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âI donât know if youâre going to win, but I know youâll come out of this a better fighter.â Those were the words of professional boxer Mehdi Abidi to his friend Dan Hayes, just before a Golden Gloves (amateur boxing) tournament. Dan went on to win the tournament and became a top-ranked middleweight boxer representing Trinidad & Tobago.
Unable to participate in the 2016 Olympics in Rio due to a shoulder injury, Dan shares how this remark from Abidi precipitated a turning point in his career.
âMehdi and I encourage each other before a match. I was consistently the favored fighter, and pre-competition Mehdi would say, âYou got this!â So he really opened my perspective when, for the first time, he talked about leading into the fight with the intention to become a better fighter. Donât get me wrong. I want to win, but in my early years as a competitive athlete, I was only focused on winning, (which made me more vulnerable to fear).â
Showing up to win with the intent to grow freed up Dan to give what he refers to as â100% effort, â earning him the nick name âThe Honey Badger,â in recognition of his fearlessness. Dan counts mental fortitude and attitude as two of his strongest suits. He talks about the importance of learning to accept failure, knowing that youâll have the confidence to bounce back.
My conversation with Dan brought to mind the research that guides sports psychologists and coaches in working with athletes. In whichever field you strive to be perform at your best, being aware of the psychological profile and mental skills of successful elite athletes can help you to level up as Dan did.
As presented in the go-to textbook, âApplied Sport Psychology: Personal Growth to Peak Performanceâ (2015), top performing athletes:
â¢ Have high self confidence and expectations of success, with a positive attitude and thoughts about performance;
â¢ Demonstrate the ability to self-regulate their arousal (to be simultaneously energized and relaxed);
â¢ Feel in control and are able to perform with total concentration, focusing on the present task;
â¢ View difficult situations as exciting and challenging, maintaining a productive perfectionism (high standards coupled with the flexibility to learn from mistakes), and a strong determination and commitment.
â¢ Hone these mental skills: goal setting and imagery; developing competitive plans and arousal management techniques; and practicing arousal management, attention control, coping, and refocusing skills so that they become automatic.
Journaling is a core methodology used by athletes to identify the conditions that characterize and facilitate their peak experiences. Itâs through this approach that sports professionals chronicle feelings associated with performing at their best, along with what they learned from these moments. They also track:
â¢ Stressors (on and off the field), manifestations of stress (anxiety, anger, frustration, etc.), and the related impact on their performance;
â¢ What they need from coaches and teammates, and how they can enhance the productivity of these relationships;
â¢ How they can increase their confidence, awareness, and concentration, and what they observe about their performance when they improve in these areas;
â¢ How they can train themselves to relax quickly, tuning into parts of the body that tend to hold more tension than other areas;
â¢ Strategies for focusing, coping in pressure situations, and controlling thoughts (self-talk) and arousal; and
â¢ Mental preparation to get the most out of practice time, including how they can avoid permitting personal challenges to affect their play.
Sports journaling involves assessing the strategies that work, and those that donât, in order to individualize the support systems and resources that offer the most beneficial investment opportunities for the competitor. Learning is as much of a focal point in between practices, as it is during practice and during fight—or game time.
Being led by an intention to grow while showing up to win, as âThe Honey Badgerâ says, requires you to âFail as much as you can. If you give 100%, youâll come out better.â The proof is in his golden gloves.
Hemda Mizrahi is a coach and consultant to high performers like professional athletes, who wish to replicate their peak experiences and continue to serve as role models by exceling as entrepreneurs.
Dan Hayes is currently on his World Championship journey. He fights out of the world famous Wild Card Boxing Club and is launching a boxing fitness and recovery studio in Los Angeles.
Leadership and performance training expert Renita Kalhorn, MBA, joined me on âTurn the Pageâ to discuss âHow to get a Mental Six Pack.â Renita teaches entrepreneur CEOs and their teams, and Navy SEAL candidates the mental toughness skills that are essential to optimal performance under pressure.
