I respond if I were not taking this personally?” is one that I need to ask myself throughout the day. I have sincere difficulty not being overly sensitive. I find that it impacts my ability to effectively listen to what is even being said. I also find myself defensive which is leading to speaking angrily and shutting down.  I want to communicate in positive ways and practicing asking this will be very helpful.

 

The segment about defining the purpose of goals resonated with me because I think being aware of the purpose will help define the steps needed to achieve the goals. If I am aware of the meaning of the actions, I think I am more likely to put a great deal of effort into working on my goals. Keeping the purpose in the forefront of my mind would help to define and reach various ideals.

 

It does require vulnerability to build an authentic connection which is why I sometimes rely on technology, or distract myself with electronic devices. It can be momentarily more comfortable than being open to having what I perceive to be a difficult conversation. But, it leaves me craving closeness and that sense of connection that makes me feel heard and understood.

 

For More Shows on Connection

 

Listen to the following radio shows:

 

Create Change by Making Compassionate Life Affirming Choices with Stephan Schwartz

Listening With an Open Heart with Stephan Beyer

A Simple Solution for Loneliness with Kira Asatryan

 

 

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Dr. Paula Joyce and Harness Your Creative Power!

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Dr. Paula Joyce and Harness Your Creative Power!

Do you want to access that hidden, CREATIVE POTENTIAL that is ready to be UNLEASHED to the world? If your answer is YES, then join me and 20+ leading creativity experts for a two weeks FREE online summit called Harness Your Creative Power, hosted by the great @Gunhild Lorenzen – Body, Art & Soul. This event has a lot to offer you if you always wanted to do something creative but you never had OR If you are an artist, an author or an entrepreneur looking for a deeper meaning and inspiration.  Here is your link:https://youtu.be/YsRU1Fb2zUA

Dr. Edward Tick, Internationally Known Healer and Writer to Join Dr. Paula Joyce on Uplift Your Life: Nourishment of the Spirit

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Dr. Edward Tick, Internationally Known Healer and Writer to Join Dr. Paula Joyce on Uplift Your Life: Nourishment of the Spirit

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Join us Thursday on Uplift Your Life: Nourishment of the Spirit to learn how veterans and communities can heal and turn pain into strength and wisdom.  Recently I was listening to a news report that about 4% of Drone pilots suffer from PTSD. This seemed to surprise the newscaster since the pilots are not physically on the battlefield. It did not, however, surprise me. These pilots are still responsible for the deaths of fellow human beings. Regardless of the reasons for their actions, the fact remains that the person pulling the trigger or guiding the bomb or drone is still taking a life. They are aware that the person killed was a son or daughter, possibly a sibling or spouse, parent, friend, co-worker, relative, neighbor. Lives are changed because of their actions. Even if their actions were necessary and even if they don’t develop PTSD, the taking of a life affects a person’s mind, heart and soul. The returning warriors may even question themselves as the moral and ethical human beings who they thought they were.

Taking Charge of Your Thoughts

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Taking Charge of Your Thoughts

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My silver lining story this week is about my own journey through releasing negative thoughts and memories. The other night I was doing a 10 minute gratitude meditation, focusing on all of the things in my life that I am grateful for. Suddenly I was interrupted with a visual image of a character in a movie who was emotionally abusive. The image was so strong and persistent that I couldn’t focus on what I wanted to, which was the things that I am grateful for. I realized that this character represented my ex, who had been emotionally abusive to me. What I know now is that abusers drain your energy and your time, making it difficult, if not impossible, for you to accomplish your own goals. I was not going to let this image or any abuser destroy my meditation. So I used the techniques that I’ve shared with you to get rid of this destructive image. I threw the image into a purple flame. It was persistent. So I upped my game. I used the chant we do at the beginning of the show 3 times, om a ha a om am am. Finally, I said thank you several times until the image finally disappeared and I could think about gratitude. I was determined not to let an abuser destroy any more of my energy or my joy in life. I am stronger than any negative thought or memory, and the past will no longer hold power over me.

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The Importance of Empathy

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The Importance of Empathy

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Everyone deserves our empathy, even when, or more accurately, especially when they have harmed us. This is different from forgiveness. Empathy opens up the heart even wider because it is an aspect of love. It allows us to walk in another person’s shoes, to see and feel life from their perspective. It expands our humanity and enriches our life because we are able to give and receive more love. It allows us to heal the wounds that we have suffered at the hands of the wounded people who have been in our lives. As we let go of the pain, anger and negative emotions, we make more room for joy, happiness and love.

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Past Life Group Regression on September 19

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Past Life Group Regression on September 19

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Past lives are often the source of: déjà vu, healthy and unhealthy relationships, special talents and knowledge, fears and phobias and personal challenges. With my process, you will find the root cause, keep the positive and let go of what’s hurting you.  For just $35 you can Join Us Saturday, September 19, 2:00-3:30pm at the Center for Spiritual Living Dallas, TX.

