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Life on the Ledge – It’s a Matter of Perspective

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Life on the Ledge – It’s a Matter of Perspective

Life on the Ledge – It’s a Matter of Perspective

mountain goatAs our flight lifted off from the helicopter terminal near Smithers, British Columbia, I watched the ground recede out the window near my feet. Having called “dibs” I was happily strapped into the co-pilot seat on the left front side of the bird. Shya sat in back with two other passengers who were also en route to the Babine River for a week of steelhead fishing. As suggested by the pilot, we all donned headsets and positioned the microphones close to our mouths so that we could communicate with each other during the twenty-minute flight. The headsets crackled to life, hissing and popping with voice-activated static as I said, “I hope to see some sheep this time.”

This was our third trip to the Babine River and in previous years, others who had made the flight had reported seeing bighorn sheep and other wildlife.

Shya chimed in. “Or moose or a bear.”

“Yes, something.” I replied.

The sky was blue with the wisps of cloud and it was smooth sailing. As we crested the mountains at 6500 feet the pilot spoke up.

“There,” he said as he pointed to a white speck on his right. “It’s a mountain goat.”

As we closed the distance, the nanny goat came into focus and I saw that the animal had been resting, legs folded under her on the edge of the peak. Hearing and seeing us coming she climbed to her feet and surveyed her options – move down the mountain with the somewhat gentle slope at her back or step off the other side, straight down the sheer cliff face. Without hesitation that goat stepped off into thin air, landing on a tiny, and to my eye, imperceptible ledge below her. It was a lazy move, unhurried as if she were stepping off the curb of a sidewalk. I suppose for her it was as normal as it is for me to cross a street.

As we flew on and she became a distant speck once again, my mind danced back to an experience I once had in New York City. Shya and I had been waiting to cross the street in front of Bloomingdale’s on Manhattan’s Upper East Side. While waiting for the light, we stood with our toes dangling off the edge of the curb. It was a comfortable moment and we were at ease in ourselves. And then Shya had a thought and said to me, “Ariel, look down and see our toes.” I did as he suggested, curious but not seeing what in particular he was directing me to look at.

“No big deal right?” he said.

“Yup.” I replied.

“But imagine that we were 10 stories up or perhaps 50. Our legs would be no less capable. We would be no less stable, but we’d likely find it quite frightening. The apparency of danger would stimulate wobbly knees and an adrenaline rush!”

Closing my eyes it wasn’t hard to imagine standing high up over the street with my toes hanging over the edge of a precipitous drop. Of their own volition, my eyes popped open and I looked at Shya with a grin. In an instant I had created a climate of fear and danger where none existed.

Sometimes when I start a project or when I am preparing to do something new and challenging, I have the thought that I am not up to the task, that I don’t know how to do it, that it (whatever it is) will be difficult to do. But I have come to realize that, like that nanny goat, I am built to step off that ledge into the unknown, into what’s next and my footing will be sure – even if I am stepping onto the smallest of ledges. I have come to see that investing in being afraid or seeing myself as capable is all a matter of perspective.

Since 1987, internationally acclaimed authors, seminar leaders, podcast/radio show hosts and business consultants Ariel and Shya Kane have acted as guides, leading people through the swamp of the mind into the clarity and brilliance of the moment. Find out more about the Kanes, their seminars in NYC, Germany and Costa Rica, the Say YES to Your Life! Meetups their work has inspired, their Being Here podcast or join their email newsletter. Also get information about their award-winning books. Their newest book, Being Here…Too, is available on Amazon.comBarnesandNoble.com and everywhere books are sold.

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Does Improving Your Relationship Really Mean Changing Your Partner? By Dr. Suzanne B. Phillips

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Does Improving Your Relationship Really Mean Changing Your Partner? By Dr. Suzanne B. Phillips

When people want to improve their relationship, their first focus is often the changes their partner needs to make.  This blog explores the interesting ways partners see things differently.  Strategies are offered that invite ownership of the wish to change and ways in which changing self often impacts the partner and improves the relationship. Ownership of change can equate to improvement.

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Is It True That God Never Gives Us More Than We Can Handle?

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Is It True That God Never Gives Us More Than We Can Handle?