After the show, she elaborated on some of the core principles that underlay peak performance strategies, which relate to how we manage our thoughts and emotions. Renita shares:
âWhatever we do now, weâve âtrainedâ ourselves to do through repetition. Changing our behavior takes retraining.â
âEmotions are chemical reactions in our body, so we can become âaddictedâ to stress, anxiety, frustration, and other emotions, just like any chemical substance. We can continue to have the same emotional patterns or reactions, regardless of our circumstances, because we âcraveâ the emotional fix. Even if itâs not pleasant, itâs familiar and it reminds us of our identity.â
âGoing through our day without processing the emotions that come out of our thoughts/interactions with others, will keep us from being present and productive. Itâs like driving with the parking brake on.â
Renita offers strategies through which you can retrain yourself to be more productive:
UNRAVELING FROM THE âADDICTIONâ OF CHRONIC STRESS
âOne client was a rock star in business development, bringing in $25M deals. She had a lot of stress and anxiety around maintaining a high level of performance and it was affecting her health and relationships. No matter what the circumstances were, there was always something to be anxious about: an upcoming negotiation, getting a promotion, getting a bonus, a new deal. She created a strategy to be more mindful (meditation, petting her cat, gratitude journal) and, on particularly stressful days, brought PRESENT MOMENT AWARENESS by simply noticing what she was doing using âI amâ statements: âI am preparing a proposal.â âI am walking to the subway.â
RESPONDING TO CHATTER FROM YOUR âINNER CRITICâ
âBecause our thoughts are so ephemeral and yet feel so real, itâs important to CONCRETIZE them. When clients have lots of chatter from their inner critic in âhigh stakesâ moments, such as important meetings and negotiations, I suggest they give that voice a name, and even find a mascot to represent it, that will help them to take it less seriously. Mine is a pink duck with an afro; one clientâs is a porcelain alligator wearing red high heels. Have conversations with your mascot as if itâs another character – this helps create distance from the critical voice and enables you to see that there are other interpretations of whatâs happening.â
BE MORE VIGILANT
âStart noticing when youâre going around and around in a thought loop or maintaining a negative emotion. Ask: âIs this a good investment of my energy? If I had to pay a $1 for each of these thoughts, would it be worth it?â One person who attended my âmental six packâ presentation said he had a colleague who would periodically email for help in solving essentially the same problem. Each time he got the email, he would be annoyed, but would answer the email without addressing the source of the annoyance. While it would require upfront thinking and energy, a better investment would be to take thirty minutes and have a conversation with the person to get at the essence of the issue: e.g. Does he even realize that heâs asking variations of the same question?!â
MORE ON âHOW TO GET A MENTAL SIX PACKâ
Renita recommends âBreaking the Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create A New Oneâ by Dr. Joe Dispenza
Learn more about Renitaâs leadership and peak performance training by visiting her website, and listen to her âMental Toughness for Mavericksâ podcast featuring Navy SEAL Mark Divine, self-disruption expert Whitney Johnson, and performance psychologist Dr. Sian Beilock.
Access my conversation with Renita, through which she shares THREE STEPS to developing a mental six pack!
How You Can Become a Peak-Performing Person and Leader: Tackling Taboo Realities Like Sexual Violence and Tobacco Use Head-On by Hemda Mizrahi
Leadership and social change experts Peter Prichard and Sarah Beaulieu joined me on âTurn the Pageâ to discuss two taboo topics—tobacco use and sexual violence. In sharing compelling personal stories that galvanized their social change missions, Peter and Sarah demonstrate how truth-telling can empower you to become a peak-performing person and leader who chooses to make a difference
Sarah and Peter extended their information sharing after the show to provide you with additional support and encouragement.
SEXUAL VIOLENCE IS NOT JUST A WOMENâS ISSUE.
Sarah notes, âOne challenge with sexual violence is that many people view it as a âwomenâs issue.â Sexual violence directly impacts about one out of four women AND one out of six men in the United States. You can learn more about the facts surrounding men and sexual violence at: http://theenlivenproject.com/convo-graphic-the-truth-about-men-and-sexual-violence/
OPPORTUNITIES FOR YOU TO CONTRIBUTE TO SOLUTIONS
Sarah is working on a book to help men support survivors of sexual violence in their lives and become stronger champions for sexual violence. If youâd like to contribute your perspective to this book, please complete her menâs survey and invite your colleagues and friends to do the same
She shares a few of the many practical ways that you can support stigmatized issues like sexual violence without re-vamping your companyâs community relations efforts: follow an anti-sexual violence organization on social media; sponsor a table at a fundraising event; or provide skilled volunteer support to group that works directly with survivors.