In this workshop you will:
Experience Your Past Lives with Dr. Paula’s Expert Guidance
Learn new techniques to discover past lives on your own
Heal your past, present and future
Connect deeply with your spirit and soul
Understand the reasons for your current life circumstances
Enhance your spiritual well-being
Release the negative influences from your past lives
Gain new self-awareness, empowerment, and peace

Walk the Labyrinth Workshop on August 7 from 7:30-9:00pm Central Standard Time, at the Episcopal Church of the Transfiguration

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Walk the Labyrinth Workshop on August 7 from 7:30-9:00pm Central Standard Time, at the Episcopal Church of the Transfiguration

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The labyrinth is a walking meditation, a path of prayer and an archetypal blueprint where psyche meets Spirit. Unlike a maze where you lose your way, the labyrinth is a spiritual tool that helps you find your way. The sacred geometry built into the labyrinth does the work for you. Release, connect and change with more ease.  For just $35 you can join us Friday, August 7, 7:30-9pm at the Episcopal Church of the Transfiguration in Dallas, TX.

Join Paula for ‘Walk The Labyrinth: A Sacred Experience

Through this experience you will:

Learn about the Labyrinth, Walk it, Integrate What You Gained

Release fears, stress and worry

Quiet your busy mind

Hear the Divine and your Limitless Higher Self

Find your own answers

Open your heart to receiving

Improve your health and well-being

Create more peace, joy and happiness

Breaking the Cycle

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Breaking the Cycle

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Abuse impacts all of us. Mostly we know about physical and sexual abuse. Although emotional abuse has reached epidemic proportions, most of us have no idea what it is or how to Abuse impacts all of us. Mostly we know about physical and sexual abuse. Although emotional abuse has reached epidemic proportions, most of us have no idea what it is or how to identify it. It’s what I call the Silent Killer. All of the various forms of abuse destroy a person’s self-esteem and health. We all know someone who is in an abusive relationship and that person may even be you. Learn what it is and what you can do to prevent it and to heal from it.

Ways to Clear Fear

Begin by using the following 3 techniques to help clear yourself and the earth of fear and other painful emotions, like anger and sadness. Please do them with me. The first one is an affirmation. “I am love as I am loved; you are love as you are loved; all is love as all is loved.” The second one is a visualization. If you have trouble visualizing, then just think the words in your mind: close your eyes and think or see a beautiful pink heart full of love shining pink light down on you. See and feel the pink light going through your body, down to your feet and into the ground where the pink light is filling and healing all of the fault lines in the earth, the oceans and the atmosphere. The last technique is a chant: om a ha a om am am. Know that as you do these three techniques, you are helping to fill yourself and the earth with pink healing love energy which is balancing all energies and helping to create calm and peace within yourself and the earth.

People who have been abused collect more than the normal number of fears and their response to fear is more intense and pervasive. Many develop strategies to manage their fears and/or to avoid feeling. These strategies can look like mental illness or disorders, but they are really coping devices. I’ve noticed that as my clients remove abuse and abusers from their life, the symptoms diminish until they disappear. These coping mechanisms often develop as a means of avoiding feeling or avoiding facing the reality of their situation. They can include hypochondria, OCD behaviors, paranoia and depression to name a few. I find that my clients don’t need medication. They just need help in understanding what is happening in their lives and then in changing it.

Feeling is Essential

Often a client is concerned that they will be overwhelmed with emotion to the point of not being able to handle it. When we have bottled up our emotions for long periods of time, it is difficult to begin to allow ourselves to feel without getting overtaken with sadness, anger or grief. As Mark Twain said, “The only way around it, is through it.” The pain is eating away below the surface at our physical and mental health. It is hurting us and will continue to do so until we let it surface so we can feel it and let it go. The pain and damage is prolonged when we don’t let it go. The key is to stop hanging on to the harmful emotions. Using color and tone can provide a gentler way of releasing the fear, anger and pain.

The fact is that if we don’t allow ourselves to feel the pain, anger and sadness, it’s going to come out in inappropriate ways. Often the person will have reached their limit and suddenly they explode in anger. Most often the anger is not directed at the person they’re really angry with but rather at someone in the service industry or a child or an employee. We feel frustrated and justified, but really we’re targeting someone who can’t fight back. It’s healthier and wiser to face our feelings and cry when we feel sad or turn our anger into righteous indignation and take action to change our life, the life of others and the world.

Refill with Peace and Love

And as we empty the sadness, anger and pain, are we refilling with gratitude and happiness and peace? I’ve noticed lately that people are often surprised when I thank them for providing help or exceptional service. Even if you’re paying someone or it’s their job to provide a particular service, it doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t say thank you. Showing gratitude and appreciation for service gives people more personal gratification than money. As long as we have enough money to pay for food, shelter and clothing, our emotional satisfaction comes from our personal relationships. Saying thank you provides a good feeling for everyone involved.