God never gives us more than we can handle

On today’s InsideOut Forum Discussion Call we took on the age-old platitude that God never gives us more than we can handle. We could all acknowledge that we have known many people, including ourselves for whom this platitude is not true. We could relate to the reality that we all know people who have died or been irreparably damaged by traumas or loss. Why do we say this then? One reason we could see was that saying to ourselves such things as “Only good can come of this,” might help us relax in the moment, but that pretending to be able to handle something that we can’t only sends us into denial. This denial, in turn, causes us to pretend we are okay and NOT to get the help or support that might, in fact, help us to heal and move beyond the pain. Join our online blog conversation and share your perspective!

Does Spirituality Improve Sex? We Think So! with Beth Green

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Does Spirituality Improve Sex? We Think So! with Beth Green

Next week’s episode Nov. 12th, Does Spirituality Improve Sex? We Think So! on InsideOut Tuesday at 3 PM Pacific Time on VoiceAmerica 7th Wave Channel.  Catch this episode and others here: http://www.voiceamerica.com/show/2224/insideout


Religious beliefs, bad personal experiences and ignorance can bring shame and dysfunction into intimate relationships, gay or straight. Spirituality can help us heal by supporting the release of old traumas and deepening our experience of Oneness, intimacy and energetic connection. Let’s discuss how. Hear from Todd and Christine Benton, who have been in a Sex & Spirituality program for many years. Learn about their challenges, as well as their victories over old patterns of alienation and disconnection. Host Beth Green will share as well. Beth has been teaching programs about Sex & Spirituality for over 30 years. And enjoy the unique perspectives of our guest hosts, the guru and Madam Mazurka! Whether you or your partner has a block to sexuality or an obsession with the act itself, this show could offer you both the comfort that you’re not alone and some guidance as to how to overcome the blocks to your own and your partner’s fulfillment. Tune in, email questions or call in live!

Guest Biographies:


Todd Benton

Todd Benton is a website and graphic designer who also advises on technology and relationship marketing. He launched his first client website in 1997 for renowned acrylic furniture designer Charles Hollis Jones. Since then, he has co-created dozens of websites for coaches, consultants, authors, artists and other small business owners. His natural instinct for visual design was cultivated by working with his father, a 4-time academy award nominated set decorator for feature films. Todd also has 20 years of media, marketing and sales experience and a history of obtaining media coverage by major outlets. He holds a bachelor’s degree in radio and television from San Francisco State. In addition to his work with clients, Todd is Executive Director of The Stream, a non-profit organization and spiritual community. Todd lives in Bonsall with his wife Christine and their two young boys. He’s been working from home full time for the past 12 years, sharing in housekeeping and raising his sons.

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Christine Benton

Christine is a public relations professional with a deep love of spirituality. She has been a participant in and promoter of many of the programs of The Stream, a non-profit organization and spiritual community. She credits these workshops and the teachings of Beth Green with helping her to evolve in all of her relationships, at work, in her marriage and in her family. She has been married for 13 years to her husband, Todd, and is the mother of two children. She has also been in the field of PR for 13 years, previously working as a writer and editor in technology and public policy. She was born and raised in San Diego, with a Japanese mother and Caucasian father, and also spent a few years of her youth living in Springfield, Virginia. Many of her early years consisted of struggling to accept her race and understand her identity, though over time through healing work and spiritual practices these distinctions have started to disappear. She is a very astute observer of herself and life.


Step into a world of entertainment and enlightenment, where it’s safe to be real and fun to transform. Join them at InsideOut, where our outsides match our insides, they will question anything and everything, and guests focus less on what they do and more on why they do it. Beth Green comments on life and the news, interviews fascinating guests, channels the hilarious Madam Mazurka and generally turns everything upside down and inside out. An internationally-known intuitive counselor and spiritual teacher for over 30 years, Beth has been using her amazing insight, wisdom, compassion and humor to help us see ourselves more clearly. And beyond that, she offers fresh ideas and approaches for us to change and heal. Tune in. Call in. Trust Beth to apply the same refreshing directness and honesty to everything – you, herself, her guests and the Divine. Expect to laugh, cry and see how alike we really are. Join us Tuesdays at 3 PM Pacific on the VoiceAmerica 7th Wave Channel:


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