She also suggests exploring how sexual violence might intersect with issues that you or your employer already support, citing the following examples: âwhile childhood exposure to sexual violence can impact your physical and mental health (http://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/acestudy), few organizations that focus on heart disease, diabetes, or obesity view sexual violence prevention and response as a part of their own work to eliminate these chronic conditions.
Similarly, sexual abuse or assault at home drives many adolescents into the foster care system, or homelessness, which in turn places them at higher risk. Groups committed to ending homelessness for teens ought to consider sexual violence prevention as a part of their strategy. Finally, sexual violence prevention can help to increase rates of high school graduation. According to Americaâs Promise Alliance (http://www.americaspromise.org), students need safe spaces and social supports to learn and thrive. That includes a home and school life free of sexual violence.â
WANT TO TAKE ON TOUGH CHALLENGES? Peter advises:
CREATE A STATEMENT OF PURPOSE THAT WILL DIRECT YOUR LIFE.
âIn my experience as a leadership development consultant and career coach, individuals who create a specific statement about who they are and what they represent are better positioned to tackle taboo realities or other difficult situations that confront them.â He references Stephen Coveyâs best-selling book, âThe 7 Habits of Highly Effective Peopleâ as a valuable resource for creating a personal mission statement (refer to Coveyâs chapter on Habit 2, âBegin with the end in mind.â). In Coveyâs words, hereâs what this declaration can do for you: âOnce you have that sense of mission, you have the essence of your own proactivity. You have the vision and the values, which direct your life. Â You have the basic direction from which you set your long-and short-term goals.â
BUILD RESILIENCY THAT IS GROUNDED IN SELF-AWARENESS.
Peter recommends Dr. Al Siebertâs book, âThe Resiliency Advantage: Master Change, Thrive Under Pressure, and Bounce Back From Setbacks,â and the confidential, free-of-charge, Resiliency Quiz available through Dr. Siebertâs site, www.resiliencycenter.com. The quiz will help you to identify and enhance the behaviors through which you respond to challenges.
ENSURE THAT YOUR AMBITION SERVES YOUR CAUSE & YOUR TEAM.
Referring to a June 2006 Harvard Business Review article entitled âLeadership Run Amok: The Destructive Potential of Overachievers,â Peter cautions: âMany overachievers act in a way that lessens positive feelings in others.â He points to the research of Jim Collins in his monograph âGood to Great and the Social Sectors,â which describes the most effective Level 5 Leaders as âambitious first and foremost for the cause, the movement, the mission, the work—not themselves.â
WHAT SKILLS DO YOU BRING TO THE REALITIES YOU FACE?
Understanding what you have to offer is foundational to leading yourself and others through difficult change initiatives. Peterâs websites offer tools through which you can inventory the range of competencies that will enable you to contribute to a positive result:
www.makebigtobaccounprofitable.com Â AND Â www.workforthecommongood.com.
CREATE A BRAIN-HEALTHY LIFESTYLE PLAN.
Peter identifies Dr. Paul Bendheimâs, book âThe Brain Training Revolution: A Proven Workout for Healthy Brain Functioning,â as a comprehensive, well-researched, and practical guide for accessing your mental capacity to confront challenges. Regardless of the resources you choose to engage, designing a lifestyle that enhances your physical and mental functioning will equip you to contribute to the common good more effectively and over a longer period of time.â
A MESSAGE FROM SARAH ABOUT WHATâS POSSIBLE FOR YOU TOO
âFacing a traumatic experience like sexual violence has taught me about resilience and strength, and enhanced my ability to support others in their leadership pathways.â
Peterâs own mission statement is reflected in two books that heâs written to bring into focus realities surrounding sexual violence and tobacco use amongst teens, and solutions: âDawn of Hopeâ AND âDawn of the Tobacco Wars: The Sequel to Dawn of Hopeâ.
We all have at least one torch to light! Sarah and Peter have inspired me to light mine! How about you? Listen to our conversation and learn more