Silver Linings

Yesterday, I was making a deposit at an ATM machine when it malfunctioned, kept my checks and provided no receipt or record of the transaction. The bank was closed so no help was available. This was so important that I didn’t want to wait until the morning to take care of it. Since I have a credit card through the bank, I decided to call the credit card phone number and try to get help through them. I was directed to the wrong number and then disconnected twice and, of course, was on hold for long periods of time. Thirty minutes later, when I got someone for the third time, I began by saying how frustrated I was and that I needed her to get me to someone who could help me. And unlike the previous two people, she actually did find the correct phone number for me. When I got through to that person, she was extremely helpful, sincerely concerned about the malfunctioning machine and my troubling experience. With the check numbers that I provided and detailed information about the deposit, she credited my account and assured me that the machine would be fixed. I felt taken care of and grateful and we ended with kind words to each other.

There were many silver linings for me in this experience. Most importantly, I didn’t get angry with anyone. I kept myself calm by reassuring myself that the bank had to have a way of correcting the problem and by saying a prayer asking for help in getting the matter resolved. I took appropriate action in a pretty calm manner, stated my frustration instead of being angry at someone who did not cause the problem. This allowed her to stay calm and find the right phone number for me. When I did get through to the person who could solve the problem, I realized how much I’ve grown in my ability to handle my financial record keeping. I had check numbers, names and amounts, which made the process go smoothly. I was proud of my own growth and healing and truly grateful for the competent people who helped me. This experience would have been fraught with stress, anger and unpleasant interactions a number of months ago. Having allowed myself to let go of the fears, anger and sadness from the past allowed me to be fully present in the moment. The people helping me were just that, people. They weren’t objects standing between me and what I wanted.

Break the Cycle

The concept of empathy has been a recurring theme in our programs. Without it, people are not able to experience the full range of feelings and don’t care if they cause harm to others. An abuser wouldn’t care if he yelled at or was rude to the service people. All that would matter would be venting anger and getting what he needed. Because I do have empathy, had I been rude to the service people, I would have added guilt, shame and more pain to my already overloaded emotions. Breaking the cycle and releasing myself of the past pain has changed my life. If I can do it, so can you.identify it. It’s what I call the Silent Killer. All of the various forms of abuse destroy a person’s self-esteem and health. We all know someone who is in an abusive relationship and that person may even be you. Learn what it is and what you can do to prevent it and to heal from it.

 

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Prophecies to Help You Be Prepared and to Heal the Earth

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Prophecies to Help You Be Prepared and to Heal the Earth

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This episode of Uplift Your Life: Nourishment of the Spirit is a perfect example of how we can all find the silver lining in challenging situations. Psychic Dawon shares with us, among other things, some predictions about the natural disasters that seem to be increasing with more earthquakes, tornadoes and flooding being reported almost daily. Our purpose is not to cause fear, but to create awareness and to be realistic. From that perspective, we can be prepared but even more importantly, we can choose to help prevent some of the predictions or to lessen their impact. Hope and positive action is our silver lining, and Dawon tells you exactly what you can do. You need to listen to this on-demand show and share it widely.

Do Less – Achieve More By Dr. Paula Joyce

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Conventional wisdom says that in order to succeed, you must work long hours. The truth is that our left brain, the logical thinking part of our mind, can only function at optimum for one and a half to two hours, and then it needs a break. If you’re one of those people who “chains yourself” to the desk until you get the job done, you’re not using your native resources wisely.

Recently a friend asked me, “What’s the one thing you’ve done this year to create more energy for yourself?” I was surprised to hear myself say: “I allow myself to stop working when I hit that energy wall.” You know what I mean—that point where you have the inner dialogue that goes something like: “I’m tired, but I’m almost finished. I really want to get this done tonight so I can cross it off my ‘To Do’ list. Yes, I’m tired, but I can do it.” Yes you can; you can get that second wind, push through your low energy and get the job done. Then in the morning, you ignore the fact that you’re tired, down your cup or two of coffee and convince yourself that you’re fine.

There is a price to pay, however, and it’s a high one. We can do this every now and then but eventually we deplete our energy. A much more effective strategy is to remind ourselves that almost everything can wait. These days I ask myself: “What will happen if this doesn’t get done today?” The answer is almost always “nothing.” Most deadlines are artificial or of our own making.

I work more efficiently and effectively by taking five to ten minute breaks every one and a half to two hours. Instead of (or in addition to) the standard coffee break, I choose from other options that feed my mind, body and/or spirit, such as:

  • Moving: taking a short walk or doing a few stretches
  • Enjoying natural beauty: taking in the flowers on my desk or outside my window
  • Smiling: looking at photos of my family or remembering something joyful
  • Creating: doodling with crayons, colored markers or colored pens
  • Nourishing my body: snacking on fruit and nuts

Creativity happens when the brain is at rest. Giving yourself some breaks during the day, allows the creative flow to emerge. When you can’t remember a fact, you stop thinking about it and it comes into your mind. This same concept holds true when you are doing a project at work. Give yourself a break and you get the ideas you need.

Yes, this advice flies in the face of everything you’ve been taught. Remember what Einstein said: “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different  results.”  So do something different and look for the spectacular results!

 

 

 

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