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Drama is Optional By Ariel & Shya Kane

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June 21: Drama is Optional You have been pre-programmed to get upset and emotional when things don’t go your way. What if all the drama in your life is of your own making? Challenging situations don’t have to result in suffering but when you say “No!” to how your life is unfolding, you create a life full of pain. Join Ariel and Shya in Being Here and realize that Drama is Optional. Callers welcome at Tel# 1-888-346-9141 Listen Live this Wednesday, June 21st at 9am PST / 12pm EST on the VoiceAmerica Empowerment Channel.

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Oh NO! Here I Go Again! By Ariel & Shya Kane

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Oh NO! Here I Go Again! By Ariel & Shya Kane

June 7: Oh NO! Here I Go Again! It’s natural to think “Oh NO!” when you recognize that you are getting upset. Being upset is not a flaw or failing. However, when you simply see yourself without judgement, upsets can dissolve in an instant. Tune in to this enlightening episode of Being Here and watch those upsets go “Poof!” Callers welcome at Tel# 1-888-346-9141! Listen Live this Wednesday, June 7th at 9am PST / 12pm EST on the VoiceAmerica Empowerment Channel: http://www.transformationmadeeasy.com/being-here-radio-show/ After this Wednesday, you can stream or download this episode and over 500 episodes on a wide variety of topics from our archives here: http://www.transformationmadeeasy.com/being-here-radio-show-archives/ You can also listen to Being Here on the go! Stream or download new and archived episodes to your smart phone or mobile device with these applications:

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Being Stress-Free is Simple By Ariel & Shya Kane

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Being Stress-Free is Simple, an excerpt from Practical Enlightenment
By Ariel & Shya Kane

People are born into cultures that have stress as an expected component to the gestalt of the culture itself, so it is part of their cultural download. While many people do things to reduce stress, such as yoga, meditation or exercise, most of them never stop to take a look at the mechanics of how it is produced. For those who do question what produces stress, the answer they come up with is usually inaccurate as it points to circumstances outside of oneself as the cause.

Experiencing stress in day-to-day life is not caused by circumstances. Stress happens when you say “no” to what is happening in your current circumstances. For instance, if you are in the midst of doing something and the phone rings and you think of it as an interruption or intrusion, you will immediately feel stressed. Stress also comes from the need to be right that things should be different than they are. In the previous example, you are right that the phone shouldn’t be ringing and that the caller is disturbing you. Stress happens when you think the moment isn’t perfect as it is. It happens when you are trying to get somewhere rather than be where you are, as if getting somewhere is better than being here. It happens when you manipulate the circumstances to get what you think you want. Stress also happens when you are not being honest about something – when you are doing things that are outside of your own integrity.

There are three simple ideas that are a great support structure, that allow you to re-center yourself when you find yourself stressed or when life seems to be operating against you. We call them The three Principles of Instantaneous Transformation. Why we call them “instantaneous” is that in the moment you identify where you are without judging yourself, you are already back centered – in an instant. It doesn’t take time. It takes the willingness to discover where you are and how you are being, while giving up being right about what got you there. It takes giving up blaming yourself or others. The three principles are great tools that allow you to regain your equilibrium when you find yourself stressed.
Let’s define these three principles and talk about them in relationship to stress.

The First Principle of Instantaneous Transformation:
What you resist persists and grows stronger.

Resisting a situation is like exercising a muscle because resistance makes a muscle stronger. It also makes unwanted situations, emotions, or conditions stronger. In effect, the act of resisting something keeps it in place. When you resist something you have to push against it. And when you push against it, you get stuck to it so you can’t let it go. Not wanting something to be the way it is, wishing things were different, trying to “get over” something, are all forms of resistance. They are also versions of saying No to the way your life is unfolding.

The Second Principle of Instantaneous Transformation:
No two things can occupy the same you at the same time.

When you are focused on something, everything else falls away. For example, we were once walking down a hill when we came upon a thorny rose bush that extended over the sidewalk. We paid attention as we walked past it so we wouldn’t get snagged. On our return trip up the hill, we noticed that on the road, right in front of that rose bush was a large truck with a horse trailer attached. We hadn’t noticed it on the way down the hill and by the amount of pollen that had gathered on the windshield, it was clear that it had been parked there for some time. Earlier, when we were consumed with the bush, we didn’t see the truck and trailer even though it was so close we could have reached out and touched it. And so it is with stress. Sometimes people are so consumed with stressors, they miss the rest of the world even though it is within reach.

The Third Principle of Instantaneous Transformation:
Anything you allow to be, allows you to be.

Let’s go back to the first principle: Anything you resist persists and grows stronger. If you remove your focus from what you don’t like, don’t want or wish to be different and bring your attention neutrally back to what’s in front of you, in that instant you’re free. Stress-free. Yup, it’s that simple. If you want to be “right” about someone else being “wrong,” then guess what? You get stress, stress and more stress and in truth, you are stressing yourself. Being stress-free is as simple as being where you are without disagreeing with your life circumstances, or saying “no” when life does not meet your preferences.

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Since 1987, internationally acclaimed authors, seminar leaders, radio show hosts and business consultants Ariel and Shya Kane have acted as guides, leading people through the swamp of the mind into the clarity and brilliance of the moment. Find out more about the Kanes, their seminars in NYC, in the UK, Germany and Costa Rica, the Say YES to Your Life! Meetups their work has inspired, their Being Here radio show or join their email newsletter. Also get information about their award-winning books. Their newest book, Practical Enlightenment, is now available on Amazon.com.

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So Much To Do, So Little Time! By Ariel & Shya Kane

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So Much To Do, So Little Time! By Ariel & Shya Kane

So Much To Do, So Little Time!
By Ariel & Shya Kane

We recently received a phone call from one of our clients. She was frantic. She couldn’t get it all done. There were so many deadlines. There was so much to produce, and there was so little time. We had a conversation with her and within 10 minutes, she gave up feeling overwhelmed, had gotten back to work and by the end of the day informed us that all of the things that she thought were impossible to get done in time for the deadlines had been completed impeccably and in fact, she had even accomplished more than she dreamt was possible. So we figured we would share with our readers the basic principles and ideas that will support you in being productive and energized when you find yourself “being overwhelmed.”

When looking at how to be centered and productive in demanding circumstances, our three Principles of Instantaneous Transformation are a perfect framework to discover how to easily accomplish those tasks you are faced with.

Our first principle is: Anything you resist will persist and take longer. So, if there is something in the task in front of you that is either challenging or of a creative nature or you are uncertain how to accomplish it, then the resistance to that task will not allow you to complete it. More about this later.

The second principle is: No two things can occupy the same space at the same time. So, if you are complaining to yourself about having to do a project or task, then in that time that you are complaining about having to do it you cannot be doing the task. Again, no two things can occupy the same space at the same time and if you are complaining, that is what you are doing in that time frame.

When looking at life through the second principle, that no two things can occupy the same space at the same time, it becomes very apparent that you are only capable of doing what you are doing in any given moment. Therefore, if you feel overwhelmed, it is of no benefit to look at everything you have to do and try to figure out how to do it all. What is useful is to pick one item or specific task and do that to the best of your ability. What you will find is that by completing that task, you are energized to take on another piece of the project.

The third principle is: Anything you allow to be the way it is will complete itself or will take pressure off of you. In other words, anything that you allow to be the way it is will allow you to be. So how this applies to being “overwhelmed” is if you just do one piece of the project at a time and not resist the rest of the project that is left to be done, then the pressure of the rest of the project will not impose itself on you.

It has been our experience that if you choose the thing that you are most drawn to do, it is a good starting place. Do the thing that you want to do first. And when you complete that look at your tasks and find the piece that you want to do next and give up the conversation about whether or not you want to do it, at all. The time you spend in that conversation eats your productivity.

It is not about getting it over with. It is about doing complete work because when you do complete work you become energized and feel as if you are accomplishing something. When you are trying to get somewhere, i.e. the “end” of the project, you are locked in the first principle by resisting where you are. And anything you resist persists and takes longer. Here are some tips that our client found very useful in the process of getting her work done. First, we coached her to drop the conversation about whether or not it was possible to get it all done. Worrying about the outcome was simply eating her time and energy. It is akin to driving with one foot on the gas and one foot on the brake. It is not a smooth ride, you get lousy gas mileage and you burn out. Worrying is actually a way to stall or procrastinate rather than being productive.

Making an actual list of all the things that needed to be done took the tasks out of her mental computer and freed her up to devote all of her energy to the task at hand. The list let her relax so she wouldn’t need to worry about forgetting something.

Next, our friend had to be willing to suspend her judgments against herself that she was not already finished with her projects. This is another time-waster. You can either kick yourself for not having gotten things done sooner or you can get to work. Once she started working, she worked with consistency, not judging what piece of the project she was completing but simply completing one thing and then the next and then the next. People often lose a lot of time and energy wondering if it they are doing the “right” project when all of the tasks on the list are to be done. She had to trust herself that she wasn’t just doing the easy parts and then would take a break. She worked with consistency, completing a big or small task in the same rhythm and then moving on to the next thing without self-recrimination for not having it done sooner or without congratulating herself for what she was accomplishing. As a result the job was completed far sooner than she imagined was possible and at the end of the day she felt well and truly satisfied.

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Since 1987, internationally acclaimed authors, seminar leaders, radio show hosts and business consultants Ariel and Shya Kane have acted as guides, leading people through the swamp of the mind into the clarity and brilliance of the moment. Find out more about the Kanes, their seminars in NYC, in the UK, Germany and Costa Rica, the Say YES to Your Life! Meetups their work has inspired, their Being Here radio show or join their email newsletter. Also get information about their award-winning books.  Their newest book, Practical Enlightenment, is now available on Amazon.com.

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Having Work-Life Balance By Ariel & Shya Kane

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March 8: Having Work-Life Balance

What if having work-life balance is not a product of efficiently allotting your time but a natural state that happens when you are skilled at Being Here? Join Ariel and Shya and discover how to truly work when you work, play when you play and enjoy the experience wherever you are.

Listen Live this Wednesday, March 8th at 9am PST / 12pm EST on the VoiceAmerica 7th Wave Channel

After this Wednesday, you can stream or download this episode and over 500 episodes on a wide variety of topics from our archives here.

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Show the Love!, Home Recharge, Success from Stress By Cynthia Brian

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Show the Love!, Home Recharge, Success from Stress By Cynthia Brian

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Lose The Brain Fog By Ariel & Shya Kane

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February 1, 2017: Lose The Brain Fog

Ever get lost in a fog of worry? Worry is something you learned – it is not inevitable. Ready to dispel the fog? Join Ariel & Shya in Being Here and point yourself in the direction of a worry-free life. Callers welcome: 1-866-472-5795

Listen Live this Wednesday, February 1st at 9am PST / 12pm EST on the VoiceAmerica 7th Wave Channel